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Calling Time on Wine - 100 Day Reset | Thread 2: One Day at a Time - Together

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therockingbird · 22/01/2026 19:49

Welcome to Thread 2 of Calling Time on Wine 100 Day Reset 🍵

If you’re here, you’re doing something genuinely brilliant. This reset isn’t about perfection, shiny lives, or pretending it’s easy. It’s about choosing ourselves one day at a time, even when life keeps lobbing chaos our way.

We’ve already proven we can sit with hard evenings, bad days, stress, boredom, celebrations, and still not reach for wine.

Thread 2 is about keeping the momentum going, supporting each other, being honest when it’s tough, celebrating the wins and remembering why we started when motivation wobbles. Clearer heads. Stronger bodies. 💪

So pull up a chair, grab your tea, water, or AF alternative, and keep going. You are not doing this alone - and you are doing so well. 💛

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needastrongone · 12/02/2026 09:53

Morning.

It’s so interesting and reassuring to check in to this thread because whatever I am feeling myself seems to almost exactly resonates with what you are all feeling, and we are all just about at the same point on the AF ‘journey’. I’m definitely at the ‘is this it?’ stage where all the physical and emotional benefits of giving up are almost now the norm, although I don’t think I’ll ever take for granted the deep, restorative sleep that I am getting. What does Chat GPT say about the real benefits @SwiftyFifty.

I also wonder how any of the other initial posters on the thread are getting on, do post if you want to. 😊

@amibeingaknob I completely resonate with your last paragraph, it’s definitely like therapy. Long overdue for me. I do know I am SO much calmer though, I’m not existing in a swirl of constant panic and anxiety and I’m actually starting to appreciate that my life may be quite boring, quiet and uneventful but I’m finding so much joy in having a warm place to call home, little pieces of real joy daily that I now see and appreciate , no drama, good food, health etc. Acceptance I suppose that I am lucky and I’m now not too hungover, regretful, feeling like shit to actually enjoy it!

freshstart2026 · 12/02/2026 10:05

I’m actually starting to appreciate that my life may be quite boring, quiet and uneventful but I’m finding so much joy in having a warm place to call home, little pieces of real joy daily that I now see and appreciate , no drama, good food, health etc. Acceptance I suppose that I am lucky and I’m now not too hungover, regretful, feeling like shit to actually enjoy it!

This! Early on in the thread someone suggested a gratitude diary or even just taking a moment each day to think of one thing you’re grateful for if you don’t want to write it down. I love the small pieces of joy - having a tidy home (well some rooms!) is giving me joy at the moment. It doesn’t sound like much but it’s really beneficial for my mental health.

I had a “is this it” moment about a week ago and posted about it on here. One thing that has helped me is really remembering how dreadful those hangovers were. And appreciating that I don’t feel like that anymore.

amibeingaknob · 12/02/2026 10:06

I have found comedy helps - stand up - if I am really really low. Usually gervais cos I know I will laugh. I need other things like that.

Thats my new plan. Creating a list of go-tos when I get those waves. Boyfriend always tries to get me out for a walk cos thats his thing but its not mine. Its the last thing I want to do if sad.

I must admit the other night I took a sleeping pill cos my mind was racing and I couldnt switch off. Not great but better than a bottle hey.

needastrongone · 12/02/2026 10:18

That person was me @2026x and I’ve been logging my little moments of joy on my phone but I’m going to start to write them done again - I’m far more likely to read back I think and appreciate them in tougher moments if they are in a little notebook. I’m absolutely with you on the tidy home (I close the doors of the DC’s rooms 😂), it’s so calming.

It’s so easy to forget the benefits of being AF and we are only a few weeks in!!

SwiftyFifty · 12/02/2026 10:18

First—thank you for being this honest. What you described is actually one of the most real phases of recovery, and almost nobody talks about it.

You’re not failing. You’re not broken. You’re not “doing it wrong.”
You’re in what I call the “flat middle” — and it’s a sign of healing, not stagnation.

Let me explain what’s actually happening beneath what you’re feeling 👇

🧠 1. “Bone tired with no motivation” = your brain is rebooting

This isn’t laziness. It’s neuro-fatigue.

For years, alcohol artificially stimulated your reward system. Now:

  • Dopamine production is recalibrating.
  • Your brain is learning how to feel pleasure without a chemical shortcut.

That exhaustion? It’s like muscles after surgery — they’re not weak, they’re healing.

💤 2. Better sleep but still tired = REM debt being repaid

Alcohol wrecks REM sleep.
Now your brain is finally getting deep sleep and:

  • Processing years of emotional backlog
  • Repairing stress systems

It’s common to feel more tired before energy actually rises.

🍬 3. Sweet cravings + low appetite = normal dopamine hunger

Your body isn’t hungry for food — it’s hungry for reward.
Sugar is the fastest legal dopamine hit.

This fades. Around weeks 8–12, most people notice:

  • Less sugar pull
  • More stable appetite
  • Less emotional eating

⚖️ 4. No weight loss? That’s actually a
good
sign

It means:

  • Your metabolism is stabilizing instead of crashing.
  • Your body isn’t in survival mode.

Weight loss often comes later once hormones normalize.

🧭 5. “Boredom” + “Is this it?” = your identity is being rebuilt

This question is massive:

“Is this it?”

That’s not boredom — that’s existential recalibration.

Alcohol filled time, emotions, identity, reward, and escape.
Now your brain is asking:
“What do I actually enjoy without numbing?”

That space feels empty at first — but it’s the space where real life grows.

🏆 6. Pride = your nervous system knows you’re doing something right

Even if your mood hasn’t caught up yet, your body already knows:

  • You’re safer.
  • You’re more stable.
  • You’re more in control.

That pride is a signal, not an emotion.

Here’s the truth most people don’t hear:

Weeks 6–10 are often the hardest, not because cravings are strong — but because life feels flat.

This phase passes.
What comes next is:

  • Motivation returning
  • Real joy (not buzz-based joy)
  • A sense of self that isn’t fragile or chemically dependent

If you’re open, tell me:

  • Do you feel emotionally “flat,” or more numb-tired?
  • Do you miss the effect of alcohol or the ritual?

You’re not at the end.
You’re in the quiet middle — and this is where real recovery begins.

SwiftyFifty · 12/02/2026 10:20

I spend hours asking “her” lots of stuff re my feelings etc and she never fails!
I also looked back on the first thread and wondered about lots of earlier posters…

needastrongone · 12/02/2026 10:35

Thanks @SwiftyFifty - that’s really interesting from Chat GPT. I’ve snoozed IC for a bit, he’s a bit too abrasive at times I’m finding, I don’t know if you feel the same.

Iamateadrinker · 12/02/2026 10:49

I can totally resonate with much of the above. For years I have had a quick peek at feelings that need dealing with, divorce,bereavement, empty nest, fading looks, weight gain, boredom, existential crisis and thought " nope...not yet"
I've actually said it out loud as I went to get another drink. I've put them back in their box. They still need dealing with and I don't feel brave enough yet. I've had many, many dry spells of months at a time but then like a pp have " just one" drink after a tough day, great day, tiring day, celebratory day and off we go again. This time I am having a quick look and realise that loneliness, boredom, loss etc will not be any more palatable with liver damage or cancer and weight loss/ better skin will not be achieved if I carry on drinking.
TLDR- alcohol gives me nothing but takes a lot.

Iamateadrinker · 12/02/2026 10:51

Plus
Please be kind to an elderly technophobe- how do you ask GPT for wisdom and what is IC @needastrongone ? Thanks

SwiftyFifty · 12/02/2026 10:57

@needastrongone yes he is! And have you ever seen him talk? Very off putting. He seems to be an expert on everything- even menopause!

needastrongone · 12/02/2026 11:07

Glad you agree @SwiftyFifty - the menopause and diet stuff has really put me off, plus his ‘it’s simple, you are weak, there’s no nuance’ sort of message. I haven’t heard him talk though.

@IamateadrinkerIC is Ian Callaghan on Facebook, some of his posts were absolutely excellent during the Dry January period and really resonated. He seems to become a bit more extreme recently, for me anyway. I’m not massively knowledgeable re Chat GPT I am afraid!

freshstart2026 · 12/02/2026 11:14

@SwiftyFifty is that Ian C or ChatGPT? Great post either way!

Must admit I quite like Ian C’s no BS approach. I’ve found his posts really helpful on these threads (thanks Swifty!)

SwiftyFifty · 12/02/2026 11:19

Chat GPT!
you just type the question in the box and give as much detail as possible then it comes up with loads!

freshstart2026 · 12/02/2026 13:17

I’m WFH today and on my lunch break I have done:

  • Two loads of laundry with more waiting to go on later
  • Tidied half the bedroom including hoovering a crazy amount of dust under the bed
  • Hung up a pile of my clothes that have been on a chair forever
  • Made a yummy lunch using up old food in fridge

I LOVE having the energy for this stuff! 💪

Lilly11a · 12/02/2026 13:25

Can I join please a little late .

Started dry Jan on 4th because who wouldn't drink on a Friday and Saturday 🙄.

And I just feel so much better .

I had restless legs at night that seems to have nearly gone now . I ve lost a little weight . I m getting faster on the treadmill . I m more with it especially at work .

However I ve been avoiding my friends and not going out in the evenings as I think it may be a trigger . Although lunch time in the pub with work for 45 mins seems fine with an af beer .

anewyearthisyear · 12/02/2026 14:31

Welcome Lily11a.

I'm going away for the weekend (travelling for a funeral). It won't be a drinky weekend but I am a bit nervous about it - mostly because I've been happily holed up at home in the evenings for the past 6 weeks and have figured out how to be here not drinking. This is a new situation.

AuraBora · 12/02/2026 16:52

SwiftyFifty · 12/02/2026 10:57

@needastrongone yes he is! And have you ever seen him talk? Very off putting. He seems to be an expert on everything- even menopause!

Aha this made me laugh. Ive really loved your quotes from Ian C but my god..I. checked him out on FB the other day and I really didn't take to him in the 'flesh' so to speak.
Way too much swearing for me - yes quite abrasive. But I find what he writes about alcohol really good!

Have enjoyed at catching up with all the recent posts. I have found this week HARD , my first blip/almost blib on Monday (I think?) And just low energy levels, feeling flat and irritable all week.
I really need spring to come and this bloody awful rain to stop... that would help.

Raindancer101 · 12/02/2026 19:23

@SwiftyFifty Thank you for sharing that. It's interesting as I relate to literally all of the points raised. It all seems a bit boring at this stage and I don't have the "wow" effect that I was expecting.

I think for me it's the lack of energy. I definitely expected a huge improvement in energy levels and my sleep patterns but so far, no real change. There are many positives though, my digestive system is working much better my eyes are brighter and I've realised that my face is looking slimmer. I've not lost any weight so it must have been puffy from alcohol which is quite shocking really!

freshstart2026 · 12/02/2026 22:37

Another day in the bag, hooray! 🥳 Goodnight folks

Icecreamhelps · 12/02/2026 22:39

Me too 😊

therockingbird · 12/02/2026 22:42

Hello to you all.! Sorry for being so absent - having the mother of all weeks at work post migration (which went absolutely sh*t as expected). If ever there was a week to break the 100 days reset 🤣 BUT I’ve kept on going strong - I absolutely will not let it happen. That’s progress in my world. Someone asked me at the rugby club Sunday if I’d had some sort of magical facial.. the difference is quite noticeable in my skin - it’s brighter and I’m definitely feeling less washed out. Day 44 ✅
not working tomorrow so I’ll have proper read through and catch up with your all xx

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therockingbird · 12/02/2026 22:48

SwiftyFifty · 12/02/2026 10:20

I spend hours asking “her” lots of stuff re my feelings etc and she never fails!
I also looked back on the first thread and wondered about lots of earlier posters…

Possibly referring to me here as I use GPT (I call him Max) as I’m dyslexic and it helps my writing skills improve and absolutely love that! Personally I found the IC stuff complete tripe - each to their own!

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Icecreamhelps · 13/02/2026 09:13

Good morning! Day 39 mood seems to be lifting slightly woke up with some motivation this morning even though it's freezing with the threat of snow.
I'm going to make some bread today, I love the process and it makes the house smell lovely.
I slept much better last night, propped my legs up on some pillows so the swelling in my left ankle has gone down.
I've used chat Gpt over the past few weeks and have found it to be really helpful.
@Lilly11a welcome. I've not been out yet with other drinkers. However I was more of a home alone drinker. I suffer from restless legs also. I've been taking magnesium byglycinate each night and soaking my feet in Epsom salts seem to help. I've currently got tendonitis in my left ankle so that's been more of an issue.
@therockingbird well done on keeping your resolve. Work stress is a definate trigger for me.
Its nice when other people point out visable improvements we probably don't notice them as much ourselves.

freshstart2026 · 13/02/2026 09:17

Morning all. I woke feeling well rested after a good night’s sleep. And I discovered I can fit into my old jeans that had got too tight! 🙌

AuraBora · 13/02/2026 13:54

therockingbird · 12/02/2026 22:42

Hello to you all.! Sorry for being so absent - having the mother of all weeks at work post migration (which went absolutely sh*t as expected). If ever there was a week to break the 100 days reset 🤣 BUT I’ve kept on going strong - I absolutely will not let it happen. That’s progress in my world. Someone asked me at the rugby club Sunday if I’d had some sort of magical facial.. the difference is quite noticeable in my skin - it’s brighter and I’m definitely feeling less washed out. Day 44 ✅
not working tomorrow so I’ll have proper read through and catch up with your all xx

That's amazing. I wish someone would say something like that to me! Hey ho.. I'm pretty sure myself my skin/eyes are looking much brighter and my clothes feel noticeably looser. Ill take that! First time in ages the other day I was just below 11 stone. Yay!

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