The freedom thread ( continued ) Riding the rollercoaster of an alcohol free life!

[ChampooPapi]

Adm1010

Hello all

This is a thread for people who have decided that life is much better without alcohol!🤩 These threads were started by @Drybird, and they have changed the lives of many people.

Some posters on these threads have been sober for a long time, and some are only just starting. We are a very friendly and inclusive bunch and we are always excited when someone new joins the thread. The only thing we ask is that our posters have given up alcohol completely. Talk of moderation can be triggering for some people, so this thread is not the right place for that (there are other moderation threads🙂).

We are a supportive welcoming bunch. No question is ever to “ silly “ and their is generally someone around if you are struggling

So just come here to chat or vent or check in . Whatever you need as you ride the rollercoaster of an alcohol free life smile

Thank you to @Adm1010 for hosting the last thread 💜

And here’s to the next 40 pages grin

@Fortheloveofgodwhy congratulations on 100!

fortheloveofgodwhy fantastic!! Well done on your hundred days!! It is a massive thing and we all know how much it will mean to you. 🥳🥳 Happy big milestone.

Well done @Fortheloveofgodwhy on your 100 days!!! Can't wait to be there.

I had a blip earlier when I thought I NEED alcohol and text DH from work saying I haven't been thinking about drink and now I want one he replied with 'why' lol I wrote back stress but that thought was fleeting and yes it's sunny and yes it's 'drinking' weather but f that I'll have a diet coke please (or something nicer lol)
@JesusSufferingFuck22 I too keep thinking about the past but that's what it is the past and you are 100 per cent bettering yourself now for your children! That's the thing with alcohol it drowns the noise and thoughts I guess so we don't 'deal' with our feelings.

@Fortheloveofgodwhy massive, massive congratulations on 100 days.

What a huge, strong round number!!! Love it.

See you in a week (I am 93 days!)

thank you everyone and one more week Crunchy!

Hey everyone. It's lovely to read all of your posts. They keep me grounded! That's hilarious onewildandpreciouslife. I must remember that!

A friend has decided to visit me for the weekend. I LOVE her company and told her she's more than welcome but I'm really nervous that I'll say 'ah feck it, one night can't hurt' because she and I have a long history of getting wasted together...any tips etc welcome. This feels like the first truly real test!

Congratulations @Fortheloveofgodwhy on your 💯days AF! Enjoy your evening.

It's pouring with rain here after a beautiful day. I'm wrapped up in a big handknitted shawl and considering a mug of tea as dh is cooking dinner tonight.

@Fortheloveofgodwhy hooray. A Cent Sober Gal.

Same old here. Had the faux Gordon's.
Liver scan week after next.

@Fortheloveofgodwhy well done you!
hope today you’ve basked in your amazing achievement.

Wow 100 days! That’s unreal! Congratulations @Fortheloveofgodwhy 👊🏾

Morning. Well done @Fortheloveofgodwhy for 100 days.
I'm still here, still practicing self compassion and generally in fine fettle. I'm struggling to keep up with the thread but hope you all have a fantastic day

@Fortheloveofgodwhy congrats!!! 100 days is a biggie!!!

@Crunchymum not long for you now!

Morning all, checking in on day 16 I think. Can't wait to get to at least 4 weeks and then a 100 like you @Fortheloveofgodwhy did you do anything to celebrate?

I'm still sleeping later than usual and then feeling groggy in the morning so bizarre as didn't feel like this when drinking lol but I know it'll get better! I am out tonight locally for 'drinks' but they know I'm not drinking I just wrote look forward to seeing you girls p.s. I'm not drinking. And then 2 of them said you don't need to drink we just want to see you and talk! The other thought I was on antibiotics hahaha bless. Anyway it's at a pub. And I'm going to eat a 2000 calorie meal I don't care to enjoy it ! I don't have to worry about the bottle of wine calories at least!
@Nouveaunew about your friend this weekend can you talk to her about what you are doing ? If not maybe the weight thing saying I'm trying to lose weight ? Come back and post on here if you are struggling there's always someone around if things get tough!
@JennyAct3 how's it going ? Hope all is well.
Take care everyone.

@Namechanged12344 nothing really. Had a mini snickers AND two pieces of Lindt chocolate 🤣🤣🤣 and went to bed. I even forgot to update my trydry app to see the 💯. So I did that this morning.
Enjoy your meal tonight. I have totally enjoyed having starters AND dessert when we eat out. Drinking me couldn’t fit it all in with the 750mls of wine 🙄.

@Nouveaunew i would tell your friend you’ve stopped and be honest. If that’s the relationship you have. That’s what I did this weekend. One of my sisters has been AF for over a decade and I’ve always chosen to be AF when I’ve stayed with her. I enjoyed the opportunity to stay off booze! So she may join you. If you’re not comfortable just say it makes you feel rubbish, your reacting to it, blame hormones. 🤷‍♀️

hope everyone else is doing ok with scans and tests and Avoiding the cravings. Thank you for all the congratulations. The first week is the hardest, but once you’re past that it gets easier and easier so stick with it.

@SavBbunny A cent sober girl - that’s a name I like!!

Day 13. Nothing to report here, feeling well.

Loving reading everyone's updates. @JennyAct3 nothing to report is good

Last night my dh had his monthly social/hobby event. No drinking, but he doesn't get back until about 11pm. This was the first evening I've been on my own since stopping drinking. It felt the same but different. I was still trying to fill my time but I wasn't battling how many drinks I could have so I wouldn't be too pissed by the time he got home.

My stomach had been a better and wine witch/vodka vampire was whispering that I'd be ok to drink when it improves a bit more. My bowels helped me out a bit and insisted I needed to empty at 3.50am
Day 21 and feeling everything. It's ok though. It's better than burying it all under an alcohol cloud of doom.
Hope you are all well and continue racking up the days.

Hey everyone waves

I have been reading daily but not had anything much to update, so haven't been posting as much.

89 days today, still going strong (bad liver helps!!)

I have been completely open with my friends as to why I have stopped drinking, even though most of them didn't know how much I was putting away...

Before they have even been able to ask the 'shall we get on it/shall we have drinks/bring a bottle' question, I've explained I had been drinking far to much, had bad liver bloods and scan and therefore have to abstain.

Being honest was the best way forward for me, more people to keep me in check.

to all x

Checking in 🙌

I'm starting meetings tonight, I am determined to do this and I now know I need that support. Wish me luck! They'll be every Wednesday and I shall be sticking to it then this time 💪 nothing is more important to me now.

hello to all newbies

and 💜 to all the rest of you all. Hope everyone's okay, sorry I've been MIA, I've been sorting my life out and trying to work a few things through

@ChampooPapi Well done on deciding to go to meetings. I went a few years ago and it helped me.
They usually have sweets! My 'guide' told me it was better to be over sugared than over the limit!- that stayed with me.
Some stories can be horrific but generally it is helpful I think. The only reason I stopped going was because I was travelling for work. I also live in a very nosey town. A bit like 'Rachels Holiday' the posher London ones have quite a few celebs which I never recognise until I get home.

@JesusSufferingFuck22 I was an expert and topping up the wine bottle with water so I looked like I had drunk less. None of my family really drink, husband collects bottles and keeps them for decades- ditto seasonal goods but that is another story! I thought I was being so clever but they know. Essence of sweaty sock.

Truth? I still miss the grog but I don't miss the anxiety it caused. Some days better than others. 138 days.

Thank you so much @Namechanged12344 and @Fortheloveofgodwhy I just texted her and told her I won’t be drinking and she said she might stay off it too. I told her she can obviously drink if she likes. It’s a relief she knows and won’t try to twist my arm. It has been making me feel rubbish and is screwing with my head so I guess I could tell her the truth.

Im still in work and it’s been a tough day - one of those days where a glass of red seems appealing .. but I know it’d do me no good so instead I’m going to go home to a movie and a bath.

well done @ChampooPapi Weekly support can only be a good thing. I’ve a feeling it could be life changing for you because community is so important. This thread alone has a nice sense of community.

Thanks @BraveFaceScaredInside your honesty is refreshing. I think, if I am honest, I’m afraid of judgment by telling my friends. They all seem to drink moderately. One said recently that she can’t remember her last hangover because she never goes out. I laughed/cried inside thinking that you don’t need to go out to get a hangover!

well done everyone. I am Day 17 … & counting!

Well done on 17 days 😁you got this

It is scary the thought of judgement, but in hindsight I must of been judged worst over some of the drunken things I did. Luckily I have a very very small circle of friends.

Just keep the phrase 'those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind'. Saying it over to yourself is empowering x

@ChampooPapi Great that you are starting to go to meetings, hopefully the extra support will work wonders x

Huge well done to everyone, for everyone

Thank you @BraveFaceScaredInside 💐