to believe that sex addiction is all just a load of bollocks?

[mrsmindcontrol]

Don't know if anyone saw this interview on This Morning earlier this week.
Woman claims to be a sex addict and has slept with 1000's of men. Is married and her husband is aware of situation; even waiting in wine bars while she takes men home for a shag.

Her 42nd birthday present to herself was to sleep with 42 different men. Including all members of a stag party. At once.

AIBU in thinking this is all just a load of old bollocks? The woman is a slag, plain and simple. Surely if she was addicted to sex, she could just have lots and lots of sex with her husband. Why is there a need to sleep with so many men?

Well, either way you're labelling someone with a derogatory term out of spite. I'm failing to see who she's harming with her behaviour.

mrsmindcontrol to use a derogatory term is to judge and judging is the eighth deadly sin, according to MN.

You fail to see who she is harming? No way is her husband one hundred per cent happy with the set-up. No way were all 42 of that stag party single so I'm sure that there has been some fall-out from her fucking all of them.

"Oh don't be a tit, Tethersend. There is a vast difference between racial slurs and using a derogatory term because of offish behaviour that people actively choose to indulge in."

Arf at 'tit'

Can you not do any better, what with your arsenal of oh-so-un PC edgy insults?

I used the other words as examples of words you cannot say- or rather, you as an individual choose not to say because of the connotations. Can you really not see the relevance?

Use the word by all means, but understand basic semiotics and what it it signifies. And realise that it says much more than 'a woman who has lots of sex'.

"people that choose to have lots of sex."

But if it's an addiction she isn't 'choosing' to have sex is she?

Sometimes I wonder about an addiction and a conscious choice.
Is this something that can be categorised as an addiction.
I am not so sure.

Yes, it says woman or man that chooses to have lots of sex and bugger the consequences.

She IS choosing to have sex. There is no chemical addiction as with drugs/drink that are compelling her to have sex. Fair enough she says she goes into a "kind of depression" of she doesn't get sex with strangers but I get a kind of depression if I don't get a new pair of shoes I can't afford but I don't go out and shoplift them.

Oblomov, look at my posts above. I am trying to find a link to a book called, 'The Diseasing of America'. Everything has to be a disease, partly so it is covered by medical insurance.

To cupcakesandbunting and MN,

There is only 1 human deadly sin from which all others spew forth, and that is Lack of Self Control.

On the other point you make, 'no chemical addiction' are you kidding?

There are a wealth of chemical hormones released during and after sex, even the male ejaculate can have a mood enhancing effect.

If this lady was truly addicted, then it would be perfectly reasonable to assume that her chemical balances may be messed up, and that her husband (through no fault of his own) is just simply not capable of keeping her satisfied on his own.

Extraordinary.

Just watching it - her hitting on Philip Schofield.
Philip lost for words "were they all lined up outside the door" "oh no, they were all in the room" he nearly, nearly, lost it and on her part NO SHAME at all....

"Gosh, you mustn't have been able to walk" "Well, my back was a bit sore yes...." He wasn't talking about your back luv!!!!!

OMFG. How utterly tragic.

Have just been onto the This Morning website to see what you're talking about. Was put off by the link to 'Katie Price's style and beauty tips'.

I shan't bother after all.

"You fail to see who she is harming? No way is her husband one hundred per cent happy with the set-up. No way were all 42 of that stag party single so I'm sure that there has been some fall-out from her fucking all of them."

All of these are assumptions. Every one. Either you're omnipotent or you're making excuses for your own snooty judmentalism.

Hubby says he doesn't mind? He's lying. All 42 were single? Impossible. There simply aren't 42 single men willing to fuck a woman.

Ludicrous.

Well, there is one man guaranteed to NOT be single in a stag party. Technically, 42 men in a party could be single. They probably all weren't though, were they? Doesn't matter that techinically they could have been. I think it's called clutching at straws.

Fiddle, my post was a response to your post re the dr who had his phd re-tracted re addiction. I think this speaks sense.
I am sure there are addictions. But I suspect that too many things are attributed to addiction, when actually it is not.

"Well, there is one man guaranteed to NOT be single in a stag party. Technically, 42 men in a party could be single. They probably all weren't though, were they?"

And there's my point. Neither you nor I know, but only one of us has decided to make their mind up there definitely weren't. That's being judgemental, you see? Not being in possession of the facts? Yes?

She fucked 42 men. She wanted to, they wanted to, the husband said he didn't mind. That's all the facts we have and, from those facts, no one's getting hurt. Choose to disbelieve, elaborate, conjure up scenarios all you like, but it'll be nought but conjecture and you imposing your own fiction and prejudices onto the bones of a story. If that makes you feel superior, well, good luck with that. I'm off for a biscuit.

There is only 1 human deadly sin from which all others spew forth, and that is Lack of Self Control.

That bit is true alright.

Our bodies release endorphins through all kinds of activities, so why don't more people become addicted to these activities? She likes sex, pure and simple. Why doesn't she just admit to that instead of making a mockery of people with real addictions?

So thou shalt not speculate and thou shalt not call naughty names?

Right.

cupcakes, you are making me larf

And to all of the posters saying "well she isn't harming anyone", what would you think if your DDs behaved in this way? Are you telling me that you'd be fine with it?

I am sure there'll be one smart alec who'll say they'll be fine with it so long as she is using fair trade condoms or whatever.

"So thou shalt not speculate and thou shalt not call naughty names?"

You can if you like, it only reflects badly on the person doing it. I look forward to the day you're on here waaaah-ing about someone doing the same to you. xx

She says she met her then husband and didn't sleep with him as it felt 'different',she waited,hardly an addiction then eh.More like she's met a sap who puts up with her nymphomania.

Why get married in the first instance if you can't live without sex with others?

Look, she can shag who she likes. If her H chooses to tolerate it, then fine - for him.
I would hesitate to call her names which are judgmental....... BUT, I'm afraid she's not someone I would choose as a friend because I simply do not have respect for the choices she's making. It's too big a leap for me.

Lots of people work on assumption. It would be naive to say that people only ever work on hard facts. One can assume something and be fairly accurate, you know? I am assuming that out of a party of 42 men not all of them were single but go on, think about it honestly, and the laws of probability will tell you that they weren't all single.