to be cross with sons friends mum?

[nickschick]

Ds is 17 and yesterday we went to college to collect his As level results,when we got there we met with his friend and his friends mum,whom id never met - her son gave me a hug as all teens seem to do these days and then he and my son stopped to chat to some other pals leaving me with the other boys mum.

I thought we chatted quite nicely about results etc etc and was a bit gobsmacked when the boys returned and all of a sudden she said 'ohhhh your xxxxx's mum!!!!'.

Im 36 wed just held a reasonably intelligent convo and id walked in with ds,her son had greeted me - who else could I be??

I understand she may have thought I was younger or his sister or whatever but to simply say that ???

All I could think to say was 'well he calls me mum so i must be [smile'.

Olifin, anaesthesist friend used to work in a maternity hospital and said 30 yr old grannies were v. common!

Thank goodness for that!

Still, probably not a normal assumption to make of a stranger is it? I used to live in Brighton and there were lots of grey-haired, 40-something mums there. Some of them looked like they might be grandma instead of mum but I would never have made that assumption. It's a bit like asking someone if they're pregnant, isn't it?!

Ooops...'normal' was supposed to be in italics rather than underlined!

LOL, in park the ther day with 2 friends and our dcs.

Me, 30yo, ds 6.

friend 1, 25 dd's 5&6

friend 2, 46, dd 5

Got talking to other mums there and when we left friend 2 said conversation would have been alot easier if others hadn't been trying to wrok out if she was the GM and who her dd blonged too (we are all fair and blonde/mousy and her dd is 1/2 Indian!)

nickschick - can you not ring your local station and ask them? Anonymously? Or name change ask for anyone in the police to help you - give a new email addy?

its such a bizarre thing chipping and v upsetting that anyone from my local police station would know it was me .

Sorry OP, I also do not understand what annoyed you about ohhh so you are x's mum? Care to elaborate?

we've gone past that now mum of 3 lol.

nickschick - well why not ring another 'local' station from your mobile - they don't have to know you aren't local...

Is there anything I can do to help?

I can't understand why you are upset to be honest.. unless it was said in a really snide patronising way.. like you were dressed inappropriately (mutton as lamb) for picking up your son etc.

Either take it as a compliment (IE "But you are only young!") or as genuine confusion because DH is so much older than you are.. ANd no, she shouldnt have said it and sounded so schocked in that situation but sometimes you do get thrown and put your foot in it. 17 years is quite a gap and people might for that reason assume you were an older sister.

this is it sadly ty chipping .