Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

[Dionysa]

Ah well. Day One again. Felt too hung over even to think of drinking tonight!

However, that is not good. Someone was talking to me about their dad having liver problems earlier, which set off a whole load of anxiety as well...

Flossie, I always notice how good I feel when I haven't drunk the night before. Yet it still doesn't change anything!

[TheDistantSky]

Hey can I join?
36 units this week. Need to cut down a lot. Was dry for 4 months at the beginning of the year and it's crept up on me again.

Better than it was (a few years back I topped 67 in a week) but still way too high. One glass leads to another.

[Dionysa]

Hello and welcome, Distant. I have been on here right from the start, but had a bit of a break as I was starting to feel bad that I couldn't manage to go AF in the way that some posters had done, and was drinking even more because I was adding guilt to the mix. However, it's a lovely thread and very supportive of those of us who find it really hard, but still want to try to do better (and sometimes succeed, and sometimes don't)!

[Dionysa]

And, Distant, I know exactly what you mean about one glass leading to another... Fighting the temptation to have the first ATM...

[CottonSock]

Day one again for me. I went a bit crazy on the wine again this weekend. Bad sleep and a cold, no booze in house now. So will try and do 5 days af.

[Dionysa]

Good luck, Cotton. 5 days is not on my radar at the moment. But I am struggling through Day 2. Which is better than anything I've managed recently...

[CottonSock]

Dion, I read your post above and it resonated a lot with me. I had a bad summer and didn't want to discuss my failure on here. It's all peaks and troughs, not a direct line. Best wishes

[Frouby]

Not dry here, cos it's my birthday .

Had 3 bottles of gin bought for me amd be rude not to try them. Blood orange gin liqueur plus tanquery going down well. Was dry yesterday tho and hopefully tomorrow.

My progress is up and down BUT overall would probably average out as reduced since starting this thread and that is what I look at.

[Flossie44]

Hi everyone. Fleeting visit. Confessing my sins..drinking stupid amounts!! Have so so much shit to deal with. Just don’t know a way through this. Having a daughter so poorly fucks with my head!! She’s doing really well currently but it can be taken away in a flash. I know that. I’m hanging on to each day and holding onto all the loveliness during the day. As soon as dark falls, I turn to wine!!
Anyway..hats off to all of you who manage to sort their shit out and get a handle on this poison. Wish I could. Currently struggling

[Dionysa]

Happy birthday, Frouby!!!

Day Three endured here. I have yet to feel any of the benefits. I just feel in need of a very stiff drink.

Woosey, you have all my sympathy, especially given the unpredictability of your DD's condition. I would say I don't know how you cope, but I do know - you have no choice, so you just have to keep going somehow, because nobody else will.

[Dionysa]

^ Flossie. Sorry. Three days AF hasn't repaired my brain cells, either...

[Flossie44]

Dion - you’ve truly done amazing!! You should take strength from the fact that you can do this 💐

[Frouby]

Awww Flossie don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe rather than trying for AF just now less A might be more achievable? Or just counting the units and logging them somewhere? On here or a calender? Then try again when you feel more in control?

It's so difficult but I find when I press the fuck it button just keeping a tally helps me focus quicker when I unpress the button.

dion 3 nights is fabulous. I can't remember the last time I did 3 nights. Or even 2 if I am honest. I can do 2 or 3 niggts a week, but not one after another.

Day 1 here hopefully. Had 3 cans and 1 very large gin last night and feel bluergh this morning. Am ok with it but so much to do and would feel so much better and sleep better without the drink.

[thecheesehasaphone]

Watching the drinkers like me Adrian Chiles documentary (with a bit of an ache in my liver after the weekend oh the irony). The doctor said to aim for 3-4 AF days per week. I'm currently doing 2, and was pretty pleased with that. I REALLY would love to do 3 though but haven't managed it so far. Does anyone else just come up with an excuse every evening why they 'have' to drink?!

[FellSwoop]

thecheese
I could ALWAYS find an excuse to 'have' to drink when I was drinking. For me it was about keeping myself topped up. If I had alcohol in my system from the previous night then you can bet your bottom dollar I would find a reason or excuse to have more the next night. It was craving. Topping up to keep the craving at bay. To shut out my feelings. To cope with my life etc.

The only way FOR ME to deal with that was by not putting any alcohol in my system. I'm not for a second suggesting that is the only way for anyone else. But for me, in my current situation in life, it's the only way. For me, I can't risk a glass of wine at the moment. But I know EXACTLY how you feel right now.

[Dionysa]

Frouby, I hope you are managing Day One!

I am celebrating my three-day success with a very wet evening. I can't even think of an excuse, other than it has been a long day and it is half term .

So I think that also answers your question, thecheese...

[Flossie44]

Oh crikey yes, always an excuse available for grabbing a glass of wine. Either a good day or a bad day warrants it!! That’s my biggest failure..I need to drink in a healthy way, not as a crutch.
Had half a bottle tonight, left half a bottle in the fridge!! Quite shocked!!

Dion..3 days is amazing. You can totally have a wet night tonight guilt free. Well done you!! X

[Dionysa]

Flossie, that makes me feel a bit better about my no-excuse very-wet night...x

[Dionysa]

Well. I am not succeeding tonight, either.

[Frouby]

Me neither. And last night was wet too. Fml.

[Dionysa]

FML too, Frouby...

[Flossie44]

And fml too!!

.......however is it actually ‘wrong’ to say I’m bloody enjoying the ice cold Pinot I’m sipping/glugging tonight??

[Flossie44]

So cheers everyone!!!!!!!!

Is this a name change night to ‘fuckmylifeandenjoywine’?? Loved that night!!

[Anglaise1]

Not dry here either, away for a night in a posh hotel (FM paying) so a couple of glasses of red. Cheers!

[Flossie44]

Anglais....forest man sounds the perfect specimen!!