Judgey Pants Strike Again: Mum ^and^ Dad knocking back wine in Pub with 9 months old asleep in Buggy

[QueenSconetta]

Judgey Pants strike again but both Parents knocking back a bottle+ of wine in the pub and about 8.30 at night with their 9 mo ish old DS asleep in stroller buggy?

Brave... I wouldn't fancy that head at 6am the next morning when he wakes up and wants to play!

I don't know what the fuss is about- I actually parent better when I'm pissed.

I do everything better.

BOF

Zukiecat - you sound like a barrel of laughs. . If you've really NEVER had alcohol, then you've no idea how well the vast majority of people can easily metabolize a social amount.

OP - YABU but then you know that. :)

Pmsl at zukie, think you've joined the wrong forum love.

Gosh what a fuss.everyone's capacity for booze is different. Half a bottle of wine is am appetiteser for me. Not so sure about after this pregnancy tho. 9 months no alcohol ill be a lightweight.

OP, get a life.

We are going to a beer festival next weekend, DS (2) is coming with us. Should be great fun but DS will only be allowed to try the cider as it's made from apples so is healthy.

Zukiecat, it seems like your decision to not drink is more because you don't like alcohol rather than because you think it may compromise your parenting skills!

YABVU.

Seriously! Perspective please. Quiet night out, one bottle of wine, two adults, one sleeping child.

What is your problem?

Dh and I took ds1 (3) and ds2 (9 months) to the pub this afternoon.

I had a half, dh had a pint and ds1 had (oh, I'm so ashamed) a glass of squash and a packet of crisps.

Should we turn ourselves in to SS tomorrow !

YAB a tad U. As long as they weren't driving of course.

hope their nice night wasnt disturbed by your nebbie staring and tutting

The world does not stop because you have a baby, if they were both drunk then I would have called the police, but as they had 2 glasses each I don't think it is a massive problem

Bloody hell phone social services quick my kids are obviously at huge risk. Dh and I regularly polish off a bottle of wine between us either whilst out or at home. Zukie ever heard that moderation is possible and just cause you don't do something doesn't make it wrong;

This is terrible - fancy trying to have a bit of fun as a "couple" once you have a baby. Next thing you know they will be having more "fun" and another baby will be produced for them to occasionally allow to sleep unmolested whilst they try to grab a few minutes to themselves. Call social services now.

OP I think you need to get out more and whilst out concentrate on having fun not making cat's bum faces at other people daring to relax.

Not sure why you feel the need to put your judgey-pants on - surely it is none of your business.

Clearly you are making assumptions about how much they have drunk, over what period of time etc. etc. with no knowledge of the background or circumstances. Maybe the mother will wake up with a hangover.....so what???? Surely that is her problem to deal with and not yours?!?!

If you want to take the moral high-ground, fine....but make sure you've ironed out your own traits & flaws, of which I'm sure you have some, first.

Live and let live, eh .

Runawaywife - would you really call police if they were both a bit drunk?

{remembers never to go out in runawayville}

Everyone seems to think I sat there huffing and sighing and looking down my nose and these people - I didn't. I noticed occasionally through the night what they were doing, got a bit judgey to myself, then carried on with my night, leaving them to carry on with theirs.

When I am aware I am being judgey I make a concious effort to try and not let it show in my face because I would never dare presume to tell someone how to live their life or how to raise their children. Maybe that's two faced but as Clucky said, live and let live, even if what they're doing wouldn't be for me.

I'm far from perfect and I'm sure I do many things people would be judgey about, as is their right if they wish.

I find discussing these, IMO extremely trivial, things on Mumsnet quite enjoyable and don't take them, or myself too seriously, although I maybe bandy about the phrase 'judgey pants' a bit too easily.

Trivial but not quite the 'done thing'in your book though??

Zukiecat, a glass of wine might get your full stops flowing.

oooh...they should be flogged surely?

Maybe Minxie, but my book is my book, and surely I'm entitled to that if I don't force it upon other people, just as the subjects of my original post are entitled to do as they wish, as I have been well and truly told!