Tryers to be dryers spring into spring, not as much wine, beer or gin. We sow our seeds of hope for a dryer season, but if we drink, it's for a reason.

[Frouby]

Thread 5 for Tryers to be Dryers. A thread for those who want support for moderating or reducing alcohol. Whatever you hope to do, whether it's to have more dry days, or be less wet when you do drink, come and join us for support.

Absolutely no judgement here, just friendly support and chat, the odd swear (lots of swears to be honest). All welcome, new and old tryers to dryers.

Sorry, must change my name back!

Done!

I was planning on being AF till Friday, when it’s my friend’s birthday, but I’m meeting a different friend for beers tomorrow. She’s a new friend and totally lovely, so one to nurture —over beer—.
My god, I feel awful saying this, but roll on Friday. It will be my first child free night in a month and they have both been especially challenging these last few weeks. I really do prefer parenting solo but bloody hell, it’s gruelling at times.
It’s a good job I don’t have a proper job and can fanny around on my own time.

NC I understand what you mean about solo parenting. Although it’s not the same I do a lot as a result of DH work travel and golf. Things are more organised and less complicated day-to-day when he is not around. But full time I can see it must have downsides. They are gruelling enough when the kid to adult ratio is 1:1
Dion well done for the AF win
yeh see if you can get the ball rolling with SS via shower stuff. You can see it won’t resolve itself but hoarding is a really complex problem so I do wonder if they will realistically be able to help. Good luck.
So on my vague good behaviour plan I did 5 days AF and BSD so far, tonight I’m out for dinner so the plan is moderate drinks and eat what I’m given. Famous last words...

Frouby your omelette sounds delicious -I've been eating more omelettes instead of twatting quiche as there are fewer calories and usually just herb ones (chives are great) but the addition of fish is a great idea. I just won't cook it for DS.
NC4 It is hard being a single parent. The advantage I see is that I bring my kids up my way and there is no clash with the OH about how to do it. But there is no doubt it is hard work.
Dion well done on your unplanned AF night.
I wasn't, but only 2 glasses of red and I slept well.
Back to work and school after yesterday's bank holiday.

Ha ha, I didn't eat bicycles but did eat biccies!

Frouby, my in laws are hoarders. It's terrifying that my doddery fil still climbs the loft to look at the junk up there. I dread to think what will happen to all the stuff in the long run.

Twatting quiche is the closest I get to eating eggs. It’s only the cheesiness that makes it bearable. Take out the cheese and add smoked mackerel and you’ve created my Food Hell.
As diet foods go, I reckon the lbs would drop off if mackerel omelette was on the menu.

Ah, BICCIES! I was trying to work out what bicycles could have been!

Dion, well done, how are you?

Today is day 11 AF and BSD. So this is the point where I go ‘ok, done that, bored now’ which would be fine if I had 6lbs to lose not 6 stone (no idea if it IS 6 stone as I have no idea what I weigh, deliberately, dh weighs me and doesn’t tell me the number) but I’m only on week 2 so six weeks to until I’m going to go onto the 5:2

So I probably need to reread and add to my diet diary which is now 5,000 words. Mind you, just looked at some photos of myself and that’s motivating.

I seem to have the reverse of body Dysmorphia: I look in the mirror and think I look alright and then see a photo and think OMGFG, who is that giantess?!

What is BSD?

Sorry, Blood Sugar Diet, it’s Dr Michael Mosley’s 800 cal a day for 8 weeks diet.

Oh I know that syndrome well Water. I get shocked into action then I only see mirror me for a while and think it isn't that bad.

I seem to be on a seesaw where I can be focused and in control for about three days then it all goes off the scale for a day or two. What's that all about? Self sabotage? Something else? Madness anyway.

The last two days I've just wanted to eat everything in sight, especially carby stuff. I'm wondering if my period might be due.

NC4 are you getting enough sleep, and enough good quality sleep? If you are tired, that can lead to carb craving. Another reason why drinking too much booze is bad for you - you don't sleep properly and so your tired body craves bad carbs for that sugar rush.
Water 800 cals per day isn't much, and just eating that for quite a long time must be tough. A few years ago I lost the 6kgs I wanted to in 5 wees by doing 5:2, I don't think I'd have the willpower to do 800 cals a day! You are doing brilliantly

Thank you MmeForest and NC4 💋

dh is away tonight and I don’t much like being alone in the house but never mind, ill leave lights on etc and it’ll be ok.

Oh and on the BSD at 800 cals a day I really can’t drink - a bottle of wine is probably 1000 calories!

Mme Forest probably not actually. These boys have been keeping me up at night.
Could explain it.
I’ve cancelled my mate date tonight for an AF early night.

Water, I am in complete awe of you. 🏅

Frouby, thank you for the recipe. I love omelette and any kind of fish (sorry, NC4). Nobody else in my family will eat fish, so it will have to be a special treat when the DC are away.

Canshop, I'm glad your DD has backed off a bit from this 'friendship'. The one thing I am discovering about my teenagers is that they are capable of any amount of ill-thought-out behaviour. I think they are like toddlers - they just can't think beyond the immediate 'I want', 'I like', 'me, me, me', 'it's not fair' and so on. Or mine are like this, anyway. I obviously was a perfect teenager. Agree that single parenting has its great positives (no twat of an XH making things worse) and negatives (very little respite from all the arguments/demands for money/food/lifts etc).

Thank you, Leaving and MadameF. There is very little alcohol in the house, which might help me tonight as it is pissing it down yet again and I'm not going out again. I avoided the gin aisle of Aldi, so that's a start.

NC4, I hope you enjoy your quiet night in.

That’s all teenager Dion. Their brains don’t develop properly till they are 25.
Maybe we should swap teenagers for a weekend. You could make fish omelette for my poor, fish deprived, pair, and I’d make something deliciously fishless for yours.
Just don’t give mine any money please. He can’t be trusted.

Ha ha NC4. Neither of mine can be trusted with money either. But yes, let's swap. Or we could leave them all to it, while we go to Frouby's for curry or twatting quiche.

That’s more like it

All welcome here for curry and twatting quiche 😁. As long as I can send my dcs somewhere else though, they aren't fit for company.

Dd is stomping around because 14 as usual. Ds just wandered into bathroom while I am having a bath, looked at my boobs and went 'ah, that's were you stored breastmilk when I was a baby' then wandered back out again. 🙈.

Not sure if I am going to be dry or not tonight. It's 6pm and I haven't had one yet and I don't think I fancy one. I only had 2 last night and really felt it this morning. And I didn't sleep that well. And if I don't have a drink I can have a yogurt later (picked non fat club friendly ones up). So lots of reasons not to bother. And I have hairdressers tomorrow.

But gin. I luvs gin.

Having a can of diet coke while I decide.

Frouby, your DD and mine can team up while we have our curry evening. PMSL at your DS.

Ha ha at swapping teenagers, mine is lovely at the moment, long may it last fingers crossed 🤞🏻

Well, I am dry again tonight which is a shocker. Can't remember the last time I had 4 dry days in 1 week. Fatclub ftw.

Just started series 2 of LOD. Am rationing myself to 1 per night though.

Water, let's hope so.

100ml gin tonight, and that is the end of the alcohol in my house. FML. However, I see from the label that this is 200 calories, so it's probably just as well. 200 calories to feel very little effect. Hmm.

Now a bit stuck with herbal tea.