to ask here is dd is clever as no other boards are as busy or quick to reply?

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

I have two dcs, ds is 3 and dd is 21mnths.

Not wanting to sound smug or boasty and so on, just genuinely intreguided really as my eldest was prem and slow to reach milestones, not majorly just a few months out.
Hes always been a typical boy likes his cars, building, painting just what i perceived to be 'normal'?

DD is 21mnths,
she talks in 3-4 word sentences.
seems to understand everything is say, ie, i told dp i felt sick the other day and she came and hugged me and said poorly tummy and rubbed it
has fed herself from cutlery since she was 11mnths old and drank from an open cup around one.

Today she calmly dressed herself, pulled on a vest, then top and then attempted to zip her jacket up, she can do buttons albeit in the wrong holes mostly lol.
She had never tried to do this before she does suddenly did it while i brushed my teeth.

she knows her own routine and tells me its lunch/nap and bedtime.

she doesnt play like most of her peers at toddlers and prefers to 'count' she sayes one twoo tee then just speaks sounds, or do role play dressing up, being mummy, or helping me out, she spent ages the other day weighing pasta.

she just fascinates me how easily she completes tasks i wouldnt imagine a 1yr old need do, is she clever? or does she just have a good memory and mimick what she sees around her? i find myself watching her to see what shell do next.

what seth said.

Sounds perfectly normal to me. My DD could do all that at 21 months, plus decided at 22 months that she would not wear nappies and was clean and dry in about three days. But I didn't think her as anything but a typical girl - much quicker to reach milestones than my son who was rather lazy!!

putting your clothes on isn't "bright", it's having good motor skills.

I know people don't like you to mention SN but my DD can't do any of these things at nearly 4 and it doesn't mean she is stupid.

It's like me posting "My DD can't dress herself, is she stupid"?

findingmymojo, thats exactly how my dd is.

ill settle happily with curious, thank you.

i by no means want an advanced child, id have no idea what to do with it.

She sounds a lovely little girl, second children can often feel that little bit more advanced because they have the older sibling to follow and copy which is a great incentive for them

I can do my own buttons up after drinking 1.5 bottles of Sauvignon Blanc.

Am I a geniarse?

Aw, crap, here we go.

Well my oldest 2 DCs are considered quite bright now but none of them could do anything like that at that age. DS1 was still grunting and pointing at 21 months! (All my DCs had speech therapy and neither of the two older ones have good motor skills.)

So if your DD was in our family she would be considered a genius!

She sounds lovely.

Ballonslayer my ds said his first word at 30mnths, and only managed sentences just before 3, so she did come across as a genius to me, can we join your family

And I don't get them in the wrong holes.

It's great when you have had a child who have some issues to have another one who just does things. It makes you realise how hard it was first time round. Enjoy her, she sounds lovely.

yabu

My dd1 was exactly the same. She is in the top 3 of her class now, but is no genius.

She sounds lovely, as others have said, enjoy her

i struggle to get my 4.5 yr old DS2 to dress himself to be honest.

She sounds utterly, brilliantly, wonderfully normal.

In terms of the things you detail (speech, number recognition, manual dexterity, role play etc), there's a massive spectrum of normal at that age. Some children will speak fluently, some in short sentences, some in single words, some not at all. Some will know all numbers, letters, colours etc, some will know a couple ie their name, some won't give a flying fig and remain uninterested until much older. Most of it is just pure party tricks and simple recognition. But some children are more interested than others.

The thing I would enjoy is her empathy. That's lovely and often unexpected in a child of that age. My dd has always been empathetic and it's lovely. Most motor skills and developmental milestones come when they're ready with little advantage to being early on the spectrum but being able to relate to others and empathise with them is such a useful thing.

Op what you have to bear in mind is that different children can do different things at different ages!!

My dd was walking confidently at 10 months. On 14th May when she was 10 months old she was tearing up and down a hospital ward when ds2 had a broken leg. Genius??? Probably .... she's my PTB (perfect third born) .

"I can do my own buttons up after drinking 1.5 bottles of Sauvignon Blanc.

Am I a geniarse?"

Definitely......exceptionally talented lol.

Oh leave the op alone.

I kinda see where she's coming from, all the children in my family have sns and when my neice was born every little thing she did blew me away simply because I hadnt seen it from such a young age before.

I thought she was a farking genius

She isnt obviously, just a normal kid, but to me and my family she was.

Bearing in mind two kids in my family don't speak and my own two didnt even try until they were 4 it's understandable .

Stop being snarky, you lot.

OP
She sounds very sweet and lovely, particularly empathetic. My DS would not rub my tummy, and as how I am feeling and he is 6yo.

Don't listen to your childless friend, she has no idea what is normal. Do you not have anyone aroudn you who has children? Perhaps you should look for a playgroup where you and she could make contact with others.

My DD2 was like your daughter, she's bright in school but nothing very special. My DC3 is 22 months and has one word. I don't think it's a reflection on their intelligence to be honest - they're just developing in different ways, at different speeds.

As a sweeping generalisation, girls are also more advanced at this stage than boys and definitely when it comes to things like getting dressed.

"sorry for the awful typing ive pinched dps iphone and it baffles me"

Ask your DD. Maybe she can show you.

Some really bitchy comments here, Op has explained why she is asking, she has nothing to judge her DD by.
Why be so nasty?

She sounds lovely anyway.

I would not worry about having two children who differ widely in their development; it's what happens to most parents who have more than one. Ds was about 6 before we could have the kind of conversation with him that I was having with dd when she was 2- but there is nothing wrong with either of them.

But she sounds like huge fun and may well turn out to be bright later on as well. Enjoy!

She sounds lovley and bright as a button :)