FIL won’t back down on nuts

[Toria33]

We had an incident lady year https://www.mylondon.news/news/real-life/i-severe-nut-allergy-father-25996677
that ended up here,
I have made it clear it isn’t safe for me to be around any traces of nuts and they seem to thing washing child (7 months) down will be enough.( Never mind bfing) I also believe my allergies are inherited from my mother who is also allergic, so am genuinely in fear of a sudden serious reaction in ds. And I know it’s suggested to expose children to nuts at 6 months and we intended to contact a dr but my health has been really bad since he was born and now unexpectedly pregnant. I just not sure what to say to make them understand that we want to do this under dr advisement it seems to be falling on deaf ears
he had had eggs, wheat, oats and all sorts I’m just not backing down on nuts and citrus / bananas as I literally cannot touch traces of them
a new article or something might be useful ?

Apparently my message was a vile letter and they are waiting for me to apologise 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Hopefully they'll be waiting a long time! Stick to your guns, op, such ignorance!

This is one of the worth family related threads I've ever read. Who risks someone's life over a nut cake!?

I do not know how you could ever trust seeing them or letting them see your DC as they are choosing to be ignorant and choosing to ignore medical facts

for you

i am ripping my hair out in frustration of their pure idiocy. Husband has now since the gaslighting that they are to ignorant and dangerous to be around. We had hoped that they clocked on after the allergy hit but nooope. I have blocked them I just can’t deal with this level of stupidity disrespect and lack of care in my space.

Well it'll be a long wait during which you and DS aren't having anything to do with them.

Result!

@Toria33

Blocking them is the right thing to do. If they can't see the need to safeguard you and your children, then they are too 'dangerous' to be around.

Small update I feel mentally so much better and safer for cutting off the in-laws, I feel like I am being a better mum and wife, starting to see how toxic selfish and yes dangerous they were and how much it was affecting me . I feel sad for my kids that they didn’t have better grandparents but that’s not my fault and keeping them safe is key!

Glad you are feeling better

The physical and mental wellbeing of you and your DC is the most important thing.