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Lockdown sober up...

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LockdownSoberup · 17/07/2020 09:20

Day 1 for me. I have been drinking too much wine during lockdown and want to stop - it’s just boring now instead of alleviating the boredom Confused I don’t drink every day but when I do I drink a lot and it’s not healthy. Just a thread for me to be accountable but anyone else feeling the same is obviously welcome Grin

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ememem84 · 01/08/2020 07:51

Thanks @KobeWan I’ll take a look

Difford · 01/08/2020 11:03

Nice to see so many people on this thread now! Smile
I'm on day 13 and my skin is looking much healthier and my sleep has definitely improved. I was feeling really positive but DH came home from the shop yesterday with loads of bottles of wine and it really shook my resolve. Got some boozy friends coming over tomorrow so it will be a challenge but I'm determined not to give in.
Today's video from Annie is about alcohol and parenting. I've not watched it yet but I have been feeling quite guilty recently about the times I've been drunk or hungover around DD.

FannyFernackerpan · 01/08/2020 12:42

Hi everyone - great to see the thread is growing!

I woke up early this morning (unheard of on a Saturday) and have already stripped the beds, done two machine loads, and lovely washed bedding out on the line in the sunshine, billowing in the breeze.

Thank you @KobeWan for that link last night. I've signed up and already it's making me think in a way I never have before.

As mentioned in previous posts - I've gone for long periods of time - 9 months on one occasion - not drinking, but I ALWAYS go back it. No idea why, because I'm not dependant on it, I don't miss it when I'm not drinking, but I just get these 'fuck it' moments and start up again. And as soon as I do, I'm back to drinking the same levels I was before.

My drinking comprises - two or three nights a week, drinking a bottle and a half - so up to 4.5 bottles a week - at home. I always drink to the point of being pissed - merry, giddy, but not blotto. So I know what I'm doing but I've got the booze buzz. Then I do this whole remedial action thing before bed. Loads of water / herbal tea. Lots of tooth brushing, mouthwash, pre-bed shower maybe, deodorant, perfume, bottles disposed of, glasses washed up - anything to erase the evidence of my drinking. I do this even though I'm single and my grown up kids are often staying over at their partner's places, so I'm not hiding it from anyone else, just myself really. Obviously the water drinking etc. is an attempt to minimise the hangover and although it does to some extent (stops the dehydration mouth and headache) I still feel out of sorts all the next day. So it's two or three days alcohol free and then I do it all again. Rinse, cycle, repeat.

I guess I've never really changed my mindset properly but already, just watching a couple of the Annie Grace videos, a lot of what she is saying is getting through. Maybe this time is really the time I can give up for good?

Anyway, I signed up - 1st August and it's a 30 day challenge so I thought the timing couldn't be better. New month, new start. A month long experiment and see how I feel at the end of it. Ok so I've already got a week AF under my belt, but I'm kind of seeing today as my Day I as far as the 'experiment' is concerned.

Right now, the very last thing I want to do is drink, but I've been here before so many times. I really hope this time can be different.

Apologies for length of post - it turned into a kind of blog, but I guess that's therapeutic. Keep going everyone and have a great day!

Fanny
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mummyof4kids · 01/08/2020 18:38

I stripped the beds too and washed all the bedding.
So tonight I'm planning on a couple of glasses, I don't feel too bad about it. I'll be happy as a weekend drinker but probably not every weekend.
The kids are unexpectedly staying out so DP and I are having a date night (first one in about 2 years).
I love having this thread to come and check in with you ladies

mummyof4kids · 02/08/2020 07:21

Morning 🌞
I had 2 glasses of wine and just didn't fancy any more, that's a first for me.
I don't feel groggy or hungover but I'm not full of energy this morning like I have been all week so it just shows what alcohol does to us.
How's everyone else getting on?

AuntieMarys · 02/08/2020 07:34

Day 8 for me. Had tonic water with lots of ice/ botanicals about 6pm yesterday....that's my "gin time" normally.
I did 3 spin classes, a PT session and a normal gym hour last week...plus a 7 mile walk. And have the same booked this week.
Sleeping 10 till 6/7 which is great

Justdonthavethefirstone · 02/08/2020 10:10

Hi can i please join, day one here. My drinking has increased over lockdown, i am exhausted with it. I am grumpy and tired. I am ashamed. I need to quit.

FannyFernackerpan · 02/08/2020 12:08

@Justdonthavethefirstone

Hi can i please join, day one here. My drinking has increased over lockdown, i am exhausted with it. I am grumpy and tired. I am ashamed. I need to quit.
Welcome! Smile

Slept like a log after a busy and productive day yesterday.

Have a fab Sunday everyone!

mummyof4kids · 02/08/2020 17:07

@Justdonthavethefirstone welcome Smile
We've just got back from the park, had a lovely walk around the lake.
I'm making toad in the hole for tea then having a nice hot bath
Hope you've all had a lovely day

KobeWan · 02/08/2020 19:30

Hello everyone!
Welcome @Justdonthavethefirstone!
So I had a night off the wagon last night as we went out. Totally regret it! The wine went straight to my head, which I recognised at the time but I didn't stop drinking. 🤦‍♀️ Felt yuck this morning.
Next weekend we're supposed to be going away within the UK. I think I'll stay AF. I want to make the most of the days we are there and get out for some nice walks, etc. I don't want a hangover to ruin the only semblance of a holiday we'll probably get this year.

So, back on it today ready for my third week!
How's everyone else getting on?

Justdonthavethefirstone · 02/08/2020 20:10

Day one is over, hangover helped. I usually last to day 4 so am trying to not think that far ahead. If i just get to day 4 i can then focus on geting through it.

Well done everyone another day done.

Rupertpenrysmistress · 03/08/2020 08:09

Morning all, would love to join. Have quit many times before but, here I am this morning with a hangover, my lovely DH gave me a well deserved talking to, I have kids and he told me how it's affecting them and he says he thinks I have a drink problem. I have known this for years.

A lot of the posts rang true with me, I cannot stop at 1 but can go days without drinking!! So day 1 again. I really need this to be my last day 1. I wonder what sort of selfish parent I am, luckily my DH barely drinks.

Hope everyone is feeling the benefits this morning of being alcohol free. I know from my previous attempts how amazing I felt.

KobeWan · 03/08/2020 12:48

Welcome @Rupertpenrysmistress!
You were very honest in your post - I still feel like I'm in slight denial.
I didn't wake up feeling great! I'm so tired!!! Saturday's session has taken it out of me. I feel so stupid - don't remember parts of the night at all.

ememem84 · 03/08/2020 12:50

Am on day 3. So far so good. I bought lots of nice tonic water from the shop yesterday. Have been drinking that of an evening. Refreshing.

Dollyparton3 · 03/08/2020 13:42

I'm checking in on here too ladies! Can't remember the last booze free day I had and lockdown has me in a cycle of boredom in the evenings which means the bottle of wine is opened by 6 at the latest and then empty by 11pm. I'm definitely bloated, crabby and struggling to focus at work. Pre lockdown I had several conscious booze free days a week because I had an early morning drive to the station.

Wishing everyone the best of luck and day 1 starts here

FannyFernackerpan · 03/08/2020 14:21

Hi all and welcome to all newbies. Wonderful to see the thread growing.
Grin

Day 10 since I last had a drink and day 3 of the Annie Grace 30-day experiment, which I am loving.

Still feeling good and no desire to drink at the moment which is great. Sleeping better and just feeling so much better genuinely. Plus I would normally have spent around £30 on wine by now, so I'm going to transfer that over into my savings account today.

lockdownlush · 03/08/2020 20:15

Reset button for me.. back to day one AF. Had a terrible wobble last week and a real feck it moment.. my child had an awful accident. Anyway, I'm over it he's on the mend and I'm back on this mission. I should add I'd agreed with my H that we'd do this together but as per usual he came straight in from work and poured the wine.. I will not crack!! Did my PT session at 7am, I've have nearly 2 ltrs of water and remain focused.

FannyFernackerpan · 03/08/2020 20:22

No worries @lockdownlush.

I've fallen off the wagon so many times I've got the scars to prove it!

Sorry to hear about your little one. Hope he's ok.

KobeWan · 03/08/2020 22:16

Hope everyone's had a good day. I'm really enjoying being on this thread. It's keeping me feeling motivated and accountable.
I don't have any interesting news, but wanted to check in!

SylviaM · 03/08/2020 23:51

Hope there's room in the socially distanced circle for me. I wrote a long post about myself and then my internet crashed so here's a summary:

Doing Annie Grace too - started about the same time as @LockdownSoberup but had a couple of false starts so am on day 7
Lockdown has been a slow slide back into bad drinking habits mainly because of having to shop only once a week so having too many bottles of booze in the house, plus family Zoom cocktail parties too.

Looking forward to travelling a more sober road with you all

Dollyparton3 · 04/08/2020 07:39

Day 1 complete, husband and I shared a bottle of the M&S alcohol free G&T last night and were amazed by it. He definitely drinks too much as well. We're hoping to get back to that happy medium of not drinking on a school night and sharing a bottle of wine at the weekend. At the moment I reckon we're spending close to £70 a week on booze which is insane with a recession kicking off.

He's still going to work every day so not much has changed for him while I've definitely slid down the slope a bit working from home every day. It feels nice waking up this morning though so that's what I have to focus on

lockdownlush · 04/08/2020 08:15

@Dollyparton3 ooh I've tried that M&S stuff in the past and it's lovely ice cold with a slice of lemon.! I wish my H would get on board with being AF, I've tried to encourage it many times.

Lovely feeling waking up this morning with no fuzzy head.. already ticked off a couple work tasks and the kids are still in bed. Looks like a beautiful day ahead, hoping it will be a productive one.

Dollyparton3 · 04/08/2020 10:30

@lockdownlush I might have to go and stock up later this week!

I know what you mean, my job always has about 4 people teams messaging me at any given time (manager of a team) and I normally struggle to keep up. This morning I'm like an octopus shouting "next!" At the screen Smile

lockdownlush · 04/08/2020 10:38

Just shows you how more focused you can be minus the booze!! I need to keep on it as stuff just isn't getting done like it once did.. I had three bags of folded washing to put away yesterday.. I'd left it every evening always saying I'll do it tomorrow. Well last night AF it all got put away. Kept me busy and I no longer feel guilty for not doing it! Win win

AuntieMarys · 04/08/2020 12:36

Day 10 . Got up at 6 to do a spin class at 7!