I think there are a significant chunk of us who drink/drank to try and quiet the thought storm in our heads.
Some of the thoughts come from who we are. Some come from who we became because of things that happened in our lives. Some are due to the brain also being an organ, and taking part in a symptom party of an underlying issue. (In my case it went beyond what was bearable due to “life rain” induced depression, then peri menopause and finally my thyroid joined the “fuck the insides of your head up” knees up)
There are some aspects a doctor can help with. Starting with blood tests and symptoms check lists for the more obvious culprits.
And some thing we can do to make our “managing the insides of my head” path less rocky.
I have loads of tools and resources I’ve used or am using. Not all things work for all people, not all presenters of information click with all people. But I’m more than happy to share all the things that have lent a hand for me. Just not all at once because you don’t want to add overwhelm right now.
But one you might want to take a look at (re the adult sons) is Mel Robinson’s “Let them”. It’s my most recent find. Fuck me it’s effective. I rolled my eyeballs when I first watched it. But it has been incredibly helpful. I go scare up a link if you think you’re up for it. But it’s ok if you’re not, because you’re occupied with one foot in front of the other right now. Big, fat hug. As hard as the first steps are, they do so much for a softer landing in future life.