Hop on up it's Dry January thread #2

[MyGhastIsFlabbered]

Shiny new thread to carry us onward through January

Hi everyone. Just to clarify - most of the times that DP has made me cry it's because he says he's leaving me, rather than because he's being horrible to me. Still not ideal and I need to learn that he's just saying it in frustration rather than because he means it. When we are getting on it's great but when he's down it's not. I'm looking into some couples counselling for us.

I'm still not tempted by alcohol. But DP has a bottle of wine and that might be harder. Though we've only got red in and I'm not a fan. Still can't imagine being teetotal - so just aiming for 100 days at the moment. We're 1/3 there already.

Still seeing no benefit at all - still look like shit though that could be because of all the sugary things I'm having instead of wine. I really need to knock that on the head. I thought my will power was crap where wine was concerned...it's even worse with sugar.

This evening is tough...we're out of Dry January - it's the weekend & DP has wine. I could so easily give in and get a bottle in but I'm hoping to beat the wine witch.

Been a hectic day as it's DS1's birthday. How have I got an 11 year old?

Feeling a bit 'meh' here this evening. Have been roped into doing a Zoom quiz with DH (who will be drinking). Am imagining how much more fun it would be with a drink. I'm not going to have one, but it's making me a bit grumpy.

Still, I have Becks blue in the fridge, and Seedlip so will indulge in that instead. I'm on Day 32, but just having a very minor wobble.

Happy birthday to your Ds @ghast, that's a sweet age.

I had my first proper visit from the wine witch today. Am concentrating on how nice it will feel waking up in the morning feeling fresh. Am not prepared to break my 100 day promise for no particular reason. 100 days will be up just before my birthday. Am thinking of 100 days off, my bday week or such and such then 100 days, then Christmas then dry Jan and 100 again. I feel like I am such a better mum because of this.

Happy Birthday to your son op.

Thank you @OhioOhioOhio
I'm volunteering at a COVID vaccination clinic at 8am so am focussing on how much easier that will be if I'm not hanging.

Yeah that's what I'm focusing on. The morning. And the nice sleep ahead.

Honestly could happily sink a bottle of wine tonight though. Don't want to go back to day 1 again though.

And @KittytheHare

I've just eaten so much I don't think I could fit another atom in my body. Wine witch has passed now so feeling virtuous now.

Hi all @myghastisflabbered isn't it mad how as quickly as the wine witch comes along she can go again!!
@ohioohioohio just think how fuming you will be at yourself if you just have a drink on a mundane evening not even a nice occasion and you go back to day one!!
@kittythehare pour yourself a fancy glass of seedlip and no one will be any wiser plus it will make you feel a bit more festive. And tomorrow when you wakeup feeling fab you know it was worth it.
I'm just about to have a fancy bubble bath. Hiding from the kids who are still up! I've left DH to it !!!

A bubble bath is a lovely treat. Yeah, I don't want to give up my af days easily.

I caved again last night and feel so crap today. It really really isn’t worth it. I can’t moderate, I’m hopping back on!

I had two drinks last night. They weren't great. I stayed up far too late to make time for the second drink, ate rubbish snacks, feel a bit rubbish this morning. I'm not sure I want to drink regularly again like I was before January. It's really helped me to view my drinking, and how it makes me feel, more objectively.

I'm reading a book called Mindful Drinking and it says if you're moderating it's really difficult unless you have set rules, otherwise you're making judgements in the moment of weakness.

I've set mine as no more than two drinks at a time, on no more than two days a week. Which puts me on a maximum of 10 units per week.

Also my rule is no drinks until 8pm (my wine witch visits between 4.30 and 6.30pm) so that any drink is more considered.

I had one medium glass of wine last night and very pleased that my rules kept me in check and didn't continue after that one.

I had a few last night. Dh is still drinking and I just joined in for a couple. I need to switch his tipples to ones I don’t like. Still did only have a couple - and I am back in again.

I worry that Id have a couple but would struggle to get back on thinking I'd ruined it so would start again next month or longer.

Had sparkling water and some caramel brownies that me and dd made

Watched a film and slept so well . Friday nights are hard !

I am going to stick anything in here Ohio as it’s not guilt I struggle with - it’s the opposite! I would find it easy to carry on complacently cheering that I am drinking less. It’s here I remember that this is purposeful live saving stuff and here is a good antidote to wine o’clock and the deserve a drink conversations around me.

Funny that for different reasons Ohio we are similarly likely to carry on! Am now staying AF until the end of the month.

Am thinking of caramel brownies now Thomasina!

TSBelliot

I can be a bit like that too. I feel like I'm in a vacuum of post divorce emptiness. I've lost so many friends and if I keep disguising entertainment as downing a few big glasses of wine I'm scared I wake up in ten years even more fat and alone.

@TSBelliot I think you need to plan a massive decadent treat on a Friday night if you want to not drink alcohol . Well, I do. So,bubble bath , no nice posh soft drink in lovely glass , something sweet or a takeaway etc
Still treat yourself but not with alcohol

@OhioOhioOhio

TSBelliot

I can be a bit like that too. I feel like I'm in a vacuum of post divorce emptiness. I've lost so many friends and if I keep disguising entertainment as downing a few big glasses of wine I'm scared I wake up in ten years even more fat and alone.

Yeah being divorced was a huge factor in me stopping drinking last time - would go into free fall if I kept on ! No safety net !

Thomasina2021 I have been separated for nearly 5 years but not long divorced. My xh was so rude to people and on top of that I'm so, so hurt by these friend's and their judgement about my need to get divorced that I lie low. When did you recover and feel normal again?