In loathing "pop-ins"?

[Madinitials]

Or even just plain miserable?

I cannot bear it when people pop in on me without calling first, it just pees me off and I have found myself hiding in my own house. I live in a funny little part of my town that no one would really be "passing through" and could legitimately pop in except my parents as they live here too and don't do mobile phones except on long journeys and even then, my mom switches hers off once she has made a call!!

I liked to be warned that someone is coming over so that I can get up/tidy up, I just hate being caught unawares.

Am I the only person who feels like this? Does this make me boring? Should I "fix up" as my sister puts it?

I really bloody hate it. Happens to me all the time.

Makes me grumpy. I would never do it to anyone and wish people would just give me 10 minutes warning to shove things in the dishwasher and take my hair out of the towel turban.

My kids are teenagers and phone up or ask before bringing folk over.

And when do you think it changed Riven?

I always called my friends before, to ask if it was convenient to visit them,when I was a child, in the 90s,and as a teen,late 90s and early 2000s.

I fail to see the problem,and I don't see why not wanting to be at everyones beck and call means that they're anti social.

I hate unexpected visitors, particularly in the evening when I've finally got to sit down with a glass of wine cup of tea, in scruffy pjs with some escapist crap on the telly.

Though as I mentioned earlier I will admit to being a bit anti-social,but it doesn't mean that others who prefer guests to call ahead are also anti-social.

When I am at home, I am at home. When I am out being sociable, I am out being sociable. Never the twain shall meet.

If someone pops round and I appear rude, it's only because I really can't be arsed with being nice to you.

I love people popping in. It's almost as exciting as the postie knocking on the door with an unexpected parcel! I only have a few people who pop in and a few that I would pop in on and they are very good friends who walk in the door, yell hi and switch the kettle on. They're normally greeted with me screaming that I'm just changing a nappy and then when I come out the bathroom I get handed and cup of tea and a chance for a good gossip intellectually stimulating conversation. I'm also one of those very annoying people who always has fresh baked stuff on the go and a tidy kitchen (the rest of the house is a shit heap and if anyone went upstairs I would die).

Hate, Hate, Hate Poppers.

Our last popper encountered DH in the middle of a spring clean. The house was a PIG STY, he was mortified and it was an entirely uncomfortable encounter.

The popper before, decided to pop in to see how our renovations were going. Added to that the washing machine was broken, so I'd been to the wishy washy to do the laundry. The result of which was 9 loads of laundry on the living room floor (I was in the process of sorting it out) as well as a half renovated, completely upside down house.

I was horrified. I just didn't want to let him in but he saw me as he came up the front steps so I couldn't pretend I wasn't home.

Not to poppers:
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Sorry should have read Note to Poppers...

I don't mind as long as it isn't happening all the time and disrupting the things I have to get on with. Several friends who are originally from southern europe or the middle east seem to consider popping in normal behaviour whereas born and bred brits are more uptight about it IME. Anyone else find this?

I like friends in small doses only.

I'd prefer to meet them outside of my home.

You can't exactly throw people out of your home when you've had enough of them.

I love pop-ins. But I'm not English.

I have gotten used to it over the years and quite like it now.

3 of DH's friends pop in at least a couple of times a week but know the house rules (make your own drink and take the mug/glass out before you go, don't leave the loo seat up). He prefers to be in his own home so everyone knows to come here.

I call my friends in advance, even if it's only 15 minutes and they do the same.

My 3 sisters live several hours away so we all do complete surprise visits tagging along with one of the others whenever possible- we never guess, even after all these years

i come from a land of poppers. and popping only works if everyone understands the rules.

1. when everyone is popping in on everyone you realise very quickly that everyone has some kind of mess going on and you simply do not notice it.
2. if a job is being completed you do not stop when someone comes around, they start. you don't go popping if you don't feel like joining in.
3. if you are busy, you just say and they say ' no worries, maybe next time' and go. and you don't have to be busy it is OK to not feel like visitors and say.

because you are all doing it everyone understands.

but here i sometimes feel the need to host or appear like i always have everything together. then popping is just stressfull for everyone and i don't tend to do it here.

And we're Londoners btw.

Lonely here, innit, pastagirl?

I would love it if friends popped it, unfortunately they never do .

yeah snobear but i have slowly started to deveplop a network. When we moved and had a kid, i forgot it takes years to develop those type of friendships. although the end of maternity leave and back to full time work has made it much harder!