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Alcoh · 19/04/2021 08:11

I am so fed up now of alcohol. Have read some books about it and loads of threads here - but never really have seemed to acknowledge I have a problem. But I do. Late 40s. Am remarried but my H doesn’t live with me as he is near his kids from his first marriage until they go to uni (which we are both happy with) so whilst I have always been a big party drinker, the last year has got worse and worse in lockdown. Just so damn bored working from home the whole time and so turned to wine. Drink a bottle of wine every evening and now buy two so I can start the second. Weekends - if I don’t have my kids, I start earlier in the day because am just so bored and what the hell. So some weekends can do 4-5 bottles. Must be drinking 80-90 units a week. Maybe more. Have put on 5kg I need to lose and I am sure that is the booze because my diet otherwise is healthy. I have had blood tests and there has never been an inkling of an issue but I must have a fatty liver. Am fed up of being tired and anxious. And now it is starting to affect work. I sit on zoom calls all bloody day and see no adults in real life - it’s so tedious. So I have started the wine earlier to get through them. My kids have noticed. My family haven’t said much as they live a few hours away - and they know I am a heavy drinker but they would be so worried if they knew how much. Anyway had a particularly bad night last week where I emailed somebody important at work back and forth in a bit of an obnoxious way and I cannot even remember what I said. I just deleted everything the next day so I didn’t have to face what I had done. I have a new role in my company - which I love. Why the hell am I risking that? Why am I bringing up my amazing kids watching me do this? They notice - they are just teen and nearly teenage. So am now off the booze. For my health and for my looks - I am exercising twice a week so surely with removing all this booze I can lose the additional 5kg. Would love some others to be here with me. I have Annie Grace next to me.

Oh one thing I forgot to say. My DH is amazing and he loves weekend wine (he manages to drink only at the weekend). But because we are not together a lot of the time yet he has no idea how much I am drinking. I have also taking to hiding empty bottles when he is here as I have been known to get up in the night and drink without him knowing. And when I am with him and we are working in the day I can secretly hit his wine. It’s bad and I have had enough of these secrets.

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Stuckhere2021 · 13/05/2021 20:58

Hi all - I’m back on day 3 today. Longest stretch has been 10 days during which I feel great then go and buy bloody gin / vodka and drink the bottle over one or two days. I drink to make me numb and forget some awful family stuff and it is a conscious desire to knock myself out. When I don’t feel like that, I can actually moderate but I’m going AF so that my DH and DC don’t see me with wine and start worrying. I’ve started on medication to help with the cravings but only just this afternoon so too early to know if it will work.

Been pulled up at work for being AWOL owing to being drunk/hungover and I’m terrified of being sacked so I need to really tackle it this time.

Hope everyone is doing well this evening. Brew Flowers

Rupertpenrysmistress · 13/05/2021 22:24

It's a horrible thing, I too don't want my DC to see me with wine in hand on a daily basis.

I attended my first aa meeting yesterday, it was very emotional but, very supportive.

Rupertpenrysmistress · 13/05/2021 22:27

I have been listening to Alan Carr the easy way for women. I have used it before and quit for 4 months.
Not looking ahead at the moment as also feel overwhelmed so, day by day.

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