Judgey Pants Strike Again: Mum ^and^ Dad knocking back wine in Pub with 9 months old asleep in Buggy

[QueenSconetta]

Judgey Pants strike again but both Parents knocking back a bottle+ of wine in the pub and about 8.30 at night with their 9 mo ish old DS asleep in stroller buggy?

Brave... I wouldn't fancy that head at 6am the next morning when he wakes up and wants to play!

Waves to mumbar

These damn judgey pants are welded to my ass!! Must eat more cake and burst out of them like the incredible hulk!

At home or in the pub- what difference does it make? - you are on a different planet if you think it is unreasonable or unusual for parents to drink 1/2 a bottle of wine each when in charge of a baby.

XP and I had a night at the seaside and on the evening we got both boys, 2 and 8mths, asleep in the buggy and then spent the entire evening in the hotel bar- until 11pm. We chatted to all the other people in the bar and everyone cooed over the sleeping boys. It was a lovely night and I certainly didn't feel judged.

As long as you're not rolling around pissed and the children are happy then there isn't a problem.

I know plently of people who "knock back" loads at home. Of course behond closed doors we can't judge. I don't drink but I don't see the problem in taking a sleeping baby to the pub. They're not the dark smokey places of old are they.
Let's face it when we were kids, our parents went into the pub for hours & we were left outside with a carton of flourescent "drink" a bag of crisps!

Drink lots of water before bed.

Stops you getting a hangover.

Lol PuppyMonkey, thanks for the tip

at Puppy's entirely practical response!

Oh dear. We knocked back a bottle of champagne in the hospital.

YABU. I say this as someone who has been to the pub 7-8 times since our 2 month old was born and shared a bottle of wine with DH/Friends etc.

Baby son has slept happily though on every occasion. It never occurred to me that anyone would think it is a problem!

I wouldnt have judged. We were lushes after our first child was born. It was the only thing that got me through. Mmmm, wine.

Seriously, I judge people who give up any semblance of life once they have children much more harshly.

dolphin13 you must have the same wine glasses as us!!
if they share one bottle between them is fine. they are out of the house and probably enjoying being adults and a couple together

I don't get a headache or any kind of hangover after half a bottle of wine, and I don't know many people who do! And who says he will wake up at 6am - Ds1 frequently didn't rise until 9.30 at that age, and NEVER before 8.

Do it while they are small and portable and happy to sleep in their pushchair, I say!

YABU.

And YABJealous.

Remember the Portland hospital series were they were showig a couple around and explaining that after the birth you are delivered a lovely meal and a wine list

when I were a lass, I remember kids being given coke in their bottles.

My mother was told to do the same for me & also to add sugar to take away the fizz.

Luckily for me, she ignored this advice!

Just out of interest, OP, how was the father of the couple? You said the mother was slightly swaying. But perhaps it was the father's night 'on duty'? Dh and I have the understanding that the person on duty drinks less.
I also agree with PYT about being a little about people who give up their life once they have children. The whole 'sacificing yourself on the altar of motherhood' concept is not actually (IMO) healthy for parents or children.

She came over to speak to you? Is this somebody you know? With friends like these and all that....

YABU and need to mind your own business. Try it - will provide some distraction from polishing your own halo.

You must have had a shit evening if you spent all your time watching them and how many glasses they were knocking back and how many empties were on their table, lol
maybe you need new friends to liven up your evenings out? Where were you, wetherspoons ?

SO in the OP, the couple are simply sitting there drinking a bottle of wine.

Then all of a sudden they are swaying and slurring?

WHy did the mum come and speak to you?

YABU.

Unless both parents were very drunk and therefore unable to take care of the baby.

YABU - they won't be able to do that in 6 months when they have a toddler running everywhere and being a pain in the ass curious and challenging and they have to go to hell on earth a wacky warehouse type affair with a ballpit. So they should enjoy it while they can. I had some lovely restaurant meals and bottles of wine with the baby asleep in the buggy.

'Standard glasses' of 125 ml essentially do not exist any more.

If a pub sells you a glass it will be 175ml, 1/4 of a bottle, or even 250ml, 1/3 of a bottle.

Drink at least a pint of water before bed and take ibuprofen - stops you waking up with a headache.

I go out for lunch with my friends when I can and am going today. I know I will have half a bottle of wine maybe a bit more and both dc will be with me. However I will not even be slightly tipsy let alone swaying and slurring - does that make it any better?

I think it depends on the circumstances and the OP doesn't sound like they were bad ones.

'Remember the Portland hospital series were they were showig a couple around and explaining that after the birth you are delivered a lovely meal and a wine list.'

@LoveBeingonEbay Sounds fantastic! The NHS should consider implementing with a hefty mark-up - could generate some useful revenue. Just in the postnatal ward, maybe not in casualty or mental health units!

TLE - Drinking in the middle of the day and having your children with you!

Have a lovely time

Chippin, yep I will be lol and I was out friday night finally rolling in at 1am having had what is commonly known as a skin full - but then I was up at 7 looking after DS2.