to ask here is dd is clever as no other boards are as busy or quick to reply?

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

I have two dcs, ds is 3 and dd is 21mnths.

Not wanting to sound smug or boasty and so on, just genuinely intreguided really as my eldest was prem and slow to reach milestones, not majorly just a few months out.
Hes always been a typical boy likes his cars, building, painting just what i perceived to be 'normal'?

DD is 21mnths,
she talks in 3-4 word sentences.
seems to understand everything is say, ie, i told dp i felt sick the other day and she came and hugged me and said poorly tummy and rubbed it
has fed herself from cutlery since she was 11mnths old and drank from an open cup around one.

Today she calmly dressed herself, pulled on a vest, then top and then attempted to zip her jacket up, she can do buttons albeit in the wrong holes mostly lol.
She had never tried to do this before she does suddenly did it while i brushed my teeth.

she knows her own routine and tells me its lunch/nap and bedtime.

she doesnt play like most of her peers at toddlers and prefers to 'count' she sayes one twoo tee then just speaks sounds, or do role play dressing up, being mummy, or helping me out, she spent ages the other day weighing pasta.

she just fascinates me how easily she completes tasks i wouldnt imagine a 1yr old need do, is she clever? or does she just have a good memory and mimick what she sees around her? i find myself watching her to see what shell do next.

Yes she is a genius, pop on over to Gifted & Talented!!!!!!!!!!

sorry for the awful typing ive pinched dps iphone and it baffles me

Seriously?

all very normal behaviour for a child that age.
Be proud though she sounds very keen to learn thing.

sorry i don't think she sounds outstandingly different to alot of children that age.

yabu I'm not really sure what you're looking for? You sort of answered your own question I think, might be why you're not getting replies

She's been reading the banned OP threads...

Oh dear, AIBU was NOT a good place to post this.

There will be many unpleasant comments.

Your DD sounds lovely and entirely normal. Enjoy her.

lady, yes serious.

I dont have any friends with children and dont know what is normal, or not and since ds was slower, dd seems fast iyswim, a friend without children calls her a freak and suggested she has problems, so i was asking real mums.

thank you ggirl thats more what i needed to hear

Apart from the talking my nearly 18month old can do everything on your list.

It's normal as far as I'm aware??

Not sure what/why you're asking really but be careful as you will be accused of being both smug AND boasty on AIBU .

She does seem quite advanced but not enormously so. My DS2 could do many of the things you describe at not much older than your DD. She'll be taking many of her cues from her older brother and, unwittingly, you'll have higher expectations of her abilities than you probably did with DC1 and be better at teaching her, just because you know what's coming next.

Nothing to worry about (or get smug and boasty about). She soulds like a lovely little girl

Well you failed - you do sound smug and boasty.
She sounds fairly normal to me, apart from the dressing herself if she can do trousers / socks - that's a bit advanced.

Sounds about right to me. Of course you think she is clever and special, you are her Mum.

she is an UTTER GENIUS

now what

I would be worried if she didn't play as play is very important for learning and development.

I found that my 2nd and 3rd DC picked things up far quicker than my eldest as they copied what he was doing.

She sounds delightful, but a fairly normal 21 month old TBH (apart from the playing!)

she sounds great, just advanced in her motor skills, as DD has problems with those I hope that they don't indicate intelligence.

If your Mum can't ring your trumpet for you who can.

She sounds quite like my ds1 at that age he's 6 now and not particularly advanced in comparison to his peers. Bright and curious but not gifted by any means

DD went straight from goo goo ga ga to "Mummy please can I have some juice - apple juice and water, in the Dora cup with a straw please, not the plain cup" and prefered counting in Spanish to her native English - but she never managed the buttons until she was 2.

Ahem - she does sound like a bright button but it's all very normal for that age IME.

IMO!

she does play normally too, right now shes running up and down the living room pretending to be a dog, apparently, but would rather copy me or count and so on, she craves structured play and demands alot from me whereas ds is happy to set his garage up play cars, make 'tea' etc alone or with dd, he never invites me and dp to play,

im not meaning to be smug at all, just curious as ds is so so different.

She sounds bright to me, however until she starts teaching you Latin verb conjugations at three I would err on the side of above average for now . As another poster said, just enjoy her and be proud of who she is.

I wouldn't say she's particularluy advanced or a prospective child genius from what you've said.

Not sure what you're looking for to be honest?

oh come on your horrible lot.
she is doing very well. Some children can do those things at that age, most can't, particularly the motor skills things.

she sounds empathetic and sweet as well as advanced.

obv being ahead on things that early doesn't always translate into being ahead later. For instance my dd was a very very early talker but struggles with reading.

if you have a child like that the best thing to think is probably 'great, I don't have anything to worry about.' There are no guarantees that she will be clever when she is older but there is probably more chance for a child who can than for a child who can't do those things.

you horrible lot