To be very upset by friend demanding something back given to me 15 years ago??

[rockinhippy]

I'll try not to ramble, but already feeling ill & now very upset, so excuse me if I do....I would apreciate opinions as to whether or not I am being unreasonable in, a being upset, & b, refusing.

Some 16 odd years ago, probably much more, ........my friend ...(who is one of my DDs 2 GodMums) gave me a vintage astrakan coat, passed to her by her uncle, but not her style at all, but very much mine..........she said at the time something along the lines of "if you change your mind & don't wear it, or want it in future, don't get rid of it, but let me have it back, maybe I'll keep it or pass it on"

Now I love this coat, repaired the lining & keep it for winter going out for special occasions & have looked after it well, so its still in as new condition

the other day I recieved an e-mail, telling me her DD now 17 had been looking through old family photos, & has fell in love with this coat...& wondered if I still had it & was it used..& could she have it back....at first I was confused & thought she meant a 1 she had passed over to my DD....

e-mail yesterday clarified what she meant....so I replied saying, yes, I still love it & wear it with pride & even included a recent photo (we don't live close to each other anymore)

Just now recieved a reply along the lines of....

Sadly DD feels just as strongly about the coat & DD takes precedence over friend, will be popping down to your town next Monday I will collect it then

'It's like The Matrix!'

I thought that as well blu, 'There is no spoon coat, there is no spoon coat'

For all those coming late to the thread and have FF to Last Page: The Story So Far:

OP received a kidney from an aborted, cloned lamb that wasn't a real lamb, but a really good 1950's replica from a friend whose uncle inherited from his dead wife and now needs it back for her own DC.

She loved kidney and paid for regular dialysis.

An airplane crashed above the farm where she kept the sheep that kept the lamb that had the kidney that she really needed.
Friend wanted kidney back for her own DD, who really needed that DNA (cos it was from her family and would save her life and that).

But OP didn't want to give it up cos it was hers and made her look prettier (in a "if I drink the blood from 12yo virgins I will be immortal kind of way), but she didn't know that evil EX had stolen it anyway.
Friend got snotty and said "I need that DNA from that Fake Aborted Lamb Kidney to keep my kid alive". BTW the kid may be a goat or not. Is it?
OP said "but no, like you gave me the kidney for me to fry and eat if I wanted. Fuck off bitch cos I don't like you and nor does my daughter cos you didn't visit us and stuff".
In the meantime, the kidney and sheepskin suffered multiple assaults from PETA, not knowing that it was a cloned fake!

Anyway, OP thinks she got round this by finding a lamb's kidney on Ebay and is going to leave it in a friend's house for her nasty Indian Giving friend to find on Monday.

Tune in for more next week.

This thread has got MUCH better since I last posted on it.

Dione - that is a masterly precis of the thread so far!

YANBU. I'd feel angry and upset in your position. But I'd probably give it back grudgingly to keep the peace, and then break contact with someone who obviously is selfish and unreasonable, and not a good friend. It would be different if you had kept it put away in the attic.

Good point well made salizchap

Oh for goodness sake!!!!! HOW can OP give back a coat she doesn't even have in her possession???? How???

Tell her the coat was nicked years ago, but perhaps she'd like a TKMaxx voucher as a 'sorry I didn't look after your old fake/kidney/coat/plane/sheep' gift.

After 16 years I would be sick of the sight of the bloody coat and would have put it in the charity shop bag years ago!

However, after having possession of the coat all this time I think the law would agree that it is your coat.

If you want it - keep it and tell your friend to fuck off. If you feel you really have to give it back to sustain the friendship put a few holes in it and throw some coffee over it first!

this thread has gone seriously surreal but very funny.

Just in case the op isn't actually a troll and she has posted the truth about the situation (Where TF did the whole "kidney" thing come from??) then her friend is being an utter nutter to want back a coat that has been stolen and should just get off her arse and find her own ebay version - or if she's so technoincompetent, get her 17yo DD to do it if she wants a similar coat so badly!

After all - if the op had to replace the coat, she had to pay for the replacement and therefore it is hers.

I don't think OP has replaced the coat, I think she has just come up with the plan to say she has. Even cheaper to make up the stolen story, which is pretty unlikely at this stage in the game. And find an "exact replica" of a 50s coat? Come on!

OP I was totally on your side to start with, but the weaselly subterfuge isn't good.

Beb Thu 09-Sep-10 14:14:19 is spot on methinks.

LOL @ how surreal this became .......& can't believe its still going on....& sorry can't follow it any more,so many updates since I last looked...I'd be cross eyed

so I can only update & comment on the last couple........ believe me or not, thats your prerogative, & I can understand that probably sounds dodgy as hell......but I've not had the best week healthwise, so probably not made the best of sense anyway.....but YES its true, the coat is a genuinely a replacement, as it was my favourite, & they weren't that hard to find back then

I didn't tell my friend initially...no real reason to...she hadn't mentioned the coat again since it was given to me all those years ago.....& initially she caught me by surprise by coming back after so long demanding it back...but I did own up later...but she's not believing that

but then she's not even believing that her earlier e-mail owns up to her asking if she can have it back, if I still have it & don't use it anymore & yes I have returned it to her

nor is she believing its over 15 years since she gave it to me...she now insists she "loaned" it to me to wear at DD Christening, & that I asked her for it.......DH & a mutual friend both back me on that not being right & that I had it years earlier....even though the coat I wore then, & in the photo her DD has seen thats prompted all this, wasn't actually the coat she gave me at all....& very similar, doubt its exactly the same

I had even considered giving her "my" coat back, just to get her off my back & for the sake of friendship, but as she has suddenly hounded me relentlessly over it, even though she has never mentioned since handing it over all those years ago & completely ignored my asking her not to ring for a few days because I was ill & couldn't talk anyway.

I've basically told her to swivel, I don't need friends like that in my life, feel naturally saddened, but life goes on.

rockinhippy - email her some ebay links to similar coats, if you can find any.

You're not going to give her her fake lamb foetus coat back?!

because i don't believe it's a replacement, either, or that nutter ex has it or that it's fake.

ROCKIN - I have officially lost plot now (and much happier without it } - you said in your last post that she wont acknowledge that she asked for it back etc and that "yes I have returned it to her " ???

Then you go on to say you have even thought of giving her your replacement to keep peace.

How many coats are there in this story - which might explain why Emmerdale had enough fake fur left to make a stuffed copy of the golden retriever in the wreckage. Yes folks we now have a new character in this incredible story.

I am not a techno I'm afraid - absolutely give up on trying to link - but just Google Emmerdale plane crash and there is one video about the making of that episode - shows the real labrador wandering around set - then they carry the stuffed replica on set - I had to go for lie down - hysterical.

Like this story needs another dimension ..?

LOL Suda :) I meant I returned her that particular e-mail

& thanks for clarifying the Emmerdale link...I'm not a soap fan, so I just thought the thread had taken a VERY surreal twist, & someone was on the wacky baccy ...lol

& thanks thumbwitch, I'm pretty sure she's already done that herself & possibly why the sudden urgency to get it back, she always thought it real, & they are apparently now going for big money.......... I really can't see her DD wanting to wear a real 1

though our mutual friend is going to find out for me from directly from the DD if said DD genuinely needs a new Winter coat & her Mum is making her get her own (which he thinks is a big possibility, & could be what this is all about, either that or selling it) & if so I will make her 1 more suited to her than this is, & he can give it to her from him.... I don't need brownie points from the Mum, but DD has always been a sweet kid, so I'm happy to do that for her & no need for her to know its from me ;)

ROCKIN - so sorry I see what you mean now - for a horrible moment I thought there was another coat ! [fear emoticon]. I think what happened was someone said that this thread was getting like Emmerdale and then someone else said about the plane crash episode - then someone brought up the dead sheep in that scene. So it all just went completely random then and I dont even understand my own posts now (sob) so I am going off with these two nice men and getting the help I need. Theyve even brought me a nice coat to wear - not as nice as yours though - its got these really long arms - you could almost tie up at the back .

Oh the stuffed golden retreiver was called Smokey by the way (as was the real one) on Emmerdale. Sorry just thought we should give the characters in this thread names to avoid confuion (ffs did I really just say that).

confusion - even.

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Squever - thank god youre here - trying to tell them about dead sheep with fast setting rigor mortis/dodgy hippy coats/lambs kidneys/smokey the retriever/stuffed smokey the retriever stunt double and the plane crash..you tell them please

Ah well too late - wheeling me down now .

Now theres a good film.. 'One flew over the cuckoos nest' .. not a dead sheep in sight but still very good....nothing whatsoever to do with this thread either ....but wait a minute thats good isnt it ? ....sorry - count your fingers ? Dont you know how ma........

I think you need to have a wee lie down, Suda

PMSL :) :) :)