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To be a bit shocked by what i saw today.

257 replies

TheLadyEvenstar · 25/07/2010 22:53

I took DS's out today and shortly before we left I let the play in the splash zone.

DS2 had his shorts and t-shirt on as it was very very hot and sunny ds1 was in rolled up tracky bottoms and his t-shirt.

I was a bit shocked by a couple of things I saw.

1 was a little girl running around naked - which tbh made it difficult to take photos of DS1 and DS2 playing although i managed to avoid catching her in all but 1 photo and that one has been editted so she has now got black knickers on.

The other thing was a young girl possible 7yrs old in a tiny bikini who was crouched over the jets of the splash zone gyrating herself everytime the water shot upwards

Now while I wasn't directly watching her I could hear other people talking and finally one mentioned to her parents that this possibly wasn't the best thing for her to do in public.

I have to admit the 2nd thing was more shocking than the little girl running round.

OP posts:
ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 26/07/2010 11:04

I hear ya, MisSalLaneous

GypsyMoth · 26/07/2010 11:05

i was half expecting 'stacy' to appear and confirm how awful the little naked children were behaving!!

MisSalLaneous · 26/07/2010 11:07

Oh, and TLE, sorry, I do realise my post above looks really rude. What I meant to say is that a lot of people (myself included) don't necessarily agree with some of your parenting choices, but that is irrelevant here. Also, I'm sure you don't agree with all my choices either, so it is what it is.

However, you can't blame posters for trying to stick to the actual issue at hand (not directed at you, TLE).

BrightLightBrightLight · 26/07/2010 11:09

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CaptainKirksNipples · 26/07/2010 11:10

I understand sal

Oblomov · 26/07/2010 11:14

I daisagree cakeandroses. tehe thread has been very very tame and the OP has been alot of support. adn those thta did not agree have done so in a gentle way. not rude.
Int he cold light of day, I stand by everyhting I wrote. apologise for nothing.
And do not consider this bullying or hostility. infact very much the opposite.

yes she did admit to be an over worrier. and later on to a bit of over reacting. but these admissions didn't happen till quite late int he thread.
she still does not think her anxiety affects her parenting. she insists it doesn't. i and MANY others have said it must do.
but the denial here is very strong.

LumpyMcFluff · 26/07/2010 11:21

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CaptainKirksNipples · 26/07/2010 11:26

Lol at mad as a bastard!

CaptainKirksNipples · 26/07/2010 11:27

Your first link has your email address in it, I have reported you might want to as well

CreepyFunbags · 26/07/2010 11:30

Someone I know puts photos of her DD (aged under one still) on her facebook, nude, with little black squares covering her bottom and nipples. I always go like:
Why put them on at all?!

I think it is very inappropriate to let your child read that sort of book by the way OP. I think you should consider the consensus opinion on this and perhaps not allow him to read that sort of thing in the future even if you personally can't see the problem. Not trying to be patronising, sorry if it comes across that way.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 26/07/2010 11:31

CreepyFunbags, I just read your name as 'CrepeyFunbags'. I was nodding along in sad agreement.

foureleven · 26/07/2010 11:32

Oh i wish Id come to this earlier as my DD (5) was told a couple of weeks ago by the lifeguard at the local outdoors pool that she wasnt aloud to be naked. She looked very confused as she loves to run around naked and I have never made her feel uncomfortable about it.

She did have a swimsuit but had taken it off as it got muddy.

I wonder what the thinking is... Is it that people are peodofiles by nature and if they see naked children they wouldnt be able to help themselves..?

If we let our kids run around naked and they get attacked is it our own fault??

GypsyMoth · 26/07/2010 11:33

sorry lumpy!! but i did expect her...

and as for that book....its not a childs bbook is it?? (havent read so dont know)

foureleven · 26/07/2010 11:33

creepyfunbags covered the NIPPLES of a one year old??!!!

foureleven · 26/07/2010 11:36

And agreed about the book.. I couldnt even read that at 34! nevermind 11.

miso · 26/07/2010 11:36

Photos of naked toddlers with censor type markings drawn over their genitals looks a lot more sexualised than a plain photo of a naked toddler imo.

Especially at the nipple cover ups.

thesunshinesbrightly · 26/07/2010 11:47

Sun 25-Jul-10 23:10:35
Child abusers don't 'hang' out at water parks.

Well actually i was at a childrens area,man with no child, watching the children,not going in to detail's but it was obvious what he is. Police came(obviously knew him)and told 'him to move on he wasn't allowed to do that'.

CakeandRoses · 26/07/2010 11:48

Oblomov - Sorry, I didn't mean you'd been a bully (and I should have made that clear) but I still think some of the other posts have been bullying/hostile.

I'm bowing out of this one now. Getting way too complicated and even the mention of misery lit is enough to depress the hell out of me.

CreepyFunbags · 26/07/2010 11:51

Haha chickenshavenoeyebrows. I will have to change my name to crepey when I stop BF.

ChippingIn · 26/07/2010 11:55

Catinboots - have you ever read 'A boy called it'? It is a lot of sad/disturbing/scary things, but not violent porn.

I read it as a friend asked me to - sadly he felt it may help me understand the kind of childhood he had had, we used it as a basis for a lot of discussion.

It is many things and I myself don't choose to read that genre (I actually fail to see how the genre came about and how it is sutained??) and I would not be encouraging an 11 year old to do so. However, if TLE's 11 year old was going to read it anyway (home or the library) I would sooner he did it at home, with me, as TLE insisted he did.

Oblomov · 26/07/2010 12:00

cakes and roses, fair enough. i on the other hand think that the Op has been quite supported. and cared for. and those thta did think she has over rected, myself included, have been very very tame.
the thread, as per usual, went on to other issues. with Op still posting, at her comfort.
and i do not see any hostility , nastiness or bullying.
none what-so-ever.
but just for the sake or argument, lets out this to bed, shall we :
Op do you feel bullied by this thread ?

BitOfFun · 26/07/2010 12:12

Would it be ok to let a child watch Saw or Hostel if he could "ask any questions" to you afterwards? I am boggling here.

slushy · 26/07/2010 12:31

Actually TLE I don't think you deserve the kicking you have had here, Firstly is it not recommended that children remain covered in the hot sun as it is bad for the skin.

Secondly how many threads on here are there of women who don't want pictures of their children everywhere, So covering the picture was right IMO as just because people here are happy for naked pictures of their children to go everywhere does not mean others are just as many threads have shown.(I have naked pictures of my own children BTW)

Thirdly I see nothing wrong with the girl sitting on the jet but I probably would have distracted my own dd.

Fourthly women who are paranoid about pedo's have usually got good reason to be, but I don't see how it will rub off on her children, TLE can be cautious without her children knowing, TLE does not want her children running around with no clothes on there is another thread where barbie is banned because it may prematurely sexualise a 4yo child we all have our demons and fears as long as on the whole we are okay I think our children will be.

Gigantaur · 26/07/2010 12:34

20 years ago i doubt anyone would have even noticed the naked child. or the "gyrating" one.

it is not shocking that they were there, it is shockingly sad that society has reached a stage where you noticed.

SomeGuy · 26/07/2010 12:49

One person's 'gyrating' is I suspect another's 'playing happily in the fountain'.

I think a child trying to catch a jet of water that comes on intermittently is fairly standard play....

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