to have no idea what to do with my baby

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when she's awake?

Would you consider seeing a Homeopath? Could help, less of an issue with a diagnosis . pills etc.

Nothing that life changing is easy...I was lucky I think i was depressed (due to life circs) but I didn't have PND as such (maybe a little) I fell in love with both my children and it helped me through a difficult time..I used to talk to them..almost like mini adults ..no major cooing, but smiles and belly kisses..I was just enamoured at seeing a child/person grow in my presence..but it's not easy and you are not alone...try to see them for what they are new people growing with your influence and love (soppy I know)

My homeopath helped me a great deal as did counselling. It was so nice talk to someone who I knew wouldn't think I was a bad mother! It is so hard talking to people close to you about things like this sometimes.
Have to say when DH does his week of lates I still feel wobbly - oh how I hate the afternoons - even now! That's why I am always trying to arrange things for the afternoons - seems every baby group in the world is against me there

Can I expand on "in for the day".

I love being in for the day. Particularly now that I've got preschoolers/tiny walkers etc. The feeling of getting them out the car and in the house. Turning the TV on for them (which somehow you dont feel so bad about when you've been out doing active things). Settling them down with a drink and some apple while you go upstairs, find a lovely pair of yoga pants or trackies, ugg boots, long hooded cardy, "scruds" I call them. (I know some of you are at Uggs but at least I dont wear them out, they are me house shoes innit).

So you are all warm and comfy, no pinchy shoes or diggy bras. Contact lenses out, glasses on. Eyes all nice and wet again. Annoying hair pulled back. Sounds bad but actually doesn't look as bad as it sounds really.

Creep downstairs. Not wine-o-clock yet so sneak into the lounge where the laptop is, open the lid, click on Mumsnet...

...then it can go one of two ways, they either "let" you, or not. If not, flowchart points to bringing forward wine-o-clock by one hour.

There's nothing like being in for the day.

Well if you'd said your best advice was being drunk in sweat pants we'd have alla greed sooner

Not alla - all agreed

Alibaba - am so glad you said that as DAd3 is dragged around on the other's coat tails all the time, poor mite.

OK....well what type of things do you like to do by yourself? Most things can be done with kids - it's harder but usually doable.