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Paying for other people's holidays

141 replies

woodstonobserver · 26/08/2010 21:22

I was going on holiday next week to a Spain to a villa that sleeps six with my daughter, a girlfriend and her daughter. Girls only, no blokes allowed!

Holiday was all paid for, but due to family difficulties my girlfriend and her daughter pulled out last week.

Phoned up holiday company and was told that it would cost £30 to change the name on the ticket and that extra tickets were £250. Was told it might be more nearer the time.

Didn't want to be by myself with my daughter on holiday so offered "free" tickets to another girlfriend and her daughter. Her daughter then wanted to bring her boyfriend, age 14, and his mum wanted to come along as well.

So suddenly we had six people, two of whom I have only met a couple of times. Told them the holiday company needed passport details before accepting bookings, and that the extra flights would need to be paid for. The boyfriend needed to get a passport. Finally got all the details and phoned holiday company.

They told me it was now £275 to change a name on a ticket and extra flights were now £500. So suddenly it would cost £550 to change 2 names and £1000 to buy two extra tickets, total £1550.

Told the holiday company to forget it and told my friend we had left it too late. I planned to go by myself with my daughter, bit sad I know, but not worth paying those prices.

Since then been subjected to a torrent of abuse to the effect that I had promised them a holiday and that I now had to provide them with said holiday no matter how much it cost.

My reply to my friend was that whilst I might be able to pay for her and daughter, I most certainly was not going to pay for her daughter's boyfriend and his mum!

Major row taking place tonight! Why should I pay for my friend's daughters's boyfriend and his mum?

Why can't his dad pay?

Am I being unreasonable?

Amy xx

OP posts:
Lauriefairycake · 26/08/2010 21:24

yanbu

and they are not your friends Sad

they're a bunch of using fuckers

cornsillky · 26/08/2010 21:25

Cheeky feckers! Shock

TrillianAstra · 26/08/2010 21:25

Promised them a free holiday? They can fuck off.

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 26/08/2010 21:26

Oh my goodness, talk about taking the p*ss, these are no friend of yours.You know that you are not being unreasonable.

Summerbird73 · 26/08/2010 21:27

no no no no no

what a bunch of freeloaders, sorry Amy (that is my younger sisters name BTW so i am already trying to look out for you!) that your holiday is ruined but your 'friends' have shown their true colours here. dont pay for them out of pressure - lose them if at all possible!

TheCrackFox · 26/08/2010 21:28

I wouldn't regard them as friends.

YANBU

Hulababy · 26/08/2010 21:28

YANBU and they are also not friends if they are expecting a free holiday!

Shaz10 · 26/08/2010 21:29

What a bunch of scumbags. At least you found out what horrors they were before paying for them. Or going on holiday with them - imagine how awful that would be! Shock

AnyFucker · 26/08/2010 21:29

tell them to fuck off

and when they get there, to fuck off again

verytellytubby · 26/08/2010 21:30

Fucking free loaders.

I'm free and I'll pay my own way Wink

hairytriangle · 26/08/2010 21:33

YANBU. They are aresholes.

bumpsnowjustplump · 26/08/2010 21:33

I agree tell them to go forth and miltiply.. cheeky beggers.. Do not pay for any of them now and ditch them for good..

WhereYouLeftIt · 26/08/2010 21:34

"My reply to my friend was that whilst I might be able to pay for her and daughter, I most certainly was not going to pay for her daughter's boyfriend and his mum!"

Why would you even have considered paying for anyone other than yourself? As has already been said, this woman is not your friend and they should all just bugger off.

woodstonobserver · 26/08/2010 21:36

I've already paid £275 for the daughter of my friend but I can't afford much more. Now my friend says she has to come back for a work meeting on Thursday and wants an entirely separate flight flying out Saturday returning Thursday. So am I now expected to look after her daughter, age 14, from Thursday to Saturday? How much worse can it get?

OP posts:
Shaz10 · 26/08/2010 21:37

I would change the holiday to somewhere else, just the two of you, leaving the day before. Wink

alicet · 26/08/2010 21:39

You are a mug to have paid the £275 for her daughter - not your responsibility!!! However your call of course...

Your friend is totally taking the p*ss to come home early and leave you with her daughter so I would be telling her in no uncertain terms that this is not an option on YOUR holiday. Unless of course having her dd there will make it easier for you as she will be company for your dd

WhereYouLeftIt · 26/08/2010 21:40

"I've already paid £275 for the daughter of my friend" - honestly, why?

sugarray · 26/08/2010 21:40

YANBU.... Tell them to feck off! They are not your friends. I suspect that you will have a much better time with just you and your ds!

SaggyHairyArse · 26/08/2010 21:40

I would end the argument now by telling her she is no friend and she can get fucked!

Go on your own as now that this has all happened you won't have a great holiday with this hanging in the air.

domeafavour · 26/08/2010 21:40

The offer is no longer open, that's what you say

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 26/08/2010 21:41

Tell them they can't go, the origional person has had a change of plan, then go without them. Change the hotel to a swanky one with a creche, then go and relax.

sugarray · 26/08/2010 21:42

#sorry dd

Morloth · 26/08/2010 21:45

Tell them all to fuck off - these people are not your friends.

What is the price like for cancelling the holiday all together and rebooking something else more suited to just you and DD?

I shall be personally affronted if you give these people any money at all!

Lotkinsgonecurly · 26/08/2010 21:47

Umm, I think you know this friendship is pretty much over. She has completely taken the mickey,
you owe them nothing.

I hope you manage to sort something out holiday wise.

warthog · 26/08/2010 21:48

what a cheek. i would never expect this of a friend. not in a million years.

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