On a mission to moderate or absolutely abstaining - new thread for summer 2024

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The last thread got full before a new one could be started. I’ve tried to tag some of the regular posters but I don’t really know what I’m doing! Let me know if this works and please tag people I’ve missed.

Well I've done absolutely shit this week. Succumbed to the WW yet again. I think I've drank at least a bottle every other night this week 🤦‍♀️ I'm meant to be on slimming world so obviously I'm fucking that up too.

Away next week but staying with in-laws who don't drink thankfully. Ffs. What the fuck is wrong with me

It’s hard @enoughisenough4. Very hard.

I celebrated my good liver result on Tuesday with wine! Only one glass though.

Came away for a couple of nights to see my MIL and check some things at her house so I’ve been in a hotel and I have had wine each night. Two glasses only though. One before dinner and one with. So not too bad.

@Peridot1 that's good moderating. I have times when I can do - it feels great.
@enoughisenough4 just keep trying. It's not easy I know but just put it behind you. I hated slimming world for that reason - 150 syns in a bottle of wine 🤣 ( though I do like the plan).
I drank yesterday - I'm scared to say how much 🥴.

Oh well, at least I know I won't drink today.

@Amdone123 oh go on, if it's more than me it'll make me feel better 😂😂

Im definitely going to have to cut down for health reasons. My heart is definitely more prominent and faster the next day and I need to really think about what that means for me if I put it through it so often 🤦‍♀️

@Peridot1 one or two glasses at a time definitely isn't too bad!

@enoughisenough4 ok 🤣 dh brought me a bottle of champagne so we had that at 11am - I say We - he had a sip then conked out for 10 hours, Jet lagged.
I managed to ignore the craving til 4pm when I ran to the shop and bought 2 bottles of wine. There was 1 glass left this morning.
🥴

Hope you re all doing well. On Day 11 AF here and feeling good.

A few thoughts:

I ve come to the conclusion that Wine is my best friend.

Why ?

She is there for me in the good times and the bad times
She celebrates with me when things are going great
She calms and relaxes me when I m stressed.
She is great fun
She consoles me when I ve had a shit day.
She understands me
She empathises with me. She is always there for me.
She is constant with her support.

But for the past 11 days I am ghosting her because :

She makes me feel anxious
She makes me feel paranoid
She helps me fall asleep but it's not a restful sleep and she makes me look exhausted and bloated in the morning
She makes me put on weight
She is costing me a fortune
She is not good for my health
She doesn't bring out the best in me.
She is not a good friend.

I am under no illusion that it's early days and I will succumb to her charms again but not today. I will let her back in but I have to be mindful of her. But not today!

@Wakeupcall12 well done on Day 11 - you're doing really well.
Yes to all that regarding the wine. It's all so true. I'm hungover today and look awful. The house is a mess because I cba, I've eaten rubbish and I'm contemplating getting a takeaway.
Wine costs me a fortune the day after.
Keep going and ghosting the betch.

@Amdone123 we've all been there, otherwise we wouldn't be on this thread! Don't beat yourself up. Hope you feel better soon!

Love this @Wakeupcall12, what a great way to see it!

Morning all! AF day 4 here. Might not last as have nearly all my DC for dinner tonight, plus a few DGC. Feeling as if on a good roll. Been hyper busy. No nibbling. No weight loss (groan).
@Wakeupcall12 love it, so true. Always there to help pull us down. Well done on day 11. Am very admirative.
@Amdone123 yesterday is now the past. Upwards and onwards and hope you'll feel better once you've rehydrated yourself. Don't beat yourself up. We all know how it feels.
Wine costs us a fortune, before and after, plus the amount that gets poured down the drain here is so wasteful, money wise. I think I might freeze it in batches to use for cooking. Would feel less like pouring money down the drain, literally.
Weather still not too good here, cloudy, a lot of thunder storms have been forecasted. Lovely summer weather, not.
Hope you all have a lovely Saturday. SSS

Morning, all. Thanks @Nowstrong , I'm all good. Well, I am today. Yesterday I felt awful, but dh and I sat in bed all day, watching TV and eating chocolate. We had a laugh and was a lovely day, really so I'm ok.
Well done on Day 4 : hope you're able to moderate later.

Football party later but I've only bought 1 bottle of wine, and a few beers. I want to feel OK Sunday so I can walk for a few hours.
That's the plan anyway.

Morning all.

a day in bed eating chocolate and watching tv sounds lovely @Amdone123.

I am now back home after my couple of nights away. Drank last night but that’s fine as it’s the weekend. Limited myself to two glasses of white and then two of red. I felt I was conscious of not wanting to have a third glass of red which previously would have been a given. I sipped the last glass quite slowly and made it last through two tv programmes. It’s the taste I love and really small sips still give me that.

Going to friends next door for dinner tonight so hoping to stay in control. I don’t usually! My neighbour is pretty sensible with her alcohol intake so I shall try to emulate her and switch to water when she does.

@Peridot1 how did you get on last night ?
I stuck to 1 bottle which I sipped quite slowly. In fact, it lasted from 2pm til about 7pm, which is a record for me. Had a few beers, too.
I'm not hungover today just tired.
I've decided I'm an angel through the week ( food and drink), then weekend I'm the devil in disguise.

@Amdone123 - not quite as well as I might have! Neighbour drank more than normal so I’m blaming her! I did refuse more late on as it would have meant them opening another bottle just for me as the men were on the whisky by then. I drank some water for a while and then came home and left DH there. So not too bad really.

You sound like you’ve done ok too. Sipping is the way forward I have decided rather than big gulps to get as much down me as I can!

And I so relate to the being an angel in the week and a devil at the weekend. Although I was being a devil seven days a week for a long time so even some angelic time is a bonus!

Afternoon, another devil here. A Saturday night one. Had a great evening with DC and DGD, but we had way too much to drink (the adults anyway), went to bed way later than usual, didn't sleep too good. Feel tired today. So upped my hydration and taking the DGC to the cinema later on, to deposit them home afterwards. Tonight will anything light, lots of water and early to bed.
Then another AF week ahead. Pretty busy week too, so should be fairly easy.
Off to see film. Enjoy the rest of the day. Take care and SSS.

Afternoon everyone , sorry haven’t been posting lately , home life is awful. Done really well last week , mon-Fri af , then Saturday . I went to pub for football up town as working up there , then met friends afterwards and I can’t even remember how much I drank, woke up next morning feeling awful and still drunk. Yesterday was awful for a lot of reasons and I drank heavy last night, I think I am going to go back to my flat for foreseeable future and I just can’t see me being af at all. I just need something to take away the stress and knock me out. I’ll have to deal with things tomo morning but at least I’ll get some sleep. I’m sorry I have engaged with other peoples posts , I have read them. Everything just getting on top at moment and all I want to do is blot it out for now , I know it’s wrong but I can’t face being on my own with my thoughts , I need to blot it out

@Jbob1976 sorry to hear you're having such a tough time. Don't worry about posting - post when you can. You don't have to reply to individuals either - just do it your own way.
I hope things improve for you ❤️
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Hi there @Jbob1976 - I was keeping an eye out for you.

So sorry that you're going through so much. I was wondering how you are.

You are a very strong person - much much stronger than you think. You obviously have a lot put on you that you have to deal with, yet you don't give up.

Keep posting when you can. Every small change or challenge you overcome makes a difference to the overall outcome. Be kind to yourself, your posts show you are a lovely, caring person and we care about you xxx

@Jbob1976 please don't apologise for not engaging as much. We are here for you without conditions and there is no requirement to reply to everyone before you shout out for help.

I'm sorry you're going through a hard time. Mon-Fri AF is still amazing. Think how far you've come from that very post you sent where you were scared to go to sleep because you hadn't had a drink. That wasn't that long ago! Fast forward to now and Mon-Fri AF is amazing! You are doing really well. Hang on in there and keep posting. We are all here supporting you and cheering you on

Morning all! I'm on your team too @Jbob1976, don't worry about posting here or tagging people, we're still thinking of you and cheering you on. You've got at lot going on at the moment, take your time, love yourself and don't underestimate yourself. You are stronger than you think.
AF day 3 here. One day at a time. Very busy still. Weather seems to have brightened up, but I've washed my car so it's going to rain. Again.
Sending positive vibes to all. Waving to fellow devils and cheering on the angels. SSS

Hear hear!

I had wine last night as there is a bottle open but DH was going to a meeting after dinner so I knew I wouldn’t be tempted to have more and I wasn’t. So just had one glass. Then I switched to mint tea.

@Peridot1 well done on the 1 glass and switching to tea, that's great.
I'm with you @Nowstrong day 3 and busy. Also, feeling good today as yesterday was really positive too.
My 31st wedding anniversary today ( 🥉) - dh suggested a meal out but I don't want to do it for the sake of it !
He's easy, probably why we're still together 🤣.

Happy Anniversary @Amdone123!

Thank you all for your kind words, got me choked up. @Amdone123 congratulations 31 years, amazing achievement. Drank heavily again last night and felt terrible this morning , that’s 3 days on the trot and I can’t see me not drinking tonight. It’s crazy as I feel rubbish , my anxiety going through the roof , feeling emotional again. I have drink in so will drink tonight and try my hardest tomorrow. Problem is I’m now on my own at my flat and I hate it and I drink to cope. Then again being at the house is even worse , some situation. So much of wishes I could be brave and strong but I just can’t , and the drink wins. I think this toxic home life is doing me nothing but harm, I done over 20 days af last month which I probably one of my biggest achievements of my adult life.