Tryers to be dryers spring into spring, not as much wine, beer or gin. We sow our seeds of hope for a dryer season, but if we drink, it's for a reason.

[Frouby]

Thread 5 for Tryers to be Dryers. A thread for those who want support for moderating or reducing alcohol. Whatever you hope to do, whether it's to have more dry days, or be less wet when you do drink, come and join us for support.

Absolutely no judgement here, just friendly support and chat, the odd swear (lots of swears to be honest). All welcome, new and old tryers to dryers.

When did you last do it? I did it 18mths ago. Lost 1.5st in 3 months. Felt so good on it too once in a routine.

About 3 years ago I think. I lost 2st I think and wasn't as fat as I am now 😂😂. Got down to just over 11st then couldnt shift the last half stone to get to target, so thought I would low carb and sack sw as it wasn't working.

Now 13st 10lbs. Fuck sake 😂😂😂

Yup I’m over a stone heavier now than when I last started 🙄🙄. It seems SW is ok while ok it but then when you stop, you pile more than what you started at!!

Gah Flossie, I am you. Came in from friends' yesterday. Was hungry and a bit tipsy so scoffed the rest of my Easter chocolate in one go. Have decided against joining leisure centre as they are quite annoying really- always cancelling lessons and changing opening times. But I am going to mentally earmark £100 a month to spend on swimming etc and see if I can go that often. Also going to service bike and start using that to get around. Not to work as it's terrifying and I get the tube anyway, but to swimming pool, doctor's snd local shops. Am thinking of getting rid of car altogether when ULEZ comes in so need to practise.

Frouby I'm sure you can do it, you eat healthily already and not having a sweet tooth will help. If I didn't eat 700g of chocolate and 1kg of almonds a week I'd be OK. Losing weight is 80% cutting down on what you eat, sadly exercise doesn't burn a lot of calories - running 10km I burn no more than 450 cals, less than my daily chocolate intake . But exercise does make you feel good.

I’m joining in on the health kick. I’ve just got back from work, 10,000 steps lighter and in a great mood. It’s a beautiful walk, across the river, through the gorgeous park and the Georgian part of town.
I was watching a guy with a metal detector in the river, really hoping I was going to witness the finding of a Roman treasure haul, but alas. No such luck.

Wow, just logged into my WW app, which syncs to my FitBit. I earned 22 fit points walking to work (I have a target of 21 a week). Must be that big hill putting me in the fat burning zone!

Yes my gîtes are still here and thanks to Brexit there are a few weekends in my house for 12 available....you are all welcome of course, wine and twatting quiche essential Count me in, @MadameForest. What a laugh that would be!! (And I think it was Frouby who came up with your new name, though I wish it had been me as it is fab).

Good luck to all of those embarking on weight loss campaigns. I don't eat when I'm drinking, though this is decidedly not good advice. I'd love to run, but my joints won't take it. Gah.

Otherwise, I am beyond pissed off. Have had a G&T. DD surfaced at lunchtime, although I tried to drag her out of bed earlier. She then had a rant at me for not spending any time with her, and said she was going to her dad's. I suggested I might be able to spend more time with her if she a) got up in the morning and b) didn't strop off to her dad's every time she was cross with me (which is pretty much every time I speak). This didn't go well.

I seem to remember a book that was published long after my DC were small, called "Go the Fuck to Bed" or something. I'm writing a sequel, called "Go the Fuck to School".

I haven't had a period for about two minutes, so my filthy mood suggests I'm probably brewing up for one now. Yay me. There is half a bottle of wine in the fridge, so I will be leaving it there yeah right

Bloody kids Dion. Tomorrow back, yes?
Having eaten healthy all day, walked to work and abstained from booze for the second day running, I expect I'll be at least half stone down when I hop on the scales.

Fucksake. We t to dr to get coil strings checked and they are not there! Have to have a scan to find out where the fuck it's gone. In the meantime need to decide whether to take morning after pill. Wah! I can't have another baby, it would be irresponsible. But my heart hurts at doing the responsible thing. Stupid coil.

Also measles case reported at forest school. Do we live in the dark ages?

NC4, two days??? I want to be you.

Yes, everyone is back to school tomorrow. Thank God. I am on my knees with the sodding school holidays. And then it's only a month until half term, then only another month until the summer holidays. FFFFFFFFFFS. have not drunk the remaining half bottle on top of the G&T, obvs

Now I've written this self-indulgent shit, I've read Longest's post, which throws it all into complete irrelevance. for you, Longest.

Yikes Longest. I wonder how long its been AWOL? Because if it's been gone more than 72 hours, would the morning after pill make any difference?

I tend to ride on the 'it will be fine, people have to TRY to get pregnant', train of thought, but I had those thoughts for a good three weeks before realising I was up-duffed with DS1.
Mind you, I was a super fertile 25 year old then. I'm sure it will all be OK but anyway.

I got a press release today about Beach School today. I thought of you, and Flossie. It's something the local Uni is developing as part of their education research after the success of forest school. It sounds ace.

@NC4Now I got a press release today about people who go on expensive holidays. The phrase "fuck off" may have passed my lips when I deleted it.

Ahh longest

NC4 - my kids do beach school. They do paddle boarding and kayaking and co-steering as part of their PE lesson. They do a term a year. Dd1 loves it. Poor dd2 is desperate to do it but the school are so reticent to allow it!!

Dion - teenagers are twats. So cruel. I feel for you. Ds was a knob. Still is. Calls me saying he has a severe headache and feels odd, then goes awol for 3 days!! Ffs!!

Well today’s been trying..but somehow we made it thru. Dd has tests this morn. Then this Pm has an awful procedure that left her screaming in pain. It’s just so shit. Seeing her scream so hard. Doctors trying to help her. Anyway..she’s inspirational and fine tonight. I shouldn’t have had wine tonight but I’d course I did. Fml!! I’m crap. I just keep fucking doing it!!
As for eating. Had salad for lunch while out. Then cooked tomatoes, mushrooms, kale in garlic and chilli and tossed it on some
Pasta. Was yum!! If not covered in oil!!

Aw thanks guys. It'll be ok I think. I am not the most fertile. Took 18 months of ttc to get dd2. Though this slightly ignores the times I got pregnant but it did not end well, which is one of the reasons I have ruled out a dc3. Too much stress. Think I will do a pregnancy test and if negative (as it will be) take the pill. Obviously pill would only work re the past 72 houts though and there is a potential window before then which still wouldn't show up on a test. But that I can do nothing about so is somehow less stressful, at least for the time being.

Dion sympathies re school holidays! That's gone on a long time.

Flossie big hugs on the procedure, that must be so hard, I can't imagine. Much love.

NC4, beach school sounds amazing! Makes me jealous I just went to normal school. I tried to sort Flexi school for dd1 but her school was not keen. Part of me feels I should have pushed for it as dd1 basically has ADHD (undiagnosed but acknowledged by school and DH has it) and is the youngest in her class. Full time school at 4 was a bit inhuman. Deferred entry is more of a thing now so having a bit of a wobble re dd2 but she's a different character altogether, as well as a couple of months older. She can already read and write, more or less. It feels a bit unfair to defer her when it's dd1 who really would have benefited. Gah, I hate choice. There should just be rules to follow and no angst.

Longest, how stressful for you. Will keep everything crossed for you.

Flossie, thank you. Teenagers are buggers. DS rang me today. "Is it normal to feel a bit funny when you've just had 5 pains au chocolat and a can of red bull and some meat balls?" So I do have my uses.

Onwards and upwards tomorrow, as it is finally school again then. I may have to crack open something celebratory at 8AM.

Flossie, also wrote another post (which will probably show up about 5 times now, as my internet has been twatting around all evening with MN) to send you and DD2 the biggest hugs. xxx

💐 flossie, dont blame you for the wine, that must be hard seeing your dd in pain

Lol at go the fuck to school Dion, I remember Samuel L Jackson doing GTFTS

Omg longest, fingers crossed

Im day 1 AF and of the blood sugar diet so have only had 800 cal. Feel fine, motivated, fat. Wrote over 3,000 words on why I need to lose weight and cut down alcohol, think I’ve convinced myself!

Dion, my ds rang a while ago “my heart is pounding, I feel shit, I did do some Coke the other night, could it be that?” Er yeah, it could, durr

Morning all

Teenagers are funny creatures. Dd has £20 Easter money. She came down last night and gave it me back and asked me to order her a pregnancy pillow 😂😂. Because they are comfy to lay on, she used to nick mine. Strange child.

Fatclub was, erm, fun. Those meetings really don't get any less cheesy. Had pre warned my cousin about them but she still looked shellshocked when we came out. Leader is one of the worse ones. You would think that they would make sure they can speak to an audience before flogging them a franchise. I know it's supposed to be peer to peer support but Jesus christ, being able to deal with running a meeting should be a basic requirement.

Anyhow. Am officially in Fat Club. Apart from a few things it's pretty much the same old same old. Cousin outraged that avocados are syned, but have just said that no one ends up in fatclub because they eat too many avocados, and if she wants a 1/4 of avocado in her breakfast she should for now. She weighs about the same as me, and isn't as tall, but is quite muscular as she does a bit of training so we will get away with stuff for now.

Didn't get home until 9pm, so a dry night. Did stock up on slimline tonic at Tesco so can in theory have a g and t or 2 and stay on plan .

Flossie I don't know how you keep going, your poor dd. Are the procedures something that can potentially help her?

Longest fingers crossed. I am 41, dh 51. It took us 4 years to conceive ds so I don't bother with contraception. We use the pull out method. And being married method ie have sex once a week if we are lucky. And have mutual satisfaction down to a tee, without PIV sex if it's a dodgy time. Ds is 6 this year so it's worked so far.

Maybe not something I would recommend to a younger woman, but at 41 I know my cycle. If I was at all unsure though and we had a night of wild passion (or dh mistimed his exit 🙈) I would get a MAP. But it's not happened yet, he wants another baby like a hole in the head so is cautious.

And being married method ie have sex once a week if we are lucky. oh Frouby, I'm so glad that I decided to get married! But sex for us is OK because at 53 I haven't had a period for 18 months. I did fall pregnant (sadly unwanted) at aged 44, having taken 6 years to fall pregnant with DS a few years earlier so you never know. But Longest I'm sure you'll be OK.
Flossie your poor DD is such a brave girl. And you are a brave mum. There is nothing worse than seeing your kids suffer. Although my DS suffered on a much softer scale last night as we forced him to eat a grilled mackerel. It took over an hour but he did it.
Not AF last night, we have a bank holiday here on Wednesday and another next Wednesday so that rather buggers up the working week and gives yet another excuse not to be AF. Only 2 glasses of wine, though, and half the normal chocolate consumption.
Dion I'm so pleased the school holidays are at last over for you for a few weeks.
Water writing down your goals is also a good thing to do.
Frouby Here's to fat club. One of my oldest school friends is one of the champion Slimmers World organisers. I've never done the diet but she has a lot of success.

Hi all. Wow, lots of you on a health kick!
I’m back after another boozy weekend. We had 20 people round on Sat celebrating my birthday (again!). Lots of fizz and wine etc. Also drank Sunday and because I was pissed off with everything and everybody, I had a gin and half bottle of red last night! So day 1 AF today and aiming to be dry until Friday.

Longest - that’s a bit worrying but fingers (and legs) crossed. Good idea to do a pg test and take MAP just in case.

Flossie - thinking of you and your brave DD. It sounds so bloody hard for you.

Waterandlemonjuice - good luck with the diet. Don’t think I’d survive on 800 cals though I do have plenty of fat reserves 😅

Frouby - looking forward to tales from fat club - ‘av a bit of dust’ Good luck with it.

Madame Forest - I cant believe that all your running doesn’t mean you can eat what you like! It’s not fair. It does make you super fit though and, as you say, it’s a great mood booster. I did quite a tough Pilates class yesterday - not exactly fat burning but lots of toning.

Dionysa - I’m glad school hols are over for you. Let’s hold hands to try and get a few AF days under our belts. I hate the out of control feeling I get when I’ve had too many nights without a break. Need to reign it in!

NC4 - well done and keep up the good work.

Just thought I’d share this with you all. Made me pmsl. Two stories on one page. I can relate to both 😂😂

www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/mum-enjoys-holiday-in-supermarket-car-park-20171111138852

Flossie - hilarious 😂

lololol at 'nobody ends up in fat club from eating too many avocados' ha ha ha ha very true

I am on day 2 AF and of the BSD and feeling fine but I didn't get up until midday so had over 10 hours sleep (got up at 7 to make dd breakfast as she has exams and went back to sleep) and have only been up a couple of hours. Feel good! Actually, better than that, I feel how I am meant to feel, ie. not hungover or sluggish or shit. I feel rested and cheerful and awake (not surprisingly)