Mindfulness, Moderating and Not Texting In The Kitchen !

[Amdone123]

Morning all..hope you're all ok. Well I had busy weekend. I didn't quite stick to my plans : I drank Friday evening ( didn't eat), and drank last night, too. I don't feel great today but I am looking forward to having a break. I know I want to get back to being af and all its benefits.
I was thinking that I am able to stay in and not drink. My next step will be going out and not going mad !

Also, holidays are s#^& for moderating I am finding!!!

@Buntyforgirls, thank you ! Made me laugh that !! They really are, all good intentions out the window! Strangely I'm not beating self up. I've changed my thinking regarding that. If I fall off the wagon, I fall off. I'm ok now because I've heard from my ds and they're having a ball.
Hope you've had a good time on holiday. That's what it's all about. I'm going to be af now til Saturday. I can do that.

@DirtyDancing, hi there and welcome! Yep, your post sounds frighteningly familiar! I went to an AA meeting before Lockdown and they gave me some literature and in a little book was a sentence, something along the lines of, 'Every embarrassing, shameful, stupid thing I have ever said or done was due to the consequences of drinking '. It really stuck in my head probably because it's true.
I'm a nice normal person when I'm not drinking.
Well I'm being af now for 5 days so jump on board with us if you like. One day at a time of course but post on here and we'll help you.

Hi everyone. Thought I’d jump on board if that’s ok 👋

Meh … terrible weekend, tinged with shame, you know what it’s like, we’ve all been there!

Anyway, day 2 and I really need to sort myself out. No use feeling regret and sorry for myself, I just need to put things right. Am away on holiday from 5 September, so my short term goal is to abstain until then at least, with a view to moderating on holiday. I can’t stop my life but I can stop my shite decisions.

Going to sort the bedroom out tonight, keep busy!

@AJL1234 , hi there. 👋..yeah jump on board. Have a fresh start from today. It's not too long til you go away, a couple of weeks. That's a good length of time to reset the balance. Not too long not too short.
I find when I'm af, my house is spotless! Im a bit hungover today and have done very little housework. Tomorrow morning I'll be up, fresh as a daisy and will get it all done !

Hi there, sorry I went AWOL for a few days, I drank moderately over the weekend, half bottle wine Fri night, same again at a dinner party Sat night, then 2 large reds in the pub with friends last night. Back on the wagon now Mon to Thurs. Last week went to plan, no mid week drinking. Welcome @dirtydancing nice to have you join us.

Thanks everyone for your replies. Makes me feel slightly less ashamed for being a stupid piss head sometimes. Sorry to be crude but that's what if feels like it comes down to sometimes. Another shameful confession, I smoke when I am drunk too. Stupid, stupid and it's only when I have had too much to drink. Adds to the feeing the next day. If I abstain I just end up going more OTT the next time to opportunity arises. Wishes I had a stop point at a couple of glasses.

Hi all. Firstly welcome newbies! The more the merrier (possibly not the best analogy for moderate drinking ha ha)
@Amdone123 I still think your doing brilliantly. What you now consider falling off the wagon spectacularly would of been a usual night before- so don’t be too hard on yourself!!! Your doing great !!
@DirtyDancing had to reach out to you as I posted 4/5 weeks ago a thread called hangxiety and gossiping (I think) and was basically freaking out about how horrendously drunk is got. I was then invited by @Amdone123 to join this moderating group! I can relate to everything your saying… although I got on top of the smoking 18 months ago as that was getting really out of hand! But anyway… we are all in a similar boat here! No judgement. And I promise you’ll feel better soon!

I’m day 15 a/f now!!!! Prob will indulge this bank hol but will be mindful!!!

Keep up the great work all and keep in touch xx

@Hohofortherobbers your smashing the moderate drinking! After my little break I’m hoping to be similar amounts to you. Xxx

@Hohofortherobbers, well done for the moderating. You are doing well. I'm trying no mid week drinking - it gets easier. @DirtyDancing, I only smoke when drinking too. Only with wine though. Sometimes I have just 2, Sunday gone I definitely had about 4 or 5 and yesterday my throat was so sore. It's stupid of me to smoke.
Morning all, hope you're all well. Feel great today because I slept well. Compared to yesterday when I was not happy !! Been up early ( actually 8.30am. Late for me) ; done washing, made tea.
So I'm doing these 5 days til my dsis birthday Saturday. I was thinking that when I go I stop off at the supermarket and buy supplies. I do it without thinking ( dsis doesn't drink and even if she did I'd take my own). Anyway this weekend I'm going to take bottles of beer. If there's no wine there, I can't drink it.
I have to plan like this, otherwise I go back to.my old ways.
Have a great af day everyone !

Morning …. My backside is being dragged into day three. This morning’s musings, well I do 3-4 days a/f most weeks, I think I’m overthinking it all and making it worse for myself. Weird nights sleep last night, very peculiar dreams! Found a new bruise from Saturday night’s shenanigans, that set anxiety off again this morning. But I’m off to work today, and have a night of quoting and invoicing. It will be day 4 before I know it. Just need to take it one day at a time and try not worry about what lies ahead for now. Well that’s the plan. Enjoy your day all of you 😊

Hi all hope everyone’s well!
@Amdone123 lovely to hear your feeling so great and I truly believe all the planning is key to this!
@AJL1234 feel for you with the anxiety spikes! So horrible! But as you say keep nice and busy today and one day at a time.

Not much to report here!!! But quiet is good! Ha ha. Have a great day all xx

@AJL1234, I overthink too. Just take it one day at a time, like you said. You'll get there.

Hi @DirtyDancing @AJL1234

I'm not really doing as well as the rest of the class I'm afraid to say. Had two weeks off work and went back to old habits in the second.

Who is joining me in having an alcohol free night tonight? :)

Hey @youboozeyoulose one step at a time!!!
Yes to booze free today! My fave quote is… “start anywhere” xx

Most deffo booze free tonight!

Yay ! I'm af tonight. Had the wine witch on my shoulder an hour ago but I batted her away. She is not my friend 🤣

Been at an all day workshop at work. Everyone off to the pub. Taken a deep breath and headed home. Don't need a hangover tomorrow or
Make a twat of myself tonight!

@DirtyDancing, well done ! Showing great restraint there. I don't know what I'd have done. Sometimes after courses at work I just wanted to go home and decompress/ drink. Other times, I'd go and definitely regret it the next morning.

Here here, AF tonight, gym, tea, early night

Made it past dinner time, yay!

@youboozeyoulose, yeah, once you've eaten, you're fine. At least I am. It goes off me. I didn't fancy it today anyway ( just that fleeting moment earlier on, but it really was just fleeting). I more looking forward to getting a good night's sleep. God I'm getting old !

AF tonight too. Day 3.

Full disclosure I had one bottle of 330ml beer yesterday evening. Need to be honest on here or I'm not being honest with myself!

@youboozeyoulose, that's great. I often have a beer. I consider myself successful if I don't buy wine ! @atomicnotsoblonde, day 4 for you - yay!
Af for me today. I'm off work Thursday and Friday before my trip away so I'll have to plan some activities, probably housework, to keep me on the straight and narrow. I think I can do it.
I'm really struggling to sleep atm. Was up half the night and I hadn't even drank. The thought of inflicting a sleepless night on myself just because I want a glass of wine seems daft. Like a high price to pay. I was feeling brilliant when I moderated for those 30 days. I want to get back there.