to be cross with sons friends mum?

[nickschick]

Ds is 17 and yesterday we went to college to collect his As level results,when we got there we met with his friend and his friends mum,whom id never met - her son gave me a hug as all teens seem to do these days and then he and my son stopped to chat to some other pals leaving me with the other boys mum.

I thought we chatted quite nicely about results etc etc and was a bit gobsmacked when the boys returned and all of a sudden she said 'ohhhh your xxxxx's mum!!!!'.

Im 36 wed just held a reasonably intelligent convo and id walked in with ds,her son had greeted me - who else could I be??

I understand she may have thought I was younger or his sister or whatever but to simply say that ???

All I could think to say was 'well he calls me mum so i must be [smile'.

YABU to be cross - be flattered!

take it as a compliment
I would be jealous of a young (bet your pretty) mum.
:o

For the love of god - unless she was implying she though you might be his Grandmother what on earth was there to be cross about? I'd love someone to think I couldn't possibly be a 17 year olds Mum!!

are you fishing for compliments?your swelling head is slowing down broadband.LOL at" I understand she may have thought I was younger or his sister or whatever but to simply say that..........durr no matter how you scrub up you are a teenagres mum.did you really hope/think parents thought son bought his sis to A level results day.

Listen someone thought I was my little brothers Mum today.... He is 12 years younger but still.

YABU. Take it as a compliment

YABU ...

sco0ttish mummy sometimes i think your spot on with your bluntness sometimes i think your nasty i wasnt fishing for compliments - i was saying i thought it was rude how she exclaimed it- i mentioned the age thing to try and see it from her view.

Its Friday go find a bumsex thread.

ok -read as guess what happend to gorgeous me.only though i was the sister...

you are fishing for compliments.deny all you wish.you are

no i didnt mean it like that i just thought it was rude ,shed been chatting to me for a good while and then to exclaim that without any ohhh i thought you were his ....btw im not exceptionally pretty.

Can't get why you'd be offended. It's a compliment.

My mum loves it when people think she's my older sister. She swoons about (and she's 21 years older than me).

Perhaps she thought you were someone's granny?
Or the kindly but aged home economics teacher?

Hmm. It does read rather as though you're trying to find a subtle way to let everyone know that you look FAR too young to be a teenager's mum. Maybe that's not how you meant it, but that's how it came across. And she (the mother) probably meant it as a compliment too.

Surely ther must be more to this. How on earth can you be offended with the mother for making an observation that you are the mother of ***?

lol more crack than harlem - thats what id thought but the son later asked ds how old i was.

It was meant as a very AIBU .....just felt a bit grrrr about it - she could have asked me who I was,she knew id come in with ds.

It definitely was not said in a complimentary way.

you loved the implied what you spring chicken mum to a teen.oh how very gosh.hence the post

grumps....id gone in with ds - her ds had hugged my ds and then me hed taken us over to stand with his mum and family then theyd gotten chatting to another student leaving me and his mum chatting about the results.

When ds and her ds turned round and started chatting to us again she sort of looked at me in a puzzled way and said 'ohhh your xxxxx's mum'.....that was it no sorry i thought you were the aged clweaner/home ec teacher/nit nurse etc etc.

huh?

get lost

you are describing yourself gloating that youre not mumsy

But i am v mumsy.

I don't see any way that could have been said rudely. I agree with grumpygrumps, it doesn't add up, there is nothing offensive in what you've reported and I've said the phrase in my head in several different ways.