What I don't get, and forgive me I am new both to MN and also to the world of ASD (only being in the assessment process for DS thus far - he is not naughty, but he has poor motor function, EXTREME need for routine, Obsessiveness, social communication issues, sensory issues etc) is why ANYONE without either a child with one of these DX, or a close relative / friend with a child / with the dx OR who worked with such children would have a useful opinion either way.
Not to belittle anyone at all, just that, until I NEEDED to know, I had no reason to know anything much about these things, and wouldn't have presumed to comment.
yes, I read and saw all the sensationalist news reports / docus etc, but I assumed that, whatever I MIGHT think, I didn't actuyally have to live with these things and, if I thught that it seemed like "bad parenting" or "over diagnosis" well, I couldn't know because I only had the sensationalist reports for reference.
NOW I see that such things are far more complex than naughtiness and poor parenting. I also see that the dx process is painfully complicated and difficult, both for parents and children. The whole package of indicators is something I would not wish on anyone, and I am glad I kept my stupid mouth shut when I knew nothing about it.