to wear a black dress to a wedding?

[LisaD1]

I am a big girl and have had a dress picked out for a wedding tomorrow. I NEVER wear dresses and am suddenly feeling really unsure about the one I had been planning on wearing..

so, is it acceptable to wear a black dress with a lilac shrug/bag/fascinator or a silver pashmina, to a plush wedding?

Or AIBU?

Not sure if it makes a difference but the groom is DH's boss and I've never met the bride.

Thanks.

I hate it personally, but I know that lots and lots of people do it nowadays, and in fact IABU so go for it.

I hope you're not BU as I'm also wearing a black dress (with a bit of cream in it) to a wedding tomorrow.

My daughter chose black dresses for her bridesmaids, with burgundy wraps. And she helped me choose my outfit, which was black trousers with a black-and-white tunic top.

Even at my advanced age, I don't think there's anything wrong with wearing a black dress with pretty accessories to a wedding.

YANBU. I wore a black dress to MY wedding, pic on profile :o

Would it be wrong to wear a cream suit with either a dark cream or coloured top?

Sorry just jumping on here as I am witness at my friends wedding next weekend and that is what I planned to wear but now I am worried

Guest wore LBD to my wedding, she looked fine.
My MIL wore a black/cream suit, maybe she was trying to tell me something!

I always wear black dresses to weddings! Its what I feel comfortable in and what I feel I look good in!

Accesorise with a brighter colour, bag, shoes etc, fine!

My bridesmaids wore black dresses at my wedding, it all looked very Hollywood glam

i think you need to ask the bride whether she is ok with, otherwise big NO NO.

some brides might be ok with it, but a lot wouldn't.

Black is just fine for a wedding. Unless it has long draping sleeves and you wear a big hat with a floor length black veil with it.

Bellaby, I think you should ask the bride first, to be safe. I did wear a cream suit to a wedding once, and she (the bride) told me to go ahead with the cream suit. The bride herself was in royal blue.

Should have said "after" the bride told me to go head.

I wore a black dress to friends wedding - pic on profile. I was an usher and she wanted us both in black. Lots of guests also wore black dresses.

I think black is fine, especially with the pretty accessories you described. I have worn black to weddings and guests wore black to my wedding. It never occurred to me that it might be inappropriate... Unless I guess as another poster mentioned the guest turned up completely in black, like mourning attire, perhaps with a black veil as well
I think you'll look lovely. Is the wedding today? I hope you haven't yet or aren't planning on doing a last minute shopping dash, not worth it!!!

Wear what you like, add a bit of colour here and there. You should see the get-ups some wear to weddings, believe me, yours sound sensible!

Black is not a problem I don't think as long as you use some colourful accessories which you are doing :)

But wearing white if you are not the bride, to me is rude and crass.

Hope you have a lovely time :)

I wore black to the last 2 wedding I went to (pg, and wanted flattering mat wear that didn't make me feel too huge for photo's!)

I would say it's fine - accessorise accordingly and all is good. I wore cream shoes and had cream flowers grips for my hair and a lacey necklace. It's very classy :)

Also had black bridesmaids dresses for my own wedding - I had 5 bridesmaids of whom each was a very different size and shape so wanted them to wear something they felt comfy in. They accessorised with matching tartan accessories and all looked stunning and happy with what they were wearing very importantly!!
If you feel confident, you'll look good :)

I wore a black top/skirt with a lovely black and white jacket to a wedding once. The fastening on the jacket broke and because of the design I had to take it off. I looked funerial and the bride was annoyed.

If you do wear the black dress (and tbh I think the bride has a problem if she gets miffed, not you) then accessorise with silver, not lilac. Lovely, elegant, expensive combination.

Black is fine. Cream or white, especially if the bride is wearing white, is a lot more dodgy.

It's far more offensive IMO to turn up looking like you're going clubbing, which I've seen at some weddings - all skintight minidresses with norks out and 6 inch heels and fake tan. V inappropriate.

I'm wearing black to a civil partnership on the weekend. It may not be traditional, but then again neither is two blokes tying the knot!
(I checked it was OK with one of the grooms, who said 'ummm, of course, but you're the fifth guest who's asked me this!').

I have worn black to a wedding and din't give it a second thought. My mum wore black to mine (no ishoos - honest!)

The only colour that I would consider to be off limits is white.

My default wedding gear are my fantasric black linen trousers! I don't care about wearing black to weddings - in fact, at the last one I was at I was leading the prayers in the service and wore black - nae bother.

White, not that would be inappropriate. My MIL often wears white to weddings - not sure why, but she can be inappropriate on many levels!

Black with Silver is elegant and appropriate for a wedding. If you feel confident you will look better than if you wear something you have rushed out a bought in hurry.