Not sure what to make of this..

[chickenlittlee]

DH who never seemed to have had a problem with my weight, called me a 'fat blob' today - 'I don't want to see a fat blob lying down in front of me, go to the other
room now'. I was doing something on the laptop in the spare room, that's about it. Nothing said or done to invite this. I have given birth recently and have been trying to shift the weight since then. I'm hurt, upset and angry as I have been trying to deal with his temper/rudeness for quite sometime now, but have always forgiven him and gotten on with my life - yeah, what a fool I have been. But never in the past has he made a comment like that. AIBU to feel offended and hurt?

YAMDNBU. How unkind, particularly if you have recently had a baby - HIS child.
I would be extremely offended and hurt. Are you able to discuss this with him?

By the way it would be a horrible comment anyway but if you have just had a baby it is even worse iykwim.

Has he always had a cruel temper?

on your behalf. What an awful way for him to treat you. YANB at all U.......if my hubby said that to me I would be devastated (particularly as I do struggle with my weight) and would really struggle to forgive and forget. It's a personal attack and you didn't deserve it.

How horrible. You're not being unreasonable at all. Have you spoken to him about it?

Tell him 'better a fat blob who has recently given birth than a rude slob with no excuse.'

Sounds very much like something an abuser would say. Is he always this charming? What a horrible thing to say to your wife. DH has just read this over my shoulder and said, "He's a knob". My thoughts exactly. I'm so he's so horrible to you.

so sorry that was meant to be

If my DH said this to me, I'd be putting his belongings in bin bags and turfing them out of the bedroom window. He is a total prick. There is never any justification for speaking to you like that.

I'm guessing he's Adonis then?

what everyone else said - this shows a total lack of respect for you OP

That is low low low. I suggest a planned, meticulously instigated and lengthily painful guilt trip. You and your body have just done one of the most awe inspiring things possible. He should pay for this one!

YANBU thats an awful thing to say to anyone let alone someone who has just had your child.

Does he often say nasty things or is this new?

If it is new, did he say slightly less nasty things?

Its a very odd thing to say out of the blue if he has always been nice before.

Even if you could brush off the 'fat blob' as him being insensitive, telling you to leave the room is v.worrying IMO.

My OH is by no means henpecked. But he wouldnt dream of saying something like that.

That is really an awful thing to say- I really wouldn't let it go if I were you!!

Had he already asked you to go to the other room and you refused?

I'm trying to figure out if he is just incredibly rude, or abusive.

Any one would be offended and hurt, os of course YANBU.

But you have been trying to deal with his temper/rudeness for sometime...how have you been trying to deal with it? By ignoring, or by by getting him to be calmer and more polite?

Started off like this: 'Take your laptop and go to the other room'. 'Why'? 'Because your husband is asking you to'. His response confuses me because he has never asked me to leave a room before, but I just pick up my laptop and move to the room next door. He appears minutes later with something and I ask him again if I had done something inappropriate, he mumbles something. I ask him what he just said cause he couldnt hear him, to which he grits his teeth and replies, 'Because I don't want to see a fat blob lying down in front of me'. I'm stunned and leave the room with an excuse to fetch milk for the baby. Stunned because he has never commented on my weight before. Since then he has been doing his own thing and pretending like nothing happened.

Yes, he has been rude to me in the past. He is very controlling and is always telling me how things should be done. I have told him in the past that I need to be treated like an adult and with respect, but have seen no change in his behaviour.

What an absolute cunt! He doesn't deserve you, he doesn't deserve anyone

Run for the hills.

YANBU btw.

he told you to go to another room - and you did - do you not find this part of the conversation strange too?

if dh had said ' go to another room' i'd have told him to go himself.

is your husband physically perfect chickenlittee?

For gods sake! Do you want to live your life free or do you want to be controlled by an idiot like that? Do you want your child to grow up thinking that is an acceptable way to be treated?

If a friend told you about this happening to her what advice would you give her?

FGS! LEAVE!

check this

When the bad times outweigh the good its time to go.............

I agree with custardo if my husband told me to go to another room I would just laugh and assume he was joking not get up and leave.