The freedom thread ( continued ) Riding the rollercoaster of an alcohol free life! Alcohol support for those wanting to give up drinking.

[SavBbunny]

Hello all
This is a thread for people who have decided that life is much better without alcohol!🤩 These threads were started by @Drybird, and they have changed the lives of many people.
Some posters on these threads have been sober for a long time, and some are only just starting. We are a very friendly and inclusive bunch and we are always excited when someone new joins the thread. The only thing we ask is that our posters have given up alcohol completely. Talk of moderation can be triggering for some people, so this thread is not the right place for that (there are other moderation threads🙂).
We are a supportive welcoming bunch. No question is ever to “ silly “ and their is generally someone around if you are struggling
So just come here to chat or vent or check in . Whatever you need as you ride the rollercoaster of an alcohol free life smile
Thank you to @fortheloveofgodwhy for hosting the last thread 💜
And here’s to the next 40 pages grin

Hi All,

Interesting re comments on moderation. I think this links back to what we were saying yesterday about the 'forever'.

@SavBbunny They sound like some plans! A cottage sounds lovely.

@Crayonpenny

So disappointed, cottage under offer. Blinking Estate agents left the ad up. I was imagining a Tom and Barbara life. Planting veg, feeding chickens. No more shitty sexist bosses. Just peace and good mental health. I will be hiding for a few days, too hot.

@SavBbunny Sorry about that, they have lost out and you will get something better. I remember when we had a 1 year old, and one in flight, and we were so enthralled with a house. Absolutely gutted when we missed out but we ended up with something better, just a right pain. You will get a cottage that deserves you.

So now I’ve ticked a sober birthday off my list! Having slightly mixed feelings this morning. Went out for a lovely meal last night at a smart London restaurant, but if I’m honest I didn’t enjoy it that much. Had a couple of mocktails but they had no other AF options so rich food with sugary drinks made me feel a bit bleuh. (I remember thinking “ @SavBbunny would be furious if she were here!!” Apparently they used to stock seedlip but stopped). And DD got squiffy, which just made me feel old and out of it.

And So. Many. Drunk. People. One poor lady ended up falling over in the courtyard outside, and my heart ached for her, and for me, because that used to be me.

sorry, very first world problems I know. I didn’t get upset, which is an improvement, but sometimes it’s lonely being sober on a drunk planet (which is a great book btw)

Morning lads!
@Onewildandpreciouslife posh restaurant, no faux Gin. I would have been saying 'do you know who I am'. Not really but I would have moaned. I am considering taking tinnies everywhere.
I am in the middle of a Amazon order and I found 0% rhubarb gin. Loads of different kit on there including a female owned SA brand. Blood orange called abstinence. A bit praise the Lord but hey could taste nice.
I was that staggering lady too. Addictive stuff.

Sorry you missed out on yoir dream cottage savb maybe means it wasn't your dreamiest dream cottage, that's still out there somewhere.

Happy birthday onewildandpreciouslife. I felt like you at a wedding* *earlier this year for part of it. It felt like everyone who was drinking was letting go and having a great time and I was quieter and not as uninhibited. But when i saw the carnage later on I was so glad. And yes, i could have thoughts that that was me and regrets even but the most overwhelming feeling was of relief that i wasn't like that now.

I had a look in M&S yesterday. I saw two tins but not an orange tin. I didn't have much time though so I'll go back. They did have bottles of Everleaf though which is the drink I had with soda on holiday. It was delicious so i might go treat myself this weekend as it's on offer.

I was feeling a little low yesterday and was fighting the urge not to fall into old patterns of over eating to soothe. I sort of managed. But i am so glad that i don't fall into vats of alcohol noe when that happens or the after effects would be felt today much more. In fact it didn't even cross my mind to drink. That's a long way from where I was 2 years ago.

Happy Birthday @Onewildandpreciouslife !!

Happy birthday @Onewildandpreciouslife you are smashing it out the park here. You've done a holiday and a birthday!!

Am I right in that you are a week ahead of me, so you've just done 6 months? Or am I confusing you with another poster?

Thanks everyone. On the plus side, my hair looks amazing in the photos. Sober hair! Who knew?!

You sound more like you this morning @SavBbunny - onwards!

And yes, @Breathmiller - I had absolutely no urge to drink, didn’t miss it at all.

I have realised two uncomfortable truths over the last couple of weeks

• I used to think eating out was one of my favourite things to do - turns out I mainly just enjoyed an excuse to get drunk


• I viewed drinking alcohol as an activity in its own right, that I was very happy to devote time to - I am needing to find new things to occupy myself.

Back in my old routine now, so I can just get on with life and stop navel-gazing!

@Onewildandpreciouslife happy birthday 🎂

My favourite past time was wine, buying it, talking about it and drinking the bloody stuff. I have to confess I have got a shoe habit at the moment. Four pairs in the last fortnight😁
However I might have found a better cottage! I have also applied for some normal jobs too.

Good morning everyone.

Have a safe and sober weekend!

Day 104

Morning all. Not a great start today. Little brother in hospital, sister attacked me in text messages. I went NC at Christmas because of her bullying. Luckily too early for alcoholic koshes.

Could do with a bit of hand holding. Nobody around due to holidays and the heat.

Sorry to hear you've had a bad start to the day savbbunny.

I am working for the next few hours then got bits and bobs on but here to hold your hand

I’ll hold your hand @SavBbunny. Hope your brother is okay. Are you NC just with your sister or your brother as well? Must be really challenging.

@BunniesBunniesBunnies just sister NC.
My brother is dying of kidney disease. He is an alcoholic. My sister is a nasty jealous bully. Broke my nose, arm and fingers as a child. When my parents needed care she did nothing, at their funerals she acted like she was dying of grief. My drinking really kicked in when she accused me of stealing from my father. I housed him, she demanded we hold the funeral whilst she went on holiday. She is one of the reasons I drank so much.

That sounds really really tough @SavBbunny. No wonder your drank to excess. Can you block your sister so that you don’t have to receive her nasty messages or do you need to be in touch with her because of your brother? I’m so sorry he is dying, I can’t imagine how hard that is. Take care of yourself and do keep chatting here. I know it’s a bit quiet on the thread but we’re all rooting for you here x

Hi @SavBbunny - I’m around. Sorry to hear this, it sounds really tough.

The pain of loss is so hard to bear, but you know that if you drink you’ll have physical pain as well. Hang in there x

Thank you.

Hang in there @SavBbunny. Sorry about your brother. I think you have enough to think about there without having to deal with your sister. I would create some distance. All her histrionics don't change the situation.

I'm so sorry about your brother savbbunny. and the difficulties with your sister. Toxic family relationship were always a real trigger for my drinking too.

Can you block her number? I know it can be hard going NC.

Hope you’re doing okay today @SavBbunny

Morning all. Just been walkies with the dog before the heat builds up.
In all the horror of yesterday we have agreed a house purchase! Favourite village and lots to do (I need a project to get my teeth into). I did block the sister as my niece will tell me anything major.
I am also rebooting a former beauty project which I put on hold. I feel ready.

Faux gin tonight, hopefully rhubarb.

savbbunny that's* *great about the cottage. I caught the end of a programme about The Good Life last night and thought of you. You'll be Tom and Barbara before you know it.

Enjoy you rhubarb gin.

@Breathmiller I do look a bit like Margo now I am older!

Do you have an array of kaftans?

My gran had a great kaftan collection. Used to swan around like Nana Mouskouri stating "I AM HAVING A KAFTAN DAY!" . My gran was fab.