To wonder how Sep's doing?

[rewardgirl]

Any update? How are you getting on in your new life

Thinking of you. x

Good luck for the future, sep x

Perhaps a name-change is in order ?

But I like that people know me. If I change my name there's no history there...

it doesn't say the right things about you though

perhaps "separatednomore" ?

just a thought...you can have any old name you like < ahem >

wish you the best of luck sep

I'm pleased to hear your state of calm, but also to hear about you deleting the earlier threads: you know what they said, and you sound as through it is all still with you, but you don't need to stir things up with Someone Else.

Your sister won you back once; now you can win her back, too! I'm sure your relationship can cope

All still okay. Things going well so far. X

Really happy to hear that Sep. I hope you get a chance to get things off to a new and better start.

All gone belly up. Unsure whether it will now work out. He is still living here but very, very angry as he still believes that I lied to the police. Now he realises that, when his enhanced CRB is renewed, his job will be at risk.
Very doubtful that there will be a 'happy' ending now.

Oh shit Sep - I'm SO sorry to hear that

I was thinking about you the other day and wondering how you were getting on, that's not good news.

Sending you a hug and some good vibes.

Thanks.
Took a little courage to be able to post that.

Oh sorry. I do not have anyidea of the past and missed those threads but I'm willing to be here and support you from here on in if you need it,

So sorry to hear that Sep - I was only thinking about you today and hoping you were ok. You know you will get support here from everybody - it takes a big person to admit they made a mistake. Feel free to rant - we will be here to listen xx

Sep have lurked on the other threads. What's happened for this to blow up all of a sudden?

No energy to rant. Just sad. He has so much anger. No idea really why he came back, he didn't seem to think he needed to change at all. I have done all of the changing and spologising yet he has remained the same (without the physical aggression). He appears to have no recollection of what he did to me. Apparently I lied to the police and they all agreed that it was clear that I was being a revenge-seeker.

Not all of a sudden. Been on and off for a while now. Like living with Jekyll and Hyde.

Just remember Sep if you are sure that this is the end - it will be easier this time. You have been here once and you coped - I know you went back but it was clear that you still loved him. You have now seen him for the way that he really is - I think you have as you have admitted that he has not changed at all -

Be strong - you have a world of support here and I am sure your sister will be there for you too - If I was your sister I would be x

Oh dear. Really genuinely sorry to hear that Sep.

What do you think is the right next step?

xxxx

Not told her and not planning to yet.

No idea rewardgirl. He has no plans to leave again.

Don't be alone with this - why are you keeping it from her? Have you decided to split and if so, is it mutual?

X posted - does that mean you are living together apart - again?

Hi Sep,
was one of the many around last time, had been wondering how you were.

Sorry to hear it's rough right now but you are a strong woman so try to hold onto that. Your sis will come round in time.

Don't let him bulldoze you, you know what's right.

Take care {{hug}}

Yes. Back to square one. Cannot tell sister as she disowned me when he came back. She is in final year of extremely important course.

She won't disown you forever - I was in similar position with my sis - she left DH and was horribly miserable for 2 years - they are now back together and he has genuinely changed and our whole family have come round - if she needed us again we would be there - in the meantime we respect her decision.

Your sister loves you and will be there for you - you are just protecting her at the moment and I understand and respect that.

How are the children?