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rogueone · 28/06/2024 20:30

Happy Friday! Great job @AFmammaG my urges have eased off now- I just get bored!

AFmammaG · 30/06/2024 09:36

How is everyone this morning? I’m feeling a bit lost. I drank last night. I’d been thinking about it all day in my head and now I feel rotten this morning. We are halfway through 2024 and I’m no further forward.

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rogueone · 30/06/2024 09:52

AFmammaG · 30/06/2024 09:36

How is everyone this morning? I’m feeling a bit lost. I drank last night. I’d been thinking about it all day in my head and now I feel rotten this morning. We are halfway through 2024 and I’m no further forward.

Take this as a blip- I have had so many ups and downs. I can spend days thinking about drinking and using excuses to go to the shops to get wine. It took me being ill to not drink atm. It’s the guilt the next day and you end up back thinking you have failed and drink again. Today is a new day- when you get an urge do something else- I take my dog out- or do a work out and head to bed early - I haven’t drank for two weeks and my fear when I do is that I go back to drinking every day- it is a battle but we will get there

Castlerigg · 30/06/2024 09:56

Hi, I've been lurking a while on this thread, whilst attempting to ditch the wine on weekday evenings. You all seem really supportive.

@AFmammaG Sorry you're feeling bad this morning. But it's not true to say you're no further on. How many dry days have you had in the first half of this year, compared to the same period last year? You're doing great, and drinking less than you were, you should really give yourself some credit for that.

My habit has been to have a couple of drinks most nights. Not huge quantities, but it was the fact that it was becoming an ingrained habit that concerned me, and how hard it is to resist.

Oddly, knowing I needed to drink less didn't spur me on, but needing to lose weight seems to have done. When I started strictly logging everything I ate and drank on My Fitness Pal, and trying to stay under a calorie limit, I decided I had better put those calories to better use.

This past week I didn't drink Mon-Wed, so that's three dry days. My plan is to replace weeknight wine with naice tea, so I bought some Pukka ones, but didn't realise they were mostly camomile. They were horrible, so I'll stick with the rooibos.

Pippa246 · 30/06/2024 10:24

Morning all. I’ve been a bit MIA just with general business/work etc but still AF - day 11 today.

sorry to hear that folks are struggling - it’s such a bloody hard slog isn’t it? But we’ve all been there so no judgement- only massive support. @AFmammaG @CoffeeLover90 (And anyone else struggling).

I have a big event coming up and I went dress shopping a week or so ago - it was so depressing as I literally could not get anything to fit me nicely. I’m short and overweight and everything was either too long/too short or showed too much cleavage. My friend was at a wedding and posted a picture online in which she looked fabulous - nothing too fancy but just a lovely dress that fitted really well. I just want to be able to look nice like she did!! If I was about 2 stone lighter, I’d have fitted well into some of the petite section dresses I saw but they just looked horrendous on a size 14/16.

So I am definitely framing being AF as a wellbeing goal. I’m 4 stone heavier than when I got married and at 5’2” I just cannot carry it. I HATE being this size and I can’t even buckle up my sandals as my belly gets in the way. So no free calories from booze than you very much. DH offered me a glass of wine on Thursday night and it was actually easy to say no thanks when I thought of the calories. Plus I read somewhere that drinking means your liver has to abandon all other tasks to get rid of the alcohol - so your other “healthy” calories don’t get burned off so it’s a double whammy.

So I’m focusing on getting fitter and losing weight and alcohol just does not fit in to that plan. So far it’s helping - and I’m finding my thoughts drifting to what I can do to help me reach my goals rather than to missing drinking, if that makes sense? It’s like having sparkling water is a true choice rather than a penance!

anyway that turned into a bit of an essay lol. Hope everyone has a great Sunday and let’s all KOKO ❤️

Oopsdiditagain · 30/06/2024 10:26

Morning all.
Don’t beat yourself up & hope you’re ok? I also drank last night @AFmammaGfor absolutely no reason, no special occasion & not out, I was just at home with hubby & watching Glastonbury….drank 1 &1/2 bottles & can’t really remember going to bed, that’s 2 Saturdays in a row now, so annoyed at myself xx

CoffeeLover90 · 30/06/2024 15:10

AFmammaG · 30/06/2024 09:36

How is everyone this morning? I’m feeling a bit lost. I drank last night. I’d been thinking about it all day in my head and now I feel rotten this morning. We are halfway through 2024 and I’m no further forward.

But think how much you would have had in the last six months, if you hadn't made changes.
That is a win
Having 300/365 days AF is better than only 100/365

I believe in you. I'm starting to believe in myself. Thought it would be a quick fix. But you've all shown me it's not. It's long, it's hard and we need to concentrate on the positives not the blips.

AFmammaG · 01/07/2024 07:48

Thank you for the words of encouragement everyone.

It’s the first of the month. I am going to go for a dry July. I need another attempt. Does anyone fancy joining me? A month of clear heads, good sleep and no regrets!

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CoffeeLover90 · 01/07/2024 07:57

AFmammaG · 01/07/2024 07:48

Thank you for the words of encouragement everyone.

It’s the first of the month. I am going to go for a dry July. I need another attempt. Does anyone fancy joining me? A month of clear heads, good sleep and no regrets!

I will try. Due to the blips the last 3 weeks, I don't want to promise and feel let down. But I will try!

AFmammaG · 01/07/2024 09:16

@CoffeeLover90 I’m also not making any promises 😆 would be great to have some company.

Day 1 👊

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AFmammaG · 01/07/2024 09:17

I’m going to try and get back to posting every day. Stop hiding and be accountable. I can do this!

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AFmammaG · 01/07/2024 09:18

Ever the optimist! I do love the beginning of the month.

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Thelittlestranger · 01/07/2024 09:19

There she is...😉 @AFmammaG Go for it!!

TeeNoG · 01/07/2024 09:28

Go for it, @AFmammaG and @CoffeeLover90, dry July is waiting for you! Look forwards to seeing your daily updates, and I'll be sober alongside you 🙂

CoffeeLover90 · 01/07/2024 09:51

Come on then @AFmammaG let's do this!
Dry July
Attempt one.
I feel optimistic today. I know it's not even 10am but usually work has ground me down now.
Trying friends advice on getting through these work days.
House work - done.
A little driving - done.
Arranged a meeting with a potential new instructor due to previous one cancelling a lot.
Thinking Chinese pork chops - from asda, glorious- with thick cut chips for tea. A little Turkish delight for after.
And a comedy. Undecided on that but know I want to watch a comedy.

AFmammaG · 01/07/2024 10:02

Yay to company!

I feel like an expert at picking myself back up @Thelittlestranger. I swear so much of it with me is hormonal. I’m stuck in this cycle. Up and down. Round and round.

I just had a conversation with DH. I told him I’m not drinking at all in July. He wished me luck but isn’t joining me. I get it. I totally get it. It’s probably the closest I’ve come to telling him how I really feel. I guess that is progress.

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AFmammaG · 01/07/2024 10:04

@CoffeeLover90 I have a massive list of things to do today. I’m currently on MN 😆 lol. Right, I’m going to plough through it. Here goes nothing.

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CoffeeLover90 · 01/07/2024 20:11

Attempt one continued...
Well, it's day 2.
Decided to watch Russell Howard Recalibrate. Genuinely nearly chocked on a pork chop.

AFmammaG · 01/07/2024 21:39

Well done @CoffeeLover90! All good here too 💪

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rogueone · 01/07/2024 21:50

Great work @AFmammaG & @CoffeeLover90

piggyissmall · 01/07/2024 23:17

I'm on day 2 and I'd love to have support

AFmammaG · 02/07/2024 06:55

Yes @piggyissmall jump onboard! You are very welcome. Great, we are getting a little group together for dry July. I did April completely dry and it was with daily checking in on a similar thread to this that got me through. We’ve got this!

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rogueone · 02/07/2024 07:17

I am going abroad from Saturday and haven’t drank for nearly 3 weeks. So don’t want to commit to dry July but will see how I go when away and check in here. Let’s go gang ( on a positive note I have lost loads of weight)

rogueone · 02/07/2024 07:18

Oh and meant to welcome @piggyissmall this is a great group

AFmammaG · 02/07/2024 08:23

Enjoy your trip @rogueone and congratulations on the 3 weeks dry 💪 thanks for the words of encouragement!

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