Calling Time on Wine - 100 Day Reset | Thread 2: One Day at a Time - Together

[therockingbird]

Welcome to Thread 2 of Calling Time on Wine 100 Day Reset 🍵

If you’re here, you’re doing something genuinely brilliant. This reset isn’t about perfection, shiny lives, or pretending it’s easy. It’s about choosing ourselves one day at a time, even when life keeps lobbing chaos our way.

We’ve already proven we can sit with hard evenings, bad days, stress, boredom, celebrations, and still not reach for wine.

Thread 2 is about keeping the momentum going, supporting each other, being honest when it’s tough, celebrating the wins and remembering why we started when motivation wobbles. Clearer heads. Stronger bodies. 💪

So pull up a chair, grab your tea, water, or AF alternative, and keep going. You are not doing this alone - and you are doing so well. 💛

@needastrongone thanks - my ferritin is high normal so I can’t take iron tablets. Very frustrating!
Maybe after nine months she feels totally in control of it.
Enjoy your break!

Evening all on day 78. I’ve just caught up with the thread! Spinach and chickpea curry sounds divine @Icecreamhelps 😋 Well done on the gardening too 🪏

I had an interesting one yesterday. I had a long and stressful day at work, came home and immediately went to the fridge, grabbed an AF beer and cracked it open, and got that “Ahhh, I can relax now after a crap day with a drink” feeling. The thought of wine barely crossed my mind, if at all. For the first time I felt I didn’t need it to relax after my crap day. I can clearly remember when I started this process how much I struggled with wanting to drink wine after work. So this feels like progress 🙌 They say it takes 21 days to break a habit but it’s far longer than that with alcohol (for me anyway).

Great about the blood test @needastrongoneand well done on being lighter and thinner, @SwiftyFifty !

Evening all, lighter with a slimmer waist is a win in my book @SwiftyFifty👏

ticked off day 78 today I don’t think I’ll ever tire of seeing that little celebration confetti when I tick it off daily on the app. It’s been an absolute pig of a week but hey ho . . I don’t work Fridays so that’s a plus. In the past I’d likely be at least a bottle down by now on a Thursday evening decompressing for the week.. here I am watching question time with a cuppa 😆 I’m still struggling with getting to sleep but I’m being strict about switching off by 11.30. Once I’m asleep I sleep well it’s just the winding down bit I need to master! 80 days will be Saturday - what an amazing achievement! We’ve really embraced this and held firm, it’s a huge achievement and we should all be so bloody proud!! Here’s to another sober-fresher weekend ahead.

@therockingbird I can't thank you enough for starting us on this path back in late December. I honestly would never have thought of going AF beyond January alone, and I'm inspired every day by all the tips and the stories. You've changed lives, and I hope it's a boost to know that, with the life stuff you have going on. 💐

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@Feelthejoy isn’t it amazing what a group of strangers on the internet can a achieve as a collective group! I doubt any of us would have envisaged getting this far alone so I see it as a group effort and we should all take the credit for that. 🙏 I don’t know about anyone else but I certainly couldn’t have done it alone - knowing others are also facing the same obstacles is a powerful thing, especially when life throws in the odd curve ball or two!! Well done everyone we’ve proved that the mindset can be changed and the support of others in doing so is invaluable. xx Happy Friday all, let’s keep up this great work!

Day 80 today. And yes thanks to this thread, I have kept sane and motivated! I love being able to plan stuff without having to factor in a headache/ hangover. I love doing stuff that I said I would do. There’s no way I’m giving up until I feel the full benefits of sobriety so feel I’m a long way off. Tbh that’s probably good as if I felt amazing I think it would be easier to start drinking again.
I really have no intention of succumbing even after the 100 days. I’m even looking back now with horror to the amount I used to drink and how pissed I used to get ( at home alone)
Have a great Friday all - it’s incredible what we have achieved.
After the 100 I need to set another numerical goal as thst seems to work for me so thinking of adding another 100 which would bring me to 18 July I think

I’ve just tried on some old clothes that haven’t fit me in ages which I thankfully didn’t take to the charity shop. They fit me again! 🥳 It feels FABULOUS 🎉 🎊 And also means I’ve saved even more money as I no longer need to buy extra clothes to replace them! (I may need to spend on getting some others taken in though lol)

Morning.

Brilliant news re the clothes @SwiftyFifty, another benefit of the sober life!

I FULLY concur re how amazing you all have been. Having you all here supporting has allowed me to be sober long enough to start to do the work on myself that I need to do to understand why I drank and how not to start to drink again. I’m definitely with @SwiftyFifty, I’ll certainly go for another 100 days.

I’m sure we will all still have bumps in the road but if we can all keep supporting each other, we will make it through.

That’s a great new association @freshstart2026 re the AF beer!

This group is fab. In real life there is no way that I could ever be honest about my reasons for stopping drinking in the way I can be here. My work has been rubbish for ages but I've finally had the motivation and hangover free time to apply for new jobs and whatever the outcome, I feel better just for doing it.

Yeah, this group is really helpful. I'd have given up long before now without it.
I'm disappointed in my lack of weight loss. Think I'm substituting my wine " treat" with too many snacks.

I really need to do this, now I can think clearly.

Exactly the same here. I could not have done this without you all. Also was coming on to say am I the only one who actually gained weight! But I let exercise slip a bit and ate too much sugar so I know what caused it. Still thrilled that am I nearly 80 days without a drink.

I'm off on a week's holidays so won't be able to post for a while. I will be reading though. thanks to everyone.

I've put on weight too! But hopefully I've got a slimmer liver!

Morning all! I’m still keeping on keeping on…
We’re into our last 3 weeks of our reset now, so well done to everyone whatever your journey has been.
I’ve still not been properly tested yet, but must admit I’m getting the odd twinge now the weather is improving. I did enjoy a glass of wine in the garden, or a lovely beer garden after a long dog walk.
I’ve been musing recently about my daft drinking habits. My most favourite thing was the house to myself, nice bottle of wine, getting steadily pickled. What really odd behaviour if you actually think about it.
I very rarely had more than a couple when out because I wanted to stay in control of myself. So rather than letting loose and enjoying being tipsy, I’d always be desperately trying to look sober. Planning how I’d walk to the loo in a straight line and all that malarkey. After so long sober it seems truly bizarre.
All that said, I’m aware of how very easily I could slip back into it, so I’m determined to attempt the whole year.
Have a lovely weekend everyone and huge thanks to @therockingbird for starting this thread and to everyone who has contributed.

Morning all

Have had a quick read of the last page and sounds like you are all doing great. Checking in on day 80 😱🥳 to let you guys know that I am still dry, nearly one stone down in weight and have turned into a morning person getting up at 6am going to bed around 10pm. I am so thankful to each and everyone of you and to @therockingbird for starting this thread. My life has completely changed, I am still planning on going dry for the year and like @SwiftyFifty idea of mini 100 day count downs.

Have a fantastic weekend everyone 💐

Morning all, the sun’s out and I’ve actually had a great sleep yay.

Plan for today is to get the garden looking a bit brighter. Hot tub drained and refilled, tackle the mountain of cardboard I’ve somehow collected 🫣 and get the mower out for its first proper cut after strimming earlier this week.

I should add, I’m no gardener, just enthusiastic! I love a project though, and this year I’ve got plans to build a BBQ area… with two teenage boys, I’ve got built-in labour 💪

Had quite a triggering conversation last night. Someone I know (who’s aware I’ve stopped drinking) called me on her third bottle of wine and sounded completely normal..

If I’d had three bottles, I’d know about it. And I definitely wouldn’t be sitting here this morning planning my day in the garden. That level of tolerance doesn’t come from nowhere sadly, it’s built over years. She admitted she knows it’s not right, but not ready to stop.

And that’s the reality isn’t it - you have to be ready. You have to recognise it’s a problem and actually want to change. No alcohol changes more than you realise, the clarity, the energy, the headspace which was once just a blur. That’s exactly what we’ve all done and it’s a big deal 💪 Happy weekend all x

Morning all! I actually cannot believe I have been sober for 80 days - woah!!! I can’t stop looking at the number on my Try Dry app.

It sounds cheezy but last night I was thinking how grateful and amazed I am by my liver. I can’t quite believe my blood tests came back okay after everything I’ve put it through.

I’m also sooo grateful to everyone on this thread - as others have said, I would not have achieved this without you. Also I was only planning on doing Dry January and then stumbled across this thread instead!

It’s been a long time coming but I think I’ve finally reached a point where I don’t think about wine so much. The evenings are manageable without it and relaxing with a AF beer after a stressful day is starting to feel like my new normal. The only exception is social occasions where I feel quite miserable unless it’s close family (I don’t have social anxiety with them).

On that note, I’m gutted to say that a friend has invited me on a few days away over half term and I’ve said yes. It’ll be me and five other mums, some I don’t know very well, and there will obviously be lots of booze. I think I’m going to have to give myself a pass because I will hate every minute of it otherwise. BUT it means I won’t achieve my 100 day goal!

This is fantastic @Yearoftheskin. Even just the thought of opening up new possibilities is a great feeling isn’t it?

Morning everyone, I'm on day 76. I was very nearly on Day 1 again. I had the little voice in my head trying to convince me I deserved a drink last night, "go on its Saturday night" "your off tomorrow" "you've got the house to yourself" "just one night" "you've done so well you can control this". I didn't give in to it, because from experience I know deep down I can't control it eventually I'll be back to where I was 77 days ago, shaking like a leaf, throwing up down the toilet then sipping wine to stave the withdrawals. The first 5-7 days of this were hell for me why would I take the risk of putting myself through that again.
@freshstart2026 well done you've done amazing day 80 🎊.
It sounds like you've already made your decision to drink whilst your away with friends and under those circumstances I can imagine it would be hard to even consider not drinking. If and when you do at least you've had the past 80 days experience to do so mindfully.
This thread has been a huge support for me and I'm so grateful to wake up sober and hangover free this morning.
I'm still thinking about drinking and not sure if or when I will ever again but I won't today.

A slip up,or planned drinking,doesn't take you back to day 1. You still have your sober day count. I'm on day 76 without alcohol this year. Could have been 80 but also could have been zero so I'll take it!

Very true @Hedjwitch I suppose I do have a very black and white thinking around drinking, once I've had a drink I seem to open the floodgates.

So true. Also, if this is really going to be a life change then it’s not about hitting round numbers (as much as I love a round number lol) but about changing habits long term. If I do drink during my time away it will be a one-off that won’t detract from the 80 days I’ve had sober - and I’ll be back on the wagon straight afterwards.

@freshstart2026 would it be helpful to examine the social anxiety really deeply and consider why you feel the need to drink when you go away? I’m not in any way suggesting it’s the right or wrong choice, it’s YOUR choice absolutely, but can you sit with those feelings for a while and then examine them a little? Whatever you do, you’ve done and are doing amazing!

One of the guys on my training camp is an addict, 6 years clean and sober. He’s been on all 4 of the camps I’ve done as we are a training group at home too. We talk a lot, it’s difficult to explain here but I’ve learnt a lot from him. I’ve also seen him change over this time from newly clean and totally unconfident to comfortable in his own, sober self.

Home today and an easy sober week here for me, as most folk hardly drink. A few drinks were had yesterday on the last day, but even then those that drank only had a couple, and we all still had a great laugh - it’s been a refreshing environment to be in.

Brilliant @Yearoftheskin! We should rename you ‘comfortable in my own skin’!