Calling Time on Wine - 100 Day Reset | Thread 2: One Day at a Time - Together

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Welcome to Thread 2 of Calling Time on Wine 100 Day Reset 🍵

If you’re here, you’re doing something genuinely brilliant. This reset isn’t about perfection, shiny lives, or pretending it’s easy. It’s about choosing ourselves one day at a time, even when life keeps lobbing chaos our way.

We’ve already proven we can sit with hard evenings, bad days, stress, boredom, celebrations, and still not reach for wine.

Thread 2 is about keeping the momentum going, supporting each other, being honest when it’s tough, celebrating the wins and remembering why we started when motivation wobbles. Clearer heads. Stronger bodies. 💪

So pull up a chair, grab your tea, water, or AF alternative, and keep going. You are not doing this alone - and you are doing so well. 💛

First foray to the pub tonight. Had three AF lagers and a good time!! Loved being able to drive home and not walk or piss about trying to get a taxi. In my jamas with a sleepy tea feeling much better than last night. Thanks ladies 💓

You do what you got to do at this early stage. I’m not comfortable with going out yet so haven’t. Not sure I can get my head around a kids party in a pub to be fair 😆 although the juniors leavers party I organised a couple of years back in a rather swish venue with a bar with 94 kids and just as many parents ended up quite a piss up!! I was known for my parties .. and that one was epic. I’ll never forget going back to the venue the morning after - probably still half cut to tidy up. I should stress no children were drunk but many adults were 🙈

Evening all! @EnjoythemoneyJaneif you like AF Erdinger you might also like leffe. It’s my go-to AF beer. Well done on your AF trip.

I’ve put both kids to bed tonight (we usually do one each) and it struck me how much more I enjoy it sober. I quite liked it when I was drinking but it’s so much more enjoyable now. It makes me a bit sad to think how much I’ve missed out on to be honest. I’ve been there, I’ve done it but I’ve not been there 100% on so many days. ☹️ I know there is nothing I can do about the past but I need to keep that thought in mind as motivation for the future.

It’s a big function room at a pub TBF - quite a good set-up for parties but obviously alcohol will be very much available!

I’m tucked up in bed and feeling proud to have gotten through another day sober. I have moments when I miss wine (like earlier) and others where this really does feel like my new normal… almost. Night all!

Evening all, I made the ginger switchel I'm just enjoying a glass now with sparkling water it's delicious. It prompted me to clear out my spice and tinned cupboards, the amount of out of date stuff was insane. Four jars of of peanut butter, several jars of garam masala stuff I didn't even remember buying like pomegranate syrup obviously for a recipe I'd seen when a few glasses of wine deep but never got round to doing.

Sooo satisfying having a clearout isn’t it? I’m doing the same as I’ve neglected jobs like that for way too long. I always thought I didn’t have the time but the reality was, I was spending most of my time drinking or being hungover!

Good morning all on what is my day 39. DH woke me twice in the night snoring (again 😡) so am feeling tired this morning. Don’t have much on today luckily other than continuing with the aforementioned clearout! My aim is to have gone through every room in the house by the end of the month, though that might be ambitious. I do find having a tidy and organised house is so good for my mental health.

I still haven’t managed to establish a skincare routine yet despite buying all the stuff - I must do that. And book that blimmin blood test I still haven’t got round to! It’s on my list for next week.

Have a good Sunday everyone 💪

Morning day 34 for me. I had a terrible night's sleep as well just couldn't nod off. My mind was going over a few things that I've noticed like my bath seal is leaking, the shed roof is leaking. When I finally nodded off at around 3am one of the DC must have closed my bedroom door so the cat couldn't get in it then proceeds to dig a hole in the hallway carpet.
Anyhow I've forced myself out of bed at 7am, put a towel wash on I'm now preparing a Sunday Roast.

@freshstart2026 I am feeling a bit overwhelmed by how much I've let things go around the house. But I'm just chipping away each day now I'm getting some energy back. It is really helping my mental health and giving me a bit of a dopamine hit.

It is really helping my mental health and giving me a bit of a dopamine hit.

100%. Sounds like you’re having a productive morning already despite being tired!

I’m also tired but keep thinking how much worse I’d feel if I’d drank a bottle of wine or more last night. Thinking about it, I honestly don’t know how I got through life feeling rough for so much of it!

Glad you enjoyed the ginger switchel. I much prefer it to sweet fizzy drinks. Its delicious AND healthy!

Well done @MysticHalfWitch ! 👏

@freshstart2026 exactly this. I’m sleeping well now yet still feel tired and lethargic. I have NO IDEA how I functioned previously. 40 days today and whilst I’m feeling calm and relaxed, I still have very little energy or enthusiasm and just want to sit on my own all weekend watching tv. Hardly an advert for being alcohol free…. I’m hoping by March I get a surge of energy.

@SwiftyFifty I’m struggling to motivate myself today too. And I can’t blame drinking this time, lol. I’m going to give myself 10 minutes to scroll on my phone and will then force myself to do some chores.

Not had a drop since xmas day. Another social night out done AF and my reflections. I just prefer it - I have better conversations, Im still able to engage and have a laugh, in fact I have more deep and meaningfuls which I love. I do get more tired earlier still. Last night I was wilting by 10.30 whereas pissed me never wants the night to be over and is usually pushing others to stay til midnight. Ive also realised that I had just come to expect - fun night out equals rough morning next day. Its like your penance for the fun night, and I just had come to expect that as the norm. Now Im loving that I have these super fun lovely nights without the tax. Its awesome!

I am no lighter, bar a few pounds maybe, so that sucks. BUT I am eating more than ever, and sweeter stuff too (never had a sweet tooth before), and Im eating like a horse. If I ate like this whilst still drinking Id be the size of a house by now - as it goes Im still normal BMI so thats awesome. Im really enjoying not having to watch what I eat because I always did before- often fasting, just so I could drink.

I am loving all the lovely soft drinks out there too - my fridge is full of them now and I dont save them for evenings. Has anyone found a nice AF prosecco that is no/low calories? The nozecco is 200 and id rather none or minimal if I can find it.

Well done everyone. Sounds like we are all learning so much about ourselves and this habit hey. Its quite eye opening.

Finally got my arse in gear and doing some long overdue chores. DH off to the kids party with a bad hangover as he went out with his brother yesterday. He feels rotten. I do NOT miss that feeling!

Just found some old journals whilst clearing out dated 2022, 2019. It was interesting reading them and reading how positive I was on my early attempts at being sober then my relapses and how vowed to only drink once a month, never at home alone etc. Yet here I am again it has made me think I don't think I can be a moderate drinker. This has made me feel quite sad.

I fully accept that if I was capable of being a moderate drinker I would have done it already. I’m all or nothing. I need to keep this streak going as long as I possibly can as goodness knows how long it would take me to build this sort of momentum again! I figure the longer I continue the more my poor body can heal and repair.

Feeling very contented today. Day 40 feels like a nice number. Had a good work out this morning and we have a Sunday roast on the go. I’m calm and happy.

@Icecreamhelpswow - that must be fascinating and also hard to read. I think in retrospect it’s easy to kid ourselves that maybe we didn’t try very hard last time so this time will definitely be different… seeing it in black and white must really bring it home how hard you tried to moderate last time, and that ultimately it failed. I think sometimes we need to accept that what we really want is just not available to us (I’m not saying this is the case for you but a more general point) - that for some of us, it will simply never work and the decision to moderate is only ever ultimately a decision to end up exactly where we were last time. That realisation is similar to a grieving process in many ways. Grief for the moderate drinker that you finally have to accept you will never be. Food for thought, for sure.

I love that feeling ❤️

Just worked out on Im on day 48! Unreal. Feeling very smug right now. 😄

Afternoon.

I’m still here too, finally surfacing from being a snotty mess to a functioning human again! Rarely ill, and this one knocked the stuffing out of me for a few days.

@Icecreamhelps I’m adding notes to the Try Dry App as I tick off the AF days. I’ll be interested to look back. Don’t feel sad. You’ve learnt something about yourself, and that is empowering. I find moderating exhausting - the constant mental argument in your head about whether it’s a drinking night and how many and how many days before you’re ‘allowed’ to have a drink again etc.

Keep that thought about the body repairing @GreenCherriesand enjoy the roast, I’ve got a huge chicken broth in the slow cooker. Well done on 40. A nice clean number as you say.

Another postive night out AF @amibeingaknob. Perhaps all the positive associations we can make with AF experience will encourage the neural connections to re-route in a much different way and replace the ones that we felt needed to involve alchohol .

I had one glass of wine a couple of weeks ago, that tasting nothing like as marvellous as I wanted it to and wrecked my sleep and therefore taught me a lesson on my bumpy sober path. Otherwise AF since Boxing Day, which is 44 days. Love it and love this thread. ❤️. I love that we think and discuss and explore our feelings and relationships around alcohol rather than endure 100 days together like some punishment until we can drink again x

I’m in a pub having a roast. No urges at all for a drink! I will have pudding though..

40 days done and I'm dead proud of that!

I went out for a curry with friends this weekend. Had a little pang where I remembered that alcohol and curry is a match made is heaven but moved past it. I've
finally parted with the open 1/3 of a bottle that's been in the fridge since Xmas and poured it down the sink today.

The lack of energy I have is horrific though. I've literally fell asleep on the sofa yesterday and today mid afternoon. I don't nap, wtf. Wanting to have more energy and be brighter was a big reason for wanting to do this and if anything I have less and I'm more tired. It's so disappointing, I hope the energy increases soon

Just come to catch up - I didnt actually realise I'd got to 40 days. Weirdly I'm not really counting this time around - I think because really my goal is to be a non- drinker - i.e. stay dry. Not to diminish anyone's achievement here, it's just recognising a change in my own mindset from where I was last year.

I met up with my mum after a trip to the cinema today and she asked me if I'd like a wine, coffee or something else. Normally she'd not suggest a coffee- i haven't told her at all about being dry - it's like she sensed it! Maybe she noticed ive lost a few pounds and put two and two together (last time i lost weight was from not drinking!)

This was my first trip to the cinema in over a year and it was bliss. I was running late as got slowed down by some flooded roads (Dp driving and kids in car,but they were going to the park).
I realised if I were drinking i would actually have been getting agitated at the idea of not having time to get a nice drink to take in with me (it's a nice cinema with a bar etc).. how sad is that? But I felt really quite joyful at the realisation I wasn't bothered about a drink at all, and was relaxed because I didn't need or fancy one! I also felt more relaxed during the film, no needing the toilet or feeling sleepy! So much for thinking drinking relaxes you!

BTW the film was History of Sound. Wonderful film (for me, anyway, may not be to everyone's taste, but I thought it was beautiful, the story and the music, and the slow.pace).

I know what you mean about energy levels.
I definitely feel better in the morning but afternoons are no different and in the evenings I definitely feel more tired than I do when drinking. Like someone said before on here, it's that sort of false sense of energy drinking gives you in the evening.
Also been getting quite a few headaches.. annoying!

Hoping eventually things will shift a bit as time goes on.

Oh and well done for chucking the vino away. Did it feel weird doing that?