To wonder how Sep's doing?

[rewardgirl]

Any update? How are you getting on in your new life

Thinking of you. x

Yes I was wondering that as well. I contacted MN to find out where her thread had gone as I was a little concerned it had disappeared suddenly. I was told that she had requested it be removed. Hope everything is ok.

I was wondering too

Hi there. I genuinely have only just seen this thread.
I am fine but, for complicated reasons, I got twitchy about my threads.
I can't thank you enough for the support I have had on MN. I really, sincerely mean that.

Thanks for getting back to us. Maybe an occasional "i'm okay" post and well all be happy.

Then maybe one distant day let us know how its all gone!

Good luck, and supportive thoughts!

Glad you're OK Sep. Give us a quick update when you can, just to let us know that you're happy
TC x

Thats so strange, I was just thinking about sep this morning! Glad you're ok, you seem like an amazingly strong woman. X

Great to hear you are doing well Separated. I had seen a couple of your posts on other threads which was great as I too had wondered if you were OK.

Hi Sep, I'm so glad you're OK and still out there :) I didn't post much on your last threads but followed very closely from the start and felt like I'd lost a close friend when your thread was removed... strange isn't it how we can get so emotionally tied up with people we've never even met.

Anyway, I really hope things are going well for you, that your dd has a wonderful time at her new school, and that you're feeling that wherever you're at at the moment is absolutely the right place for you to be right now.

Ah. Thank you pinkydinky2.
I know how you feel and I miss posting too and I miss the people who were posting messages to me.
I'm doing well and feeling really happy but my life has taken an unexpected turn and I felt that it would be difficult to still ask for support given how things have turned out. I am sure you can probably guess.
The main thing for me to say is that the situatiion improved dramatically and things have been dealt with and discussed and I am hoping that life is going to be like it should be now.
Sep x

Hello Sep,

I've just done a search under your nickname too, and lo and behold I found this thread (thanks rewardgirl for starting it).

I too have been wondering how you were getting on, and getting worried that you had needed to take the threads down for some horrible reason. It sounds like nothing could be further from the truth and that really brings a smile to my face.

I do feel terribly curious about the unexpected turn... I guess you'll let us know when the dust settles!

All the very best, and more happiness to come.

That's such good news. The most important thing is that you feel at peace with the way things are going. Remember, second best isn't good enough, you deserve the very best so if anyone ever tells you, or treats you like you're second best you know you have the strength to fight back! And if you don't feel strong enough there's always mumsnet :)

Wishing you all the very best!

So glad I found this tonight - have been away and was desparate to find out how Sep was...
Glad you ok Sep - you know we were all rooting for you - wishing all the very best x

Hi Sep, please don't feel you can't chat or ask for support whatever has happened, (I am guessing that means things have been resolved with DH).

I for one am not here to judge and you will find that plenty of us on here with that attitude.

Thank you. Yes. Things have resolved. We are taking things slowly as we cannot afford to get it wrong this time: particularly for the sake of our children. He moves back in in a few days time but I have lost my sister over my decision and I know that my good friends are worried about me too.
Let's hope that, in a few years' time, I can look back on this and be pleased with the decision I have made.

Hi separated, I've just seen this thread. I'm glad that you are happy, and I really hope that you are making the right choice for the right reasons. Keep safe, look after your great kids and check in now and again to keep everyone posted. X

Hi Separated, I added my 2p-worth to your original thread as I felt I'd had similar experiences and therefore gained some understanding. I'm so pleased for you now, and really hope you will be strong enough to surprise your sister and friends with your new and improved relationship. All best wishes for your future

You're back together?! Wow I didn't see that coming! Wishing you all the best sep, I really hope things work out for you and your sister comes round. Maybe now would be a good time for a name change xx

We moved some of his things back in today and he has his flat until Friday - the agents have been extremely generous as his lease was until Xmas Day. He is currently still sleeping there. I cannot ignore the past, it happened, but communication between us is so much better and I believe that we have both learned about ourselves during the separation.
I didn't really expect this outcome either, but right now it feels fantastic - I have my husband back and I can see a future for us.
Thank you ny wonderful MN friends. X

I was another lurker on your thread and I'm really pleased that you've come out of the other side and are happy.

You've been through so much and I wanted to wish you all the best for your future

Thank you.

Good Luck Sep, I sincerely hope it all works out for you. Please don't shy away from MN though if you start to feel a bit iffy about things. The support will always be here for you no matter what xx

(Someone remind me what the husband had done?)

Xenia we're supporting Sep as she looks to the future, not concentrating on the past. Listing faults probably isn't the most helpful way to move forward with a relationship that has been damaged.

She's the only one who has all the information so is the only one who can make an informed choice about her future. As she's decided to forgive him for whatever he may have done, and try to work at the relationship, we want to support her in any way she feels is appropriate.

Sep, I understand you may now feel your loyalty is with your dh but please do know you can keep coming back here for support. I think I speak for most when we say we're interested in you and how you're doing, not in judging you or dh for things that have happened in the past.

Still think about you a lot and really hope things work out for you all :)

I'll echo the other voices here Sep- we're here for you and not judging. Great that things are working out- sometimes a kick up the backside is needed! Don't be afraid to pop back for a whinge every now and then, especially if you need a gauge. You're amazing and I'm glad he is now realising that! X

He began moving back in about three days ago and the lease on the flat is up at the end of the week.
All going well so far and intimacy has returned (lacking for a long while). It really does feel like a fresh start to be honest with you. We are being much more open and honest with regard to how we are feeling and how each others' behaviour affects us. Communication is currently good and we are building upon this to form what should become more sokid foundations.
We are also talking about the future and the sorts of things that we could do as a couple and as a family. Hopefully these ideas will allow us to be more cohesive as a pair and as a family unit. Sounds really clinical reading the last sentence back to myself but I'm sure that you know how I am feeling!
Thanks for the continued support; I've always appreciated it. And, yes, I have chosen not to rehash what we've been through on this new thread as, for me, moving forwards is now important if it's to work out. That doesn't mean that I will allow old behaviours to recommence.