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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be annoyed that DH stalks me on MN talk

83 replies

griffaloschild · 04/08/2010 21:32

The other week I walked in to our living room and DH started quoting to me something I had posted on here.

I was a little taken aback and asked him what he was talking about. He went on to explain that he had been looking for threads that he could see I'd looked at (either highlighted or through history) and looking to see if and what I had posted.

I felt a little... well.. violated might be a bit strong...but you know what I mean. I said it felt like he had been looking at my diary/emails/texts but he said I was being very silly and that as it is a public forum it was fair game. My argument was that we don't use our real names, by and large, to preserve some anonymity.

AIBU?

p.s. hello DH hope you enjoyed this one!

OP posts:
Tortington · 04/08/2010 21:33

hes a twunt - kick him in the manjo

Tortington · 04/08/2010 21:34

griffaloschilds dh - get a life

BelligerentGhoul · 04/08/2010 21:34

YANBU. Dp tries reading over my shoulder and then gets all sniffy when I tell him to bog off.

sethstarkaddersmum · 04/08/2010 21:34

My dh used to do this so I started a thread and about 100 MNers told him to go away.

Go away Griffaloschild's dh!

usualsuspect · 04/08/2010 21:34

Change your nickname ..don't tell him

BitterAndTwistedChoreDodger · 04/08/2010 21:37

That would drive me mad. DH knows my username, but if I ever thought he was reading my posts I would be irked.

This is where I come to vent!

PrincessBoo · 04/08/2010 21:38

I'm on the fence. I can understand why you were upset but your DH does have a point. This is a public forum and anyone can read your posts.

My DH prefers to play on his PS3 while I surf the net but I wouldn't be overly bothered if he read my posts on MN.

What motives do your think your DH has? Are you on MN loads instead of doing things with him?

yousaidit · 04/08/2010 21:38

Christ, your dh sounds like such a cock: I bet he has a really small knob and doesn't know how to deal with the kids. I bet his breath smells just a little bit but enough that people notice, and he checks himself out in car windows what he thinks people can't see him and doesn't understand why people can't see a throbbing adonis like he can but they can see a sad flap old bloke.

Does your dh like that one? Now bugger off Mr Griffaloschild!

PrincessBoo · 04/08/2010 21:39

Sorry I didn't mean that to read all judgey - I meant do you think he wants to know what's interesting you so he can chat to you about stuff. Sometimes I wish I could edit my posts.

sanielle · 04/08/2010 21:40

Oi! OP's DH.. Get your own forum!!!!

((God I hope my husband has more to do in his free time.. Or I am in deep poo after yesterday's thread!))

PrincessBoo · 04/08/2010 21:40

I'll get my coat...

differentID · 04/08/2010 21:41

Hell no, yanbu.

griffaloschild's dh.

Grow up. Get a grip. Stop stalking your wife, you pathetic little man.

AnyFucker · 04/08/2010 21:41

what else does he check up on you for ?

phoenixflower · 04/08/2010 21:42

YANBU, if my DH did that I would be FUMING.

YOur DH is out of order and if you are reading this Mr Griffaloschild's -> Would you mind so kindly leaving and not coming back on MN

Name change and delete your internet user history.

Original poster
griffaloschild · 04/08/2010 21:44

PrincessBoo - he is simply nosey!

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AnyFucker · 04/08/2010 21:45

I think that is a little more than "simply nosy", tbh

phoenixflower · 04/08/2010 21:48

Meant to add to my previous post obut it posted too early!

griffaloschild - I hope he does not know the password to your email account. I would also put a pin lock on your phone so he cannot access your messages, sounds a bit controlling and
to me!

PrincessBoo · 04/08/2010 21:49

I think I'd only be pissed off with mine if I came on here whinging about him, which I don't. Yet. We've only been married 10 months though so give me time...

rosieposey · 04/08/2010 21:52

I would be fed up if i thought DH was 'checking up on me' He knows my username but cant be arsed to see what i prattle on about. Your DH needs to get his own forum and stop being so controlling.

TheHeathenOfSuburbia · 04/08/2010 21:53

Sounds like you need two different logins on your computer; ask in Geekstuff maybe?

Then the threads you've been on won't be highlighted all temptingly.

LimaCharlie · 04/08/2010 21:53

yanbu - DH asked me what my talk name was the other day - naturally I lied told him

TrillianAstra · 04/08/2010 21:56

DP know my talk name and might browse and click if he saw me but AFAIK doesn't stalk - you have to sign in to be able to search by name.

thesunshinesbrightly · 04/08/2010 22:00

nosey git!

PotPourri · 04/08/2010 22:06

What a bore. if he is interested in what interests you, he should ask you himself - bloody geek/ DH gets fed up with me saying "someone on mumsnet said...." - however, I do often discuss the topics with him and sometimes even say what I said etc. I would be well put out if I thought he was reading my posts. YANBU - it is just like reading your texts etc. Not a public forum, but sitting in your handbag, so just as easily accessible

dreamylady · 04/08/2010 22:07

I suggest you namechange and in the meantime,tell him this from me: "Gruffalo's DH, do the decent thing and get yourself an online role playing gaming addiction to keep you occupied like my DH has very considerately done."