30 days from now.

[Amdone123]

Evening all.
If anyone is interested in quitting alcohol for 30 days ( in the first instance), please join us.
I've had a busy month ; Wimbledon, Football, birthday, anniversary and have drank way too much.
I've given up before and felt great so am trying again.

I just think we need to be a place of support, we are hard enough on ourselves. I would hate for anyone to feel that they couldn't post Because they had a drink and then lose support and us lose theirs. Ideally i would like to do 30 days which would hopefully reset my bad habits. In an ideal world i like to only drink a bottle of wine on a saturday night. Iknow one bottle sounds a lot, maybe it is but idont see the point in drinking if its not enough to give me a buzz. Is that really bad.

But for today day 7 is over. The shop is closed. Its been tough today as i did my taxi run and usually i would then settle with a wine. So for now i am heading for a bath and then sit in garden while sun is still shining.

@Soberanne, 1 bottle a week is great I think. I'd like to be able to do that.
I have already decided that I am no longer drinking wine when I go 'out out, as I always end up in a state. I can have it at home where I can just go to bed.
It's not bad wanting to feel a buzz. That's why many people drink. Anyway if it's ok for you, that's all that matters.
Well done on Day 7. Brilliant.
I think I'm on day 13. Although I have had some drinks, I haven't been drunk / hungover.

No I'm on day 10. Getting ahead of myself

@Amdone123 your doing amazing. Its all about what our own limits are that we wont to live by and thats the focus. Maybe once i have reset i wont need the whole bottle but for now thats what i want to achieve. I thunk we are all doing great.

We certainly are doing great.
Morning all ! Well, yesterday was lovely. Had a good rest. I had a slight wobble about 4 ( strange for me, time wise). Only small, I'd say 3 out of 10. I was taking the dog for a walk and thought shall I get some wine. I took my own advice and left my purse at home.
It made me realise how much I do drink out of boredom. I know I said it earlier but it really is a trigger. It's strange though because I wasn't exactly bored. (Forgive my rambling post. Maybe I miss it ? Maybe it's not boredom?)
Been busy this morning with little one. Going to get busy with housework when she goes. I need the shops later. No urge to drink wine though so that's good.

Just had another wobble. I do this. I start to feel great, skin looks good, even felt lighter yesterday and overall happier, so I think I know I'll get glammed up and go out. I know my friend is out so I thought I'll go and sit in the pub with her.
Anyway, batted that thought away. Nipped to shops, got something lovely for lunch and some chocolate ( didn't even look at the wine), and am now watching The Olympics.
I do want a glass of wine and I may have one later. In the comfort of my own home. Had I gone to meet my friend, it wouldn't have ended well. And tomorrow I'd be feeling horrid.
Phew !

@Amdone123 well done. Your doing amazing.
Day 8 here and i too had a wobble. It's lovely here today and i have nothing on and thought oh it be lovely to just sit with a wine in the garden.
I decided no and headed out, had a splash in the sea with the dogs and bought a nice ice cream that i usually dont buy as there too expensive. I know i know less expensive than a bottle of wine but i never said wine was too expensive.

@Soberanne, lol ! I do that, um n ahhh over prices but never begrudge a tenner on a bottle of wine. Actually, talking about money, I know it's obvious but my bank balance is miles healthier !!
Well done on Day 8; you're doing brilliantly.

Day 9. The weather is still good so hoping to get out and about walking today. Hope you all had a great weekend. .

Yay ! Well done on Day 9.
I've had a great weekend overall. Have got lots done. I missed it a little bit, I won't lie, but I know if I want one I can have one. I think I miss just doing something. My windows are sparkling though !

Hi all!
Late to the thread but recommended to join by @Amdone123!!! Thank you :)
I posted my own thread ( anxiety… drinking and gossiping hangover cure) as I feel so awful after over doing it last night! Cannot bear to feel like this again so am taking inspiration and having a booze break! Looking forward to following all of you on your journey and starting my own!!!
Day 1 let’s do this (very easy today as I feel like death and the thought of booze is making me feel sick)

@Mj20, hi there. Hope you're feeling a bit better !
I'm like that when hungover; never again I say !
Well, I had a few beers, was so tempted to get some wine and felt like smoking, but I remembered how rubbish I'd feel tomorrow. I've got guests tomorrow ( not that that has ever stopped me), but it did today. I don't want to feel rubbish tomorrow or look it, and I would hungover. So I had some jelly babies instead. Did the trick 👌
Here's to some more alcohol free days.

@Amdone123 well done you!!! Sounds like your smashing it!!! For me it’s similar to you I just can’t cope with the hangovers. I don’t tend to drink in the week but then do at weekends so that will be hard but I can’t go through this again! My anxiety from being hungover is only just subsiding. It’s a good incentive to have a break xxx

Morning all ! Hope we're all good. I'm great; woke up to Tom Daley and Matty winning Gold . Have got guests today so a busy morning cleaning up - something I would not do with hangover. My friend who's visiting is teetotal so no need to drink today. Tbh I don't really want to. I've definitely lost weight - I will do though when I'm not drinking, I always do.
Have a great day everyone!

Morning all day 10 here and i am feeling like a human again. Fantastic news about tom daley he deserves it. I still have some anxiety and am tired a lot but maybe thats just how a sober me feels. I feel like i cant look to much into the future as it seems so far away if thst makes sense so still taking it a day at a time.

@Soberanne That's great to hear. You're doing so well. I've made a complete mess of it. Was very drunk Saturday night. Today is a new day though.

Some good advice i got was never to go back to day one. Always keep counting your sober days. As its more likely that even if you slip up you will still have more sober days than previously and its encouraging to say i have had 8/10 sober days rather than saying oh here we go again day one. I am going to have a drink this wednesday as its family member birthday. I Know i am going to do this but am not going to drink till after 8 at night so that my drinking is limited. I do not wish to completely be sober but rather to be in control.

@Soberanne, that's great advice to count the sober days. I'm definitely doing that. Just plan your Wednesday evening ( sounds like you have), but I know from past experience you do need a plan in place. That's what I need for the future. I used to laugh when people said alternating drinks is a good idea, but that would work for me.
@youboozeyoulose, hi there. Yeah just get back on it. You haven't made a complete mess- you're still trying and that's all you can do.

@Amdone123 absolutely agree. Going forward i want to enjoy a drink but i know i need to be very organised and strong and i also know that if this doesnt work i will need to give alcohol up forever. Everyone is saying its about rewiring the brain and i know wednesdsy will be tough. So the plan is to stay busy during the day. No alcohol at home anyway. Then meet family at 5 for a meal but i will drive. I never drink when out so thats easy. I will then buy a bottle of wine on way home that i can enjoy with my family who are coming back to mine to watch a movie. They only drink beer and i Am not fussed. There is no local shops to buy any more after 8o,clock so hoping my plan works. I am then not going to drink again till the end of the 30 days and if i do so its complete sobriety for me. Do yiu thunk that will work

@Soberanne, it sounds like a great plan. Perfect. And I know what you mean about giving up long term. If I can't moderate I'm going to have to abstain long term. Before it kills me. But I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. I seem to be doing OK atm moderating.

Managed to make it through tea time without a drink, so looks like today is win. How is everyone doing tonight? We're battening down the hatches for stormy weather tonight. The perfect weather to sit in with a drink but I won't let it defeat me! Tbh sun, snow hail, it always seems to be the weather for a drink.

@youboozeyoulose, well done. Knew you could do it. My friend visited and brought me wine ! I've drank that but through the course of the day so not too bad. We had 5 children under 10 to watch so perhaps I needed it ( I know I didn't but it did help!). Then I wanted a cigarette ( they'd all gone by this time), so I sat in the garden and had one ( did not enjoy).
Supposed to be thunder storms here but it's so hot. I'm on the water now ; can't drink enough.
I'm back on my alcohol free now. No plans for socialising til middle of August.

Hi all….how’s everyone doing??? Day 3 here! No desire to drink because after getting over my initial hangover (which was horrific) and the anxiety I’m still momentarily struggling with my anxiety!!! I’m still worrying about things I said, judging myself for saying them and just feeling generally crap about it all. I’m not getting the physical symptoms of panic so much but just thinking far too much!!! has anyone else ever had this happen after the initial Hangover wears off ?? xx this is enough to put me off drinking forever!!!

@Mj20, sorry to hear you're still struggling. Initially I was going to say that my hanganxiety usually only lasts a day, but then I remembered that I still cringe at all the stupid, embarrassing and dangerous things I've done years ago when drinking so for me, yes, it is long term. But I can't change the past, I can only shape the future.
After drinking the bottle of wine my friend brought me on Monday, I woke up yesterday feeling rubbish. Not hungover, just not as great as I've been feeling since I started this 30 day experiment. I made a vow to myself that I will not drink wine like that again. I'm going to dilute it. So, so far on my experiment, I have learnt that

1. I don't need to drink at weekends. In fact, my weekends are better when I abstain completely.
2. I can have 2 glasses of wine and stop. I don't need to carry on. I also need to eat.
3. I can enjoy other drinks, such as lager and gin n tonics and with these drinks, I only ever want 2 as for me they're not as addictive as wine.
4. I feel great not drinking : I haven't been anxious or embarrassed these past 2 weeks about any behaviour of mine. In fact, I've been quite proud.

And I've slept better. Overall. I'm not sleeping well tonight despite being really busy ; I've walked, worked, done Zumba. But I've got a cold and feel rubbish.

Well done on completing day 3.