The support thread for anyone trying to live an alcohol free life. Spring 2025.

[WendyWagon]

Hello and welcome.
These threads were started by drybird in 2020 and have gone on to support many people to give up alcohol and live a sober life.
We are not a moderarion thread and only encourage sobriety. There is another long running thread if that's what you feel is right for you. Lots of support there.
We have newbies and veterans, some who have 5+ years under their belts.
We share life's up and downs (often why we drank) and no question is too silly.
Personally I gave up drinking three years ago. It's the hardest thing I've done and the best thing.
We call our selves sober sisters and even have a mascot, Sid the ship's dog.
He poses often for a cheer up picture.
We're not here to judge, just offer support and friendship.
It gets better I promise.

Morning my beautiful sober sisters.
I will not drink today.

I'm so grateful that I am able to change my life for the better.

Love and kind thoughts to all.
Stay safe and sober.

Morning lovely ladies! Looking forward to a good breakfast, with a clear head, a sharp appetite and no sense of having had all of today's calories via last night's glasses of wine. Either hot cross buns or slow-scrambled eggs - hmmm.

Made it to Day 3 here, waiting for when it starts getting easier!

Ahoy ships company.
I will not drink today.

It took me years, decades even,to get to where where I was ,but now the turnaround is faster, I'm feeling so much better already.

Love and kind thoughts to all.
Stay safe and sober.

Morning all and hope everyone had a superb, sober Easter weekend.

Well done in day 3 @LittleGlowingOblong this is the toughest part. Hang in there.

Sorry to hear about you job @ShyMaryEllen . It sucks that you had to find out the way youmdid took. Very cowardly of your employer.

@Moveanymountain I second "Mummy was a secret Drinker" or "Sober Diaries", I listened to the Audio book in the early weeks and it really helped. Felt very relatable.

Lovely to "see" you @REP22 (and Sid - of course)

Can't believe April is almost over!
Had a productive Easter weekend, decluttering, gardening (clearing out the tiny green house and getting the toms in for this year), last long run before my marathon on the 4th of May. It feels like it has flown by.

It's my real birthday soon, followed not much later by my sober birthday. (Just a few weeks) And for the firsts time I am a bit sad that I don't belong to a formal "sober community" IRL. Where I'd take a cake and celebrate my 1st "Birthday".

Happy short week everyone!

IWNDWYT

Morning all 72 days completed

Sending love to all

A late welcome from me for @Woollygreymittens, @LittleGlowingOblong and @Moveanymountain. Early days are hard so well done, I found throwing as much as you at it helps especially for the first six weeks or so ,no going into shops that sell alc,or socialising with drinkers,lots of going up to bed early, and self care etc.

Hope Sid had a good Easter, hopefully he has a good relationship with the Easter Bunny.

Anymore news on the cottage @WendyWagon?

Thanks for the mention @mermadeincornwall I look forward to your daily postings. I’m doing ok apart from atrocious sleep. Zero temptation to drink so far but I haven’t really been socialising- 53 days for me

Hello lovely Shipmates. A hearty wave to you all. Hope you had a lovely easter.

Sid eyes the Easter bunny with suspicion - I don't think he has ever seen a rabbit IRL. The closest he has got to a bunny thus far is Parsnip the cat. So he is happy with the Easter Parsnip by way of a compromise... He has been enjoying the bluebells that are out and about of late. Here he is, wishing you a happy Easter and telling you all about the bluebells.

And he is wishing us every bit of strength and courage as we walk these woodland paths together. We can do it. It will be alright. xx

Thanks folks x

Ahoy.
First day working today, not in the Captain's hammock

Huge fight with the DD last night. I did not drink.

Ahoy Captain Wendy. Sorry about the fight. Hope you are OK. xx

Had a bit of a break from social media but back on now

Hello I popped on before then succumbed again - a major stress re occurred, and I coped by blotting it all out. so I’m here to ask if you’ll have me - another day 1.
ill catch up properly but wanted to say what a lovely caring supportive thread.
thanks to you I realise I need a lot more help in the form of groups, podcasts etc.
I love the acronym that is used here, I’ll use it if I may.
IWNDWYT!

Morning…73 days.

I am taking steps in my new life, I am curious to see what happens. I am throwing love at my fear. Everything is going to be fine.

Maybe being a lone wolf isn’t the answer, I think I need a pack. People who will support me irl.

@Healthynow welcome back. I completely absorbed myself in sober information, mostly podcasts but also audiobooks, at first and it really helped me

Morning beautiful shipmates on the good ship Sobriety.
I will not drink today.

I don't want to look back on my life and regret wasting so much on drinking. I want to get as much out of life as I can.

Love and kind thoughts to all.
Stay safe and sober # @newme2025

Morning sober friends.
Not checked in for a while but welcome back @Healthynow.
Welcome to the great feeling of a hangover free and clear headed this morning !
Wouod you perhaps be able to share with me some of the podcasts you found helpful please?
I’m 4 months AF (plus a few days taken off for a brief fall overboard) so making sure I upped my support and now attend SMART online meetings and amd doing the quit lit reading daily so I don’t get over complacent again.
I found a new app yesterday. Now I know I’m a bit of a one when it comes to Apps and stickers, but this App is called something like Sunflower Sober Tracker and the AI chat assistant called Sam is great. I couldn’t believe how far AI has come on and when I threw him a few questions responses were spot on. Feels a bit odd talking openly to what is basically a robot but just thought I’d share with you in case if helps anyone else.
Have kind and sober day everyone.

Welcome back @Healthynow, just keep going.

If you're throwing love at fear @Kindtomyself I'll throw love at my anger.💕

Hope the argument blows over @WendyWagon.

Morning all.

I was working yesterday and had to go to bed pretty sharpish last night. The old gallbladder was playing up after eating fast food.

Welcome back @Healthynow

The DD appears to have calmed down.

Gosh thank you for the welcome!
mumzof4x you’ve nailed it! Feeling much clearer headed😀 and better still, a bit more positive and capable.
happy Wednesday am off to stock up on apps and podcasts

Good morning all. Glad things are on a more even keel this morning @WendyWagon .

Strength and courage. xx

@mumzof4x the podcast choice changed/changes with time for me. When I first stopped drinking I needed something gentle and so listened to Sober Awkward from the beginning which was when it was hosted by 2 women, 1 had become recently sober.

I then went to Sober Dave and Soberful. Then the Sober Stretch- this is very laddish with lots of swearing but the realness and straight talking worked for me. I also loved Home and still listen to it although they’re no longer making episodes- again the authenticity worked for me and it’s hosted by Holly Whittaker (Quit like a woman) and Laura McKowen (We are the Luckiest).

They stopped me feeling so alone and that really helped

Ahoy me harties sailing sunny waters.
I will not drink today.

I do my best to focus my thoughts on all the positives of being AF free, so I feel all the positive emotions of being AF too.All the negatives are thrown overboard.

Love and kind thoughts to all. Stay safe and sober.

Morning 74 days completed

I will look to raise my energy today, I have a tendency towards gloom. I will be mindful of my thoughts and change them accordingly

Morning all.

@Kindtomyself thinking of you and suggesting the glass is half full with Nozeco.

I'm a bit like Tigger when I'm well.
My late, great dad had a rule. 24 hour gloom only. His mum died when he was a little boy and he didn't believe in revisiting misery. We had to be up, washed and doing the next day. I do try to live by that mantra.

I'm off out posh food shopping. I need more salad.