to ask here is dd is clever as no other boards are as busy or quick to reply?

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

I have two dcs, ds is 3 and dd is 21mnths.

Not wanting to sound smug or boasty and so on, just genuinely intreguided really as my eldest was prem and slow to reach milestones, not majorly just a few months out.
Hes always been a typical boy likes his cars, building, painting just what i perceived to be 'normal'?

DD is 21mnths,
she talks in 3-4 word sentences.
seems to understand everything is say, ie, i told dp i felt sick the other day and she came and hugged me and said poorly tummy and rubbed it
has fed herself from cutlery since she was 11mnths old and drank from an open cup around one.

Today she calmly dressed herself, pulled on a vest, then top and then attempted to zip her jacket up, she can do buttons albeit in the wrong holes mostly lol.
She had never tried to do this before she does suddenly did it while i brushed my teeth.

she knows her own routine and tells me its lunch/nap and bedtime.

she doesnt play like most of her peers at toddlers and prefers to 'count' she sayes one twoo tee then just speaks sounds, or do role play dressing up, being mummy, or helping me out, she spent ages the other day weighing pasta.

she just fascinates me how easily she completes tasks i wouldnt imagine a 1yr old need do, is she clever? or does she just have a good memory and mimick what she sees around her? i find myself watching her to see what shell do next.

She sounds bright and eager to learn which is always a good thing. My daughter was basically the same as yours from around that age if not before except she's very sociable and will play with anyone.

I've been told by several people she's very bright for her age which I'm pleased about as I always struggled when I was little and didn't want the same for her.

Yes, she sounds bright and it must be a relief after agonizing over your son, as you probably did. Enjoy her.

Motor skills seem advanced to me, dressing yourself before 2 is pretty cool. The rest seems not out of normal range (and boy is it a big range) for a child of that age.

I'm sure it appears more significant if your son was a little slower than average to meet milestones.

Relax and Enjoy

Agree with Sethstrkaddersmum

she sounds advanced with the dressing herself but the talking thing is the same as both my DD's ...but my elder was terrible with motor skills and even faster with talking...shewalked at 10 months spoke in complete sentences at 17 months....first words at 10 months...but she could not dress herself till' 4!

Now at 6 DD has levelled out and is ahead in reading and verbal skills but average in everything else.

Take yours to Tumble Tots or similar. She might like the physical play.

She sounds lovely. My DS is the same, understands everything, is grasping the concept of time, is empathetic, can distinguish between boys/girls, concentrates for 20 mins plus, enjoys structured play. He is 20m. I doubt he is advanced or will be off to Oxbridge any time soon, but it is nice to know that he is hitting his milestones.

Just keep doing what you are doing and let her progress at her own pace.

The things you mention do sound in the normal to advanced range IMO.

However, IME children can be advanced in some areas, and not so much in others.

For example, DD was speaking in two or three word 'sentences' by 18mo, whereas DS is 18mo and almost mute!(can say about 3 words, just!).

However,until she was about 2yo DD never tried to climb anything (the stairs, slide steps, even onto the sofa etc) and would only go up stairs if I held her hand until probably 2.5yo+. DS on the other hand has been scaling the stairs, ladders (eek!), chairs, tables etc since about 12mo.

I agree she sounds normal but some of the skills are possibly advanced for a 21 month old.

PMSL at native speaking foreign counters. My DS and I lived abroad until he was 22 months - he could speak odd words - not a sentence and certainly could not dress himself let alone do the clothes up He could count to 3 in spanish (his main language at the time) but that was the most he strung together.

I agree it's probably no indication of future cleverness - although she may be a child who picks things up easily. Despite the lack of abilty my DS had compared to your DD at that age he PT from 2nd birthday (his insistence), is above average now in maths, avereage in reading and writing is below average. I suppose the link would be the fact he couldn't dress himself so fine motor skills are not as developed.

I don't think AIBU is a bad place to ask this as if I'd had a DD like yours after my DS then I'd be wondering the same

I think your DD sounds lovely OP. And very clever :) My DD1 was/is much the same, always busy and chattering. Sounds like she is doing very well. My DD loved jigsaws at that age, she would sit for ages and do all her jigsaws over and over :) just an idea if you run out of things to challenge her!

Enjoy your DD! :)

"she does play normally too, right now shes running up and down the living room pretending to be a dog, apparently, but would rather copy me or count and so on, she craves structured play and demands alot from me whereas ds is happy to set his garage up play cars, make 'tea' etc alone or with dd, he never invites me and dp to play"

That is OK then, I misunderstood your OP as meaning that she didn't play.

"im not meaning to be smug at all, just curious as ds is so so different"

They are all different. I have 3 DC and although they are similar in many ways they are also very different. Early ability doesn't always carry through either, the others often catch up. For example of mine he one who talked the latest was the first to learn to read.

Enjoy them while they are little, it goes all too fast.

I puzzled on this overnight - OP why did you feel you needed a 'quick reply' to this post??

Your daughter sounds lovely and very bright and funny. DD is like this too but of course it's 'normal' for us. I feel a little uncomfortable when people gush over her abilities though as so many other posters say, they'll pretty much all even out in the end. It's like if she doesn't turn out to be a rocket scientist these folk will be so disappointed at such a waste as she was 'clearly advanced' at such a young age!! She does keep us on our toes though.

When I mention the things DD does to my Mum she says "oh you were exactly like that at that age too" and I turned our quite brightish but in a very average/unspectacular way. I strongly feel would have done alot better in school with more of a 'nurture' element in my life (ie focused interested parenting) but I was just left to it.

Op.
After DS2 who had severe delay I did findthat DD seemed amazing in comparison.

After having a child with issues , and after a time of anxiety, I found it really hard to adjust to a child functioning within ( broadly) average ranges of development.It seemed amazing, miraculous, how quickly she picked things up after watchingthe slow progress DS2 made.

I suspect you may be experienceing something similar.

Thing is that until you have seen the process stalling a bit it is easy to take for granted how bloody amazing those first few years are.

Well I think she sounds really smart, but I don't have children yet so I don't really know what they're supposed to do at which ages.

I think people have been mean. OP doesn't sound smug!

i havent got regular internet access and on most of the development threads you get one reply and it stays that ways for some time, usually in which ill loose internet for a while and it disapears from active convos and i can never find it again.

i just got fed up of people finding her weird i guess, and phrased my title and op badly in a hurry.

like ive said she seems advanced to me after ds took longer.

thanks for the helpful relpies i did get

OP I think you got away with that one pretty lightly!!!

Your dd sounds like a lovely little girl. I think it's a 2nd child thing. What age gap have you got? There's 20 months between my boys and ds2 is far more advanced than ds1 was because he's seen me teaching ds1 things. ds1 didn't recognise numbers (could count but not read them) until he was over 3, by which time ds2 was 18 months so old enough to learn them too.

I think dressing yourself at nearly two is brilliant! My four year old is bloody awful at it and won't even try to do buttons.

Well my ds was slow crawler walker talker etc,es nearly 5 and has such a brilliant memory,es clever aswell.i worried alot about hes speach,he don't stop now.Dd is 2 cruised furniture at 8m walked at 10m sez chicken,peppa,no,too cold,hot,dog,cat ,up above the world so high etc,i dont think shes anymore clever than ds,just more advanced.After worrying bout ds it's nice that she is

curly, there is almost 16mnths between ds and dd.

Horton, she only does top half and socks, trousers and tights are something shed rather not wear full stop! my sisters 5 and wont attempt dressing herself, and my 3yr old does trousers and shoes but a top means hell be a heap on the floor in seconds.

i guess im just noticing how different they all are, i knew obviously theyre not all identical but the differences in whats classed as normal is big, and thats good and a great relief

My dd is obsessed with getting dressed to,usually its her brothers clothes shes put on and he's shoes

at risk of stereotyping, i think its a girl thing, from the minute dd could move shed spend ages in the hall putting shoes on, first thing on her birthday list is shoes and dressing up stuff.

Sounds like your DD is doing brilliantly. My DD is very similar and I keep being asked if she is 3 or 4 (she's 2) because she is so big and quite bright/articulate. Be a proud mum. I am.

My DS who is three just completed The Times crossword.

Beat that.

I agree that to a certain extent is a gender gap. Having had 2 boys and 2 girls I'd say girls' fine motor skills tend to develop earlier - so dressing, drinking out of a cup and later on writing can come on much sooner.

Your DD sounds lovely ;o)

She certainly seems advanced in some ways but never compare-just enjoy.

Thats not a girl thing at all, all 3 of my boys have been obsessed with shoes at one point or another.

i know that now pisces, im certainly enjoying ds quietly drawing and doing collages alone while dd decides she wants to bake and is attempting to drag me away from mn, christmas cannot come soon enough she is so over all her toys! time for a clear out