I suspect you are all going to say IABU, DH says I am

[Saltire]

However, AIBU to be annoyed at this.
The photos of SIL's wedding are out, and there is one of the bride and groom holding a very long handled umbrella over themselves. She has copied all the photos from the offical photographers site onto her facebook page. Someone made a comment "oh that's big umbrella". I then commented, "not really, it just looks big because they are both small, ha ha ha" (SIL is 5ft2, new BIL is 5ft 4).

FIL has then commented "Oh I wonder what size of umbrella they would need to cover you saltire, a parachute probably"

Now, I have got annoyed at this as I read it as him saying I am so fat that i need a parachute to cover me from teh rain. DH says "well you were very rude about SIL, what do you expect".

Ahh ok just read how they treated you, I see why you were pissed off. But still wedding piccies on FB probably isn't best place to for making a point or having a go. Best thing to do with people like this not to let them think they upset you. My own dad treats me like a second class citizen- I am not considered part of his real family. Shame. Not.

For your new Facebook page

you were shortist - they were fatist - you dish it out you must be prepared to accept a does back in return

In future don't make comments on fb

I would have deleted your remark - but thats me

Ronaldinhio - good things in small packages doesn't necessarily imply that large packages contain bad things, whereas the wheat comment does imply that short wheat is not as good.

And yes, I may be over-analyzing, but having spent the last 20 years seeing DS being hurt by unthinking comments, I've become an expert...

Personally I don't like the comment you made about your SIL, but your FIL is vicious with his comments.
I think you need to get your own back on your FIL!

whatever rusty

Not read any other comments - YANBU!

Everyone knows making 'fat' remarks are rude and hurtful and short jokes are not.

I am 5'2, my dh 5'7 and we are constantly getting jibes about it and we think it's funny as there's no real embarassment in being small but perfectly formed

I think your fil was mean.

I have deleted it, but now it reads as though FIL is critcising the woman who made the original comment about the umbrella.

Ok so I now know I was being unreasoonable. I shall bravely rise above all the comments that they make about me being tall, about my children being tall (freaksishly tall was one word FIL used, but that's ok), and FIL calling me a witch, that's ok too

actually - i am sorry you are not fat as fil suggested

fil is balanced - he has two chips one on each shoulder about being short

Seriously Saltire - why does your FIL dislike you so much? There has to be more to this than meets the eye.

People do not go around taking against people so completely for absolutely no reason.

and she hasn't got copyright so she shouln't have photos on fb

FIL isn't short though, he's 5 ft 11/6ft

"Everyone knows making 'fat' remarks are rude and hurtful and short jokes are not."

Try reading the rest of the thread and you might find out (a) that that's not true and (b) that the comment to the OP was about her height, not her weight.

Anyway, at 5'7" your DH will be taller than a lot more women than a man of 5' 4", so his lack of height won't be noticed so often.

That's great you removed your comment, OP - it makes your FIL look silly!

To those who asked, he doesn't like me because
A) He knows that I know he used to hit MIL (DH's mum, they divorced when DH was 7) and that he kicked her twice in the stomach when she was pregnanat with DH

B) he doesn't know that I know (but he suspects I know)he told BIL that "you have to decide if you want me or your wife in your life because while she's in it, I'm not". BIL chose his wife obviously, now they don't speak, but FIL lies and says he doesn't know why BIL doesn't speak to him

C) I once told him to "shut the fuck up and do it himself" when we were there and he was yelling at SMIL (he talks to her like she's his slave) because she hadn't ironed a shirt he wanted to wear

D) he called me a witch with " a massive witches nose and warts and scraggy hair and she could turn milk sour at 20 meters"
However, he doesn't know that I know he said this

Can't be arsed to read rest of the thread Rustybear, it's my opinion, being called short is not offensive.

My whole family AND dh's husband are short arses and none of us are bothered by the gags. Off to the park, byeeee!

Fine, proudnsad, that's your opinion, just don't expect everyone else to share it.

some people can and do still find it offensive, just as it is your right not to be offended, it is Rusty's right to feel offended by it

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He sounds like a nasty piece of work.

You called them short, he called you fat, 6 of one half a dozen of the other

it depends entirely on the context. whilst i like being short, i dont like it used as way to put me down. the OP's joke about me and my (not very tall) mister wouldnt have offended me from a close friend, but it would from some i didnt get on with. it's a case of assume it wont be taken well unless you know otherwise.

It depends what height you are comparing to and under 6ft isn't tall for a man - you meet his gaze straight on rather than having to look up to him...

see I would have to say something about the milk comment - online the lines of I can turn milk sour but how on earth did you get so sour?

I think that wedding/baby pics should be exempt from smart-arse comments. It's a special/emotional day, and laughing at the photos is a bit mean IMO.

YABU