to wear a black dress to a wedding?

[LisaD1]

I am a big girl and have had a dress picked out for a wedding tomorrow. I NEVER wear dresses and am suddenly feeling really unsure about the one I had been planning on wearing..

so, is it acceptable to wear a black dress with a lilac shrug/bag/fascinator or a silver pashmina, to a plush wedding?

Or AIBU?

Not sure if it makes a difference but the groom is DH's boss and I've never met the bride.

Thanks.

I love a little black dress and would not think twice about wearing one to a wedding and certainly would not comment if someone wore one to mine.

I always thought you couldn't wear black to a wedding. But there have been people wearing black at all the weddings I've been to recently and I've wished I'd been wearing the nice black dress I really wanted to wear.

@poshsinglemum I think people find wearing white (and I mean all white) is offensive as it either suggests the guest is trying to upstage the bride or is very insensitive and hasn't thought about how it might be interpreted. It's just about respecting whose special day it is I think.

Black is fine if accessorised with light/bright colours.

White's another matter entirely: My in-laws ALL wore some white at our wedding. SIL1 wore a frilly all-white dress , SIL2 and MIL both wore white trousers...

How did it go? :)

i just remembered that my other sister wore a pale sage skirt to my wedding - she'd toldme that she wanted to wear a white blouse and a green skirt, which obviously I said that would be fine - then on the day, she looked in the room where the dress was and started having a panic fit, because her skirt was a very close match in colour to the skirt part of my dress! I laughed at her (as you do) because my skirt part was very obviously a wedding dress shape, whereas her skirt was a linen, straight, calf-length skirt!

a few peopel were worried about wearing green, but the reason I wore green was because it's my favourite colour, and why would i object to people wearing my favourite colour??

my MIL wore black to our wedding!! do you think she was in mourning?

otherwise i think its fine! and the accessories you described sound nice!

I wore black to a summer evening wedding do, and was really nervous about it but really feel too fat to wear anything else - half the women were in black, thankfully.

Wore a lovely black dress with dusky pink and grey/silver accessories to a friends wedding a couple of years. Didn't feel out of place at all and got compliments

black is fine.
Poshsinglemum I completely agree with you.

my sister just got married and i wore a black dress as a bridesmaid!

i ALWAYS wear black to a wedding as i always wear black LOL

I wore black to the last wedding I was at. I wore a bright blue pashmina and blue shoes which brightened it up

I wear black to at least half the weddings I go to. And I don't even bother to brighten it up with colourful accessories.

I'd have no problem if someone wore white to my wedding. It's not like anyone is going to think that person is the bride!

Ahh just realised wedding been and gone - hope it went well

I wore black to my sisters wedding (a summer wedding) and to another wedding where DP was Best Man (a winter wedding).

I wouldn't worry about it. I am sure you'll look fabulous!

I went to a lovely June wedding two years ago in a black tea dress with red butterflies on, I loved it :) my boobs are too big to wear it now even though the rest of me is the same size :(
I remember going to my cousin's christening in around 1993 and I was surprised at how many people were wearing black on such an 'upbeat' occasion.

Thank you all so much for the replies..

Update is, I tried on both dresses and DH loved the original one and that boosted my confidence! I decided to go with it as I had bought it especially for the wedding and had the bag etc to match. Had an amazing time, felt great (helped by a couple of drinks!) and am glad I went with it.

The LBD will have to come out for my birthday next month instead.

There were a couple of women in black (one was pure black/no accessories) that both looked lovely and there was also one in a full length white dress , the bride was so lovely and the day was fab, I honestly don't think she would have batted an eyelid if we had all turned up naked!

Thanks for all the opinions.

I wore a black dress to my cousin's wedding with a cream silk shrug type top. Everyone I spoke to seemed to like it and the Bride commented on how nice the dress was. The Bride looked totally stunning in a strapless gown...random aside!

At my wedding I was slightly miffed that both my MIL and Step MIL chose to wear dark colours and they both looked like funeral goers, but then they were major players at the wedding whereas for my cousin, I was just a normal guest. There were people wearing dark colours/black at my wedding and it didn't bother me, apart from the MIL + Step MIL!!