Stopping drinking for a while - part 2

[Patbutcherismyhero]

Hi all, a new thread as requested. Hope to see you all here shortly x

What I was trying to say has nothing to do with ducks

@fluckityfluckfluck sounds like you need a home based hobby that you can busy your hands with?!
I’m doing another you tube exercise video tonight. Must get into those jeans!

@fluckityfluckfluck may I suggest you entertain yourself by watching the channel 4 documentary on Swingers. I must clarify while I agree with @ErinBrockovich about getting a new hobby, please don't think I am trying to suggest swinging

I am sat here thinking I really would enjoy a glass of red right now. Husband is cooking which is in equal measure relaxing but also stressful because he tries so hard and I'm a trained chef so I have to remember to be grateful even when I'm sitting there eating it thinking wtf

Sorry @fluckityfluckfluck, sending a virtual hug x
Lol @cherrybakewellll that must be hard!

I am a terrible human. Husband's curry was inedible and I mean actually inedible by his standards too. So we've had a bottle of merlot for dinner

Hi all, just quickly catching up with posts as I’ve been super busy today - you’ve made me chuckle with your posts!

AF wedding anniversary today - was fine! Was too tired to think about booze if I’m honest.

Off to bed now for when I wake in the morning I’m on A/L for ten whole days. Get in! 💃💃

Well I had a proper crap nights sleep which I probably deserved for the liquid dinner. It shall not be repeated.

@cherrybakewellll sorry about your poor sleep but if there is one positive you can draw from that, it’s this - going out for an anniversary meal this evening with my best drinking friend and I was almost tempted to drink tonight as it’s a special occasion but I’ve now decided not to after your sleep update. Doesn’t help your plight, I know, but perhaps the wider cause...? (Me ) Hope you don’t feel to bad today! Treat yourself to an early night and watch a film in bed, that’s what I do when I want distract Myself from drinking.

Day 12AF. Friday is my biggest challenge of the week because it used to be the evening I looked forward to. Get the kids in bed and then sit down with a bottle.
I removed my alcohol from the online shop again this week and again DH didn’t mention it.... it’s becoming the elephant in the room.

@RandomGirl really pleased for you! It feels good to get a run of days under your belt.
@cherrybakewellll onwards and upwards. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

I will be thinking of something to do later to distract myself. Not another exercise class as I don’t want to overdo it. Have a good day everyone.

So since my post this morning, I’m thinking do I have a drink this eve at our anniversary meal? Thoughts...?

Hi @RandomGirl. I would say no, allow yourself enough time for a proper reset. But, you know you best.

@ErinBrockovich well done on the 12 days and the remixing of the alcohol from the shop. I still have a house full of alcohol here but have been thinking of sending some fb messages to see if anyone wants to by it... have about 6 almost full bottles of gin etc and don't really want to give them away for free

@fluckityfluckfluck yeah, you’re right, it’s just the Friday jitters isn’t it. 19 days is not long enough. Thank you!

Sarah Harding's breast cancer news has really hit home - she was always portrayed as a heavy drinker (not saying it's true). It scares me so much.

@RandomGirl it’s really hard because a couple of weeks in it still feels like deprivation. Like denying yourself. Especially when you are celebrating something.
I’m trying to focus on my 30 day target. Do you have a short term goal?
If I make it to 30 days I’m going to use the money I’ve saved to get a months membership to the pool. That’s going to be my ‘reward’. Something similar might help?

@fluckityfluckfluck I agree. She’s younger then me and it’s advanced. It is scary.

I had a 20-day goal which is tomorrow but i extended it to 31 days last week. Don’t worry, my temptation has passed - I think I just needed to message you guys and get it out of my head and onto ‘paper’ if that makes sense?

Really tough day today. My DC have been little terrors what with the rain and everything we’ve been under each others feet. Usually I’d get through the day with the promise of a large, cold glass of white. I thought I might break, my DH asked me if I wanted a glass, i said no.
Sitting here in a bit of a grump. It’s a bit childish. Comes back to the feeling that I’m depriving myself.
Maybe I’ll head out early in the morning to make the most of not being hungover. Or maybe I’ll be blessed with a good nights sleep and a lie in. Fingers crossed.

Hi all sorry been on holiday so not checking in as much. Had a few drinks over the week but not loads. @fluckityfluckfluck well done on your amazing weight loss! Can't wait to get started on my healthy eating plan after the weekend. I need to. I saw a photo of myself on the beach from this week (not in a bikini thankfully) and just though wow, things need to change.
Keep up the good work everyone.

@Patbutcherismyhero I took a ‘before’ photo in my new jeans so I can compare it with day 30 (when they will still probably not fit)!!!
It is motivating having them sitting there waiting for me, although I will admit the healthy eating went out of the window tonight when in my childish grump I made my way through half a pack of chocolate digestives.
Hope the holiday went well.

Thanks @ErinBrockovich its been nice to get away but the weather hasn't been very kind to us! It's made me realise how hard my mental health has been hit during lockdown. Months upon months of the same bland daily routine. No wonder I've been drinking more! Getting out and about in nature, spending quality time with the family and just having a change of environment has recharged my batteries and set me up for better things...healthy eating, cutting back on booze and trying to live healthier mentally and physically.
I lost a lot of weight a few years back and it's piled back on so I know I can do it again, it'll be just be tough. My beach pic can be the equivalent of your jeans...a little goal to work from and hopefully see some difference! Feeling positive and very grateful for you all and this thread.

I’d line to join this thread if I may. I felt that I’m turning into a “regular” drinker since lockdown- i used to have a couple of glasses of wine 2 nights a week, but it’s been creeping up to every other night. Not good for sleep or weight. Anyway, I went AF last Sat-Wed, then had one cider on Wed evening. AF again since then. I thought I’d be sleeping better and generally feeling good- but I’m not! 😂 I’m abit ratty and look tired. I’ve kept up the exercise though so that’s good.
At least I know I’m doing the right thing, even if I don’t feel it yet.🤣

Thanks @Patbutcherismyhero - I'm so pleased you feel refreshed, even if the weather was crap. I know exactly what you mean about the daily monotony, it's very demotivating.

This group has been so important for me. Being able to post and check in has made me feel so less isolated. Thank you wonderful ladies

Day13 AF. I think I’m in the crazy dream stage unless last night was a one off. I opted for nice lie in rather then get up and get out. I did sleep through to about 8.30 so got a good 9 hour stretch but my goodness the dreams! I feel like I’ve done a round with mike tyson. One I was having an argument with someone I know and they wouldn’t listen so I got to that crying/can’t breath stage and then started screaming through gasps at them. It was really real. Now I’m sitting eating breakfast by myself feeling like an emotional wreck. I read back through some of the older posts and saw that others had experienced some crazy dreams around the 2 week mark.
@Patbutcherismyhero I am honestly counting the hours down to the DC returning to school. The peace, the quiet, the time to concentrate without ‘mummy’x100. Time to get my house back in order and focus on me.
During lockdown I went through the kids wardrobes sorting out the ‘too small’ piles. I’d like to go though my stuff and thin it out. It’s just an impossible task with 2 children running around by my feet.
Will try and squeeze in either a walk or a you tube exercise video today and then face tonight AF. Gosh the weekends are hard.
@AmICrazyorWhat2 welcome to the group. As @fluckityfluckfluck it’s a lovely non-judgmental space to vent (see above!), chat and ask opinions.

I fell off the wagon last night and shared a bottle of wine with DH.☹️ The only good part is that I tipped part of it down the sink after topping up my glass, so we drank 2/3 bottle between us, rather than the whole thing.

Then had a horrible night’s sleep, kept waking up, which serves me right! Back behaving myself today but grumpy because I’m tired. Why do I do these things?!

@fluckityfluckfluck great weightloss! What time do you stop/ start eating? Sorry if you've mentioned before.

AF now 17 days. No weightloss here which is suprising as I was gulping a huge amount of calories and I have exercised everyday since giving up booze.

I saw on the 'quit app that weightloss can kick in after 4 months AF. Found this very curious. Why does the body hold onto all the flab for 4 months I wonder?

Still with you on the dreams @ErinBrockovich. So real. I feel like I'm reliving the past, having in depth conversations with people I haven't even thought about in decades.

The mind and body are so mysterious!!

Still feeling empty and depressed but about 20% better than I did overall since quitting.
Still in lockdown with 8pm curfew though, so hard to really assess what my normal mood would be.

Got ginger cake in the oven got to go.. Have a good weekend everyone. I will have to control myself around the cake too.