to be upset and miffed that my 'bestfriend' is ignoring me and has deleted me from facebook because I told her I was pregnant!!

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I found out I was pregnant two weeks ago and who do you so desperately want to tell first? - Your bestfriend (in my case anyway!)

She already has two healthy children with her previous bf and is now trying for a baby wwith her dh. Theyve been trying for just over a year and I have been really supportive.

I told her via text...like all my other pals tthat i was pregnant and really happy and said that i hope she was happy for me.

Shes ignored me so far and ive found out this evening that shes deleted me from facebook.

Ive always been there for her and incredibly supportive when noone has....I feel like i should feel guilty over becoming pregnant but my dp says that shes just jealous and incredibly selfish. Shes nasty to anyone who has anything more than her and is always cutting you off mid convo to talk about her.

Is her ignorance a blessing and an escape from an incredibily selfish person, or should i feel guilty for being pregnant whens he isnt? I broke the news as sensitively as possible and i had to tell her...as she is my head brides maid and i dont think a surprise bump would have gone down well with my best mate!

upset and grrrr at being treated like this!

Empty shell.. I spent most of the first weeks of my pregnancy crying at at doctors about the (hugely painful) cramps I was having.. .. Worse than bad period pains,then had a bleed. 17 weeks now.. and everything is fine.. touch wood! Lots of luck and congratulations!!!!

Thanks Sanielle - I've just been going quietly nuts here (but I figure if I didn't get cramps when I miscarried that someone's just sat in there doing a nice spot of interior remodelling - Changing Rooms meets Innards or something - hopefully without Llewellyn-Bowen)!

What will be will be I guess - but infertility for any prolonged period sucks.

OP for all you know your friend could have had a negative pregnacy test or started her period just before your text arrived. I think its so important to communicate by telephone or even better in person in situations like this.

emptyshell - your post gave me a lump in my throat, best of luck to you.

I had a really lovely hatefull bitch nurse tell me when I was terrified if it makes you feel better if you are going to miscarry, there is nothing you can do about it anyway. So just relax.

That helped loads. I started at a new GP though (lovely guy) and he said don't worry because he has never had a scared pregnant women in there complaining about anything other than cramps and that it was perfectly fine and nothing to worry about.

Although I'd feel sick with worry if Llewellyn-Bowen-ing was going on anywhere in my body!

i think the issue might be that you texted her.... lots of people have said this so this would maybe give an idication that many people would be cross / hurt / upset at receiving such a text if they were ttc. One of my closest friends and I were ttc at teh same time. I had my ds and then when he was 6 months old got pg with dd by mistake..... She was still ttc her first and I was very very aware about how I shoul tell her. I told her face to face so that she didnt hear from anyone else. SDhe now has a dd. On another point .....
One of my oldest friends from school miscarried at the time I had ds (I didnt know this or that she was even pgt) and when he was born she didnt send a card, present, or even a response to my text.... I was hurt and upset as we had been good friends for 20 years.... but once I found out what had happened to her I sent her an email saying that I hoed she was OK and we have sicne rekindled our friendship. She has dd and is pgt with dc2 so all ends well. But she was really really angry and I totally respect that - maybe it is too much for your friend to deal with esp as she doesnt have a child with her new partner....

My closest friend and I were working through infertility together and I got pregnant about a year before she did.

I waited until we were together just the two of us and told her, she had a good cry and asked if I minded if she avoided me for a bit. I didn't tell anyone else until she had had time to get through it and could answer all the "What about you?" questions that were inevitable.

There are gentler ways than telling someone they should be happy for you via text.

Happily we now both have more kids than we know what to do with.

" I dont think a beautiful thing like pregnancy should be called such an awful thing"

Up the Duff is totally naff.

I prefer Knocked Up.

"In the pudding club" perhaps?

Gravid is good, makes me think of gravy.

Oh yes I like gravid, How about enceinte?

good one, is french?

I often called the DSs my little parasites.

Yes, is French. I favour 'leech' personally.

"Pregnant" is a little coarse. "In a delicate condition", perhaps. Or "expecting a little blessing".

Bun in the oven?

How about 'lady in waiting' or 'expecting a happy event'.

Ooh, or "increasing". They say that in Jane Austen novels.

Embarazada in Spanish. Very easy to make a mistake with the translation!