I suspect you are all going to say IABU, DH says I am

[Saltire]

However, AIBU to be annoyed at this.
The photos of SIL's wedding are out, and there is one of the bride and groom holding a very long handled umbrella over themselves. She has copied all the photos from the offical photographers site onto her facebook page. Someone made a comment "oh that's big umbrella". I then commented, "not really, it just looks big because they are both small, ha ha ha" (SIL is 5ft2, new BIL is 5ft 4).

FIL has then commented "Oh I wonder what size of umbrella they would need to cover you saltire, a parachute probably"

Now, I have got annoyed at this as I read it as him saying I am so fat that i need a parachute to cover me from teh rain. DH says "well you were very rude about SIL, what do you expect".

FIL may well be a nob but he owes you nothing, your DH should be putting you first, tbh, i think your DH is more of a twat for not standing up for his wife!

Why did you DH not refuse to be in the photo when told that his wife was not part of his family?

Sorry, but your IL's should be told by your DH that their behaviour was unacceptable and he won't be talking to them until you get an apology.

Your problem isn't with your IL's, it's with your DH.

I'm afraid I agree with many - YABU. You made a personal comment about the B&G with a 'ha ha ha' to make yourself feel better and make it look less like you were being catty. FIL made one back to you. If he'd put 'ha ha ha' would that have made it all ok? As someone who has had to put up with a lot of comments about my size, trust me, 'ha ha ha' doesn't make a comment any less hurtful.

Given what I've read on MN about your il(l)s over the past year of so, yanbu. As Ivy pointed out, the copyright of the photos belongs to the photographer so she should not have copied the photos from one site to the other without permission.

I would refuse to waste money on buying any of the photos, and I would also block your ils from seeing your fb page. I would also be having a long conversation with your dh about pecking orders, and what you expect him to do when his family start on you.

Horrible thing to do on someone's big day - you deserved what you got back.

RustyBear: I'm short. DH is short. DD is short.

I would have found Saltire's remark amusing. Not hold my sides wet myself funny, but it would have made me smile.

OP, your DH is the problem. He is weak and is still trying to impress daddy. Stop blaming your FIL

ok now that I HAVE bothered to read the whole thread ..I actually do think YABU.

Not because short arse jokes are offensive (still maintain they ain't and agree with Jux's comment), but because there was bitterness and malice behind your 'joke'.

YABU, You made a silly jokey comment and your FIL just made one back.

Oh Saltire he sounds horrible. I'd get a separate facebook a/c too and not invite 'family' ~ nice or nasty, just friends.

You made a joke, he made a joke. Or you were being mean, and then he was being mean. Either way, I don't see why one is ok but then the other isn't.

Agree with babydubs.

Your dh sounds weak.