Yay! Looks like Child Benefits are next on Dave's hitlist...

[cupcakesandbunting]

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-11009535

Speculation, my bum. We all know what's coming, Dave.

so what are you going to do if your "perfect" man suddenly runs off with someone else, or dies, or become disabled, or turns into an abusive twat??

You're going to find a job that means you don't even need tax credits??

The most common age to end up a lone parent on benefits is actually in your 30's........and many of those were just like you described they had a good "family man" with a good job, and shit happened/their DH/DP of many years turned out to be something completely different
from what they first appeared. That DH had had a decent job which meant they could be a SAHM - then bam - no partner, no chance of just walking into a job as times have changed from when you and I were 16yrs old

I think that alouise hasn't lived in the real world for a fair while. It's easy to make inaccurate assumptions when you're comfortable on someone else's money.

Which is probably why she waxes on about DC. They have a lot on common; out of touch and living in cuckoo land.

Well Toccata we have insurance for him and me against death, disability, long term illness, accidents. Which we pay lots for every month which we then pay IPT on top of them for the privilege of being responsible. Which is criminal I think.

The only thing I can't financially insure for is him running off. I don't think it's likely though ;-)

Oh cupcakes, if only you knew the half of it.

When I was unemployed I applied for many jobs from sales assistant, to grave digger (I'd love an outdoors job) even shelf stacker's in Sainsbury require a phone call, then an application form, then 3 interviews, and if you don't have two previous work references hard luck.

Still narked off about the Pet Shop in Kensington, 6 months experience working as a volunteer in an animal home 5 days a week, Gerbil breeder, experience of keeping other rodents, fish and birds and they gave the job to a Samarlian women with no experience with animals at all, simply because she had worked on the tills in Tesco for 3 months.

"WTF is that? makes no sense at all so are you saying the long term unemployed are taking the jobs of the hard working people who just lost there jobs?"

What she is saying is if we didn't have the long term unemployed claiming during the boom times then there would be more money in the pot for those who have recently lost their jobs I believe.
However it doesn't work like that, I also believe.
I'm pretty sure if we'd made the terms and conditions of the bankers bail outs include paying us back before paying any bonus' or indeed buying bog paper in Goldman Sachs then nobody would need to loose any CB at all.

oh and you can guarantee that can you? Or that he won't change.

Wow - are you God???

I could never have forseen my ex becoming like he did.

One of my close friends had no inkling that after nearly 20yrs of marriage her DH would bugger off with someone else. But he did. There's had been the "picture perfect" marriage, they both had decent jobs (though she was a SAHM when the children were much younger), he spent hours being a good "family man" - and then fucked off with another women.

Fucking off with another woman is bloody expensive when you've a wife, children and joint assets, it puts a lot of men and women off leaving, but if they do it costs them.

"he spent hours being a good "family man" - and then fucked off with another women."

My granddad did that, I wonder sometimes what happened to the other family, and also when we stopped being Jews (as my sirname is Jewish)

doesn't stop them doing it though........

sorry am not getting it- why everyone jumping on alouiseg back for making what I thought were perfectly reasonable comments?(but then what would I know I am another sahm who scrounges off her dh).

lyns - do you think that all people on benefits are scum - regardless of how they ended up there?

or to put it slightly better - do you (lyns) have the "it'll never happen to me because I'm too smart" attitude???

if not - then you won't get jumped on either

Who let the milk tray dude in here?

No of course not.I have friends who are trying there damned hardest to find employment. But I also have a section of my family where 3 generations have NEVER worked.literally not a day in their lives. They are junkies,drunks,have numerous kids but yet have a better standard of living than I do.
And yes before I get flamed I am a sahm but have worked and will have to try and return to work in near future as dh getting hammered for tax.
I need the cb we get for 3 kids for essentials for them ie shoes/clothes. Have never claimed tax credits as was to frightened of being unable to pay back if they made an error.

ps my mum was single parent and has worked 2 jobs so never had to be on benefits and she will be working til she drops.

who looked after you (and siblings?) when your mum was working?

but - to get back to the point - I was a SAHM scrounging of my DH for years too - we claimed the WTC - but didn't get much, and didn't really need it much at the time either............

Sorry toccata, I misunderstood.

Coffee cream, anyone? I'm not keen on those.

no no no I really should get off the thread - it's going to drive me insane if I'm not careful lol

Come on toccata- I've saved you a turkish delight

coffee cream is mine,all mine!
no dont think am too smart to answer question.If dh lost his job/died ran off with other women(then would die horribly) then I would be basically ...fucked.

btw the was @ tehthers - not at lyns saying she'd be fucked