To be annoyed with this member of bar staff?

[unfitmother]

I was at a private family function last week. DD was running round shrieking playing nicely outside with the other children, the venue was chosen due to safe outside space.
DD (aged 9) came in crying as she'd fallen over, grazes to knee visable as she was in a dress. The bar staff came running over and was quicker than me, who had been drinking. (DH was there as designated driver/sober parent).
We took DD to the Ladies and I was calmly trying to clean DD's grazes but this bar staff was really pandering to her and getting her more worked up. When I (or rather she) had finnished she picked DD, who's nearly 10, up and carried her back to the bar! I heard DD saying "I want Mum" and kept close.
Barmaid then applied a plaster (I was so pissed off that my first aid kit was in my other bag) and I thanked her whilst thinking she was a loon.
I then saw her giving DD a coke.
On reflection I think she was out of order not just for smothering someone else's child when they were present but many people aren't allowed or can't have fizzy drinks.
AIB ungrateful or was she a loon?

Umm you are being so ungrateful

She was trying to help and perhaps thought in the nicest possible way that she needed to do it as her mummy was pissed

And regarding coke - well she's 9 not 9 months so its not that shocking really.

You're the loon. I'd be pleased if someone was kind to my injured child.

YABU

it depends entirely on how pissed you were. Also bearing in mind how drunk you think you are, and how drunk you seem are two very different things.

I think if you'd clearly been drinking then not a loon. If you were more sober then presumably you'd have been better equipped to take charge?

Could your drinking have affected how you saw the situation and how they did?

I don't see the issue.

YABU.

She was possibly a bit over-attentive.
You, however, sound barking.

I would have thought it was lovely for someone else to be caring like that. What is wrong with coke for a 9 year old? Were you drunk? YABU.

Fairly unanimous then, thanks!
I'd had 3 small glasses of wine but emotions may have also been clouding my judgement, it was a funeral reception.
It just seemed odd, to me, to pick up someone else's large child when the Mum was there but I will accept the vote of the MN jury gracefully.

you were halfcut and waitress sorted your hurt wean.and you are complaining

have a word

you should be sending her some flowers at work and saying thanks for helping.when her ole lush mum was too bevvied to do owt useful

And the problem you have is?

scottishmummy I know IABU can be a bit of a bearpit but that's OTT!
I specifically said I thanked the lady.

and then trotted onto mn to bellyache.behave

Scottish mummy you are so blunt it is great. Are you the same in real life I hope you are!

LOL,are you really James Tiberius Kirk nipples.i hope so

YABU. I'd be delighted that she was so nice. How ungrateful can you be?

Of course you are reasonable.

Who in their right minds would want someone being kind and helpful to an injured child?

Loon.

you were left feeling a bit of a spare part and this woman tended to your child whilst you were half cut a little merry, I have been half cut at a bbq and then realised that I need to take the dc home to bed

Don't worry there are always pretty much nice people about to help assit when you are slightly worse for wear

though I did get a bit piddle once and sobered up smartish when dd fell over and took over n splendid form

Ahhhhh! Here is Scottishmummy to tell it how it is.

YABU ...what Scottishmummy said

not odd to comfort a child?odd to berate someone for doing do

Fucking hell!!
OP says she had 3 glasses of wine not falling over pissed. Someone picks up a 10 year old who says they want her mum?
OP comes back and says OK I was wrong but that's not good enough, what's going on?

Sorry to hear about funeral OP, whose was it?

If OP had just been asking whether it was odd for a stranger to pick up a lrge 10yo, then the reponse would have been different.
It wasnt though, we were asked to decide whether op was ungrateful or bar woman was a loon absed on...well everything the op chose to include.
If the drinking on her part, and everything the barstaff person did apart from the picking up were all irrelevant then unfitmother wouldn't have added them, would she?

It was my Mum's funeral, consequently I'm a bit unhinged at the moment and accept I might not be seeing things clearly at the moment.
I did come back and acknowledge the error of my ways.
Really can't cope with the likes of Scottishmummy at the moment.
Steps away from thread, wishing she'd never started it.