to think this is a bit inappropriate or am I being too PC

[Ladyanonymous]

I hope this post doesn't seem icky I don't mean it to - I would really like to know what other people think.

Have 3 DCs, DS1 13, DD 11, DS2 8.

Have partners 2 DD's staying pretty regularly aged 3 and 5.

Thing is whenever they come their mum sends them with really short nighties and he never makes them wear any knickers and they play really boisterously and completely innocently with my kids for a few hours whole they are all in their night gear, so everything is on view as it were.

AIBU to feel this isn't appropriate esp for my 13 yr old DS? I have suggested to OH that it might be better if they wore some knickers...or am I being overly concerned about something which is just innocent??

I work in CP so don't know if my judgement is somewhat clouded - hence my post...

I don't think they should necessarily use the correct biological terms - all I said was that I think "bits" sounds disparaging, and actually, I have only ever heard it used for a girl's genitals - boys have a universal friendly term for their penis -it's a shame that there isn't a similar word for girls.

i think yanbu op. if it bothers you, you should find a way for them to cover up. it is your house.

i also don't really feel totally comfortable with my dd1 showing off her 'bits' too much, other than around myself or dh. it has nothing to do with cp concerns, or feeling paranoid. it is more that i feel it is better to gradually teach a child what is/is not appropriate around other people, from a young age. to me it is better for them to understand this gradually, than end up at 8 years of age, with no inhibitions at all, suddenly feeling self-conscious or humiliated by other people's reactions. if this is done sensitively and relatively light-heartedly, why should it make them feel ashamed?