I suspect you are all going to say IABU, DH says I am

[Saltire]

However, AIBU to be annoyed at this.
The photos of SIL's wedding are out, and there is one of the bride and groom holding a very long handled umbrella over themselves. She has copied all the photos from the offical photographers site onto her facebook page. Someone made a comment "oh that's big umbrella". I then commented, "not really, it just looks big because they are both small, ha ha ha" (SIL is 5ft2, new BIL is 5ft 4).

FIL has then commented "Oh I wonder what size of umbrella they would need to cover you saltire, a parachute probably"

Now, I have got annoyed at this as I read it as him saying I am so fat that i need a parachute to cover me from teh rain. DH says "well you were very rude about SIL, what do you expect".

Sorry to say, but I think your comment was really rude. It's their wedding photo, it's not something to take the mickey out of. My dad is a short man and he'd be really upset by a comment like that. And actually, I hate it when people call me short too, though I'm a girl. I think it probably came across as pretty out-of-order, hence the FIL's comment at you. Actually, I think you should be apologizing to them in case you upset them.

I think it was just a funny comment.

Jux - please explain exactly what is funny about it?

The only comment acceptable about a wedding photo isa nice one. If you can't think of anything nice to say use a stock phrase such as 'lovely!', 'what a beautiful dress' and 'dont they look happy'.

Sarky or sniggery comments are not acceptable. Neither is silence.

Sorry.

YABU.
I don't think his comment was any worse than yours.

YABU.
I don't think his comment was any worse than yours.

OK, So I was BU. i get it now.
However, Lulu (the voice of reason) is correct, tehre is so much history there with me and FIl and Step MIL, perhaps I was blinkered by what had gone in the build up to wedding.
The total cost to us to attend the wedding was almost £800. That included 2 nights at £400, kilt hire, presents, outfits, we spent £150 on drink over the course of the weekend, I was told what to wearr, during the wedding ceremony, me and my DSes were put in seats at the back, whilst Dh sat at the front with the brides mothers family.
They asked for a fmaily photo and it consists of Step MIls siter, her neice and nephew, DH and my DSes and the bride and groom. I wasn't in it. I did ask and was told I wasn't family

Crikey! Ok then, I see what you're up against! That does not sound fun.

They sound horrible, but don't descend to their level!

So they treated you badly. That Is not acceptable and I can understand that you feel pissed off. However being only 5 feet tall myself I would have been very pissed off if you had made a comment like that about my wedding photo. I think you probably knew that what you were saying in your comment was really mean and I think thats horrible. I don't think you deserve any horrible comments about yourself though.

Do you want to try and be friendly with these people? If not this could be a good excuse for you to stop having them as friends on FB?

saltire your comment was needless so remove it from fb
apologise to sil and bil in case it was taken in anyway other than you intended... as a joke
they will appreciate the apology

weddings all cost a fortune and people are often snubbed intentionally or otherwise
don't try to make it about that or even discuss it as it makes you look churlish or mean

the thing is your fil sounds like a complete arse
please don't open yourself up for him to feel free to attack you without recourse

by apologising you regain the upper hand and he looks to the world to be the twunt he is.
you married your dh not his family but try to protect yourself from their extremes as much as poss

btw
good wheat grows tall

"They asked for a family photo and it consists of Step MIls sister, her neice and nephew, DH and my DSes and the bride and groom. I wasn't in it. I did ask and was told I wasn't family"

I'd have followed them around humming the Oompah Loompah song. I'd let the Facebook thing rest but ask your DH why he let that happen.

Ronaldinhio - you were doing so well right up to the last line....

I don't think your comment as directed at the SIL was nasty (I am 5'3" and have no issue with my height - in fact I am flattered if people draw attention to my petiteness and don't even mind being referred to as "shorty").

However it is a totally different matter with men - IME short men are very sensitive to the fact and it should never be commented on.

If you were fat then I would say you FIL comment was unreasonable - taking the piss out of being fat is, I think, more offensive than doing so in relation to someones height but since you say you are not fat but tall I am bemused as to what your problem is!

brokenbanana - I tried to change my settings so that they were in a friends list, and set it so that they couldn't see anything facebook page. They rang DH constantly asking why and so i got pressured into having them back again.

I don't really think I come way down DH's list of prioritys, I just get so enraged at his apparent inability to say no to his dad.
The wedding hotel for example. MIL and step FIL live 2 miles from it. they said we could stay with them and get a taxi. "great" thought DH and I. Told his dad, who then kept saying "oh but we really want you to stya blah blah blah". So Dh says "oh yes dad if that's what you want we'll stay"

FIL then offered to pay for a night, so we agreed to stay 2 nights, then after we'd booked the 2 nights he said "OH I've changed my mind"

Nancydrew - why is taking the piss for being fat less acceptable than mocking someone for being short?

good things small packages?
rusty?

It is YOUR fb page. You can do what you want with it. Don't let them pressure you into anything. Sounds to me they want to be snooping at your life if they hassled you DH when you took them off. Sod em. Do what you think will make you feel happy not them

Set up a separate fb account and don't invite them.

If you can't take it dont dish it out...

Take it you are maybe a bit sensitive about your size so has it occurred to you that either the bride or groom or both might tire of "hilarious" jokes about their size too?

You publicly mocked them, FIL publicly mocked you, you are now even. And can all move on.

How can you not see yabu? You made a comment about them being small he made a comment about you bring tall. End of