Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

fell amazing story. Well done!!

I’m back on day one. Although do we really count my half glass of birthday wine?!

But af today. Wahooo.

Was offered. Said no. Ddad rolled his eyes. Dm said no too. Dh said no (Although his willpower is way better than mine). Ddad moaned about being the only one drinking.

All I've had since Monday is one white wine spritzer. I had a bottle or two a night habit and even more last weekend. I feel proud of myself but knackered!!!

Yesterday was an afd . Wahooo.

Fell Well done on going AF, you must feel great! I don't think I could, but all the benefits you talk about are what I got when I cut down from around 6 bottles a week to one. If I hadn't been able to moderate AF would have been the way to go but I still like a glass of wine occasionally. But a glass rather than a whole bottle now!
Ladyaren't you sleeping better if you have been AF for a stretch? Its one of the first things I noticed.
Emem well done on AF last night
Frouby Flossie Dion how are you doing this week? I've been AF except for a glass of wine with DP when he came over Tuesday evening. AF apart from that although sleeping badly but that is probably menopause related.

This week is a write off Angalaise. Only 1 or 2 a night, but still not AF. But am not too worried, I have had a quiet week workwise and have consciously chosen to drink rather than mindlessly drink if you see what I mean.

Will be aiming for AF from sunday tho. Am hoping to be super busy workwise next week with lots of 5am starts. And have my house to get ready for the decorator in a couple of weeks time. And a million and one other things to do.

Anglaise If you are able to moderate so well then absolutely shoot for moderation! It's just not something I have ever been able to do! There's absolutely no harm in a glass of wine if you are able to stick to it.
For me personally, I'd be screaming inside after a glass, and need more and more. It's so hard to explain what that craving feels like...but I know it disappears completely if I have no alcohol in my system. If I don't drink, I don't crave more.

You’re all doing really well. However I just can’t do it right now. Life is getting in the way. Stress and general shitness!! Wine is my friend right now. Rightly or wrongly. Got so so many stress factors. I haven’t even got the mental capacity to think about going AF, or even the general planning of that. I’m turning to wine as it’s the easy option right now. Fml over and over

G&t. We were supposed to complete on a house purchase however we didn’t get answers to queries. Not even answers we wanted. No answers. Just pressure to complete today.

Sigh.

I've fucked right up this weekend. I'm annoyed with myself but tomorrow is another day....

Hello all

Day 2 here, was dry yesterday after a long run of damps!

Mondays are always tough though, swimming lessons are a bloody nightmare and all that water makes me thirsty. But am fat and bloated and tired so really need a good run of drys to try and reset once again. Holiday in about 9 weeks. Hmph.

Am even more mad busy than usual. Work and decorating and everything else in between. Have 10 days to completely fettle and declutter my downstairs. That includes a home office, ds toy collection and The Cabinet Of Doom where lost shite goes to die. Fml. A billion times over.

eme my family are serious drinkers too. I live 5 hours from them otherwise I would struggle.

Fell thanks for sharing your story. I was close to going to AA in June.

I was dry most of the week.. Saturday had a tension headache and ended up drinking a bottle. Then severe insomnia and wish I hadn't. I did actually leave a glass half full, which is somewhat of a miracle. I will have to learn though as my tolerance will reduce .

My main motivation is holiday in 3 weeks and trying to lose weight.

Hi
Can I join please .
I went AF for a fortnight a few months ago and felt so good .
How on earth can I get past night 1 ?
That's the hardest but for me .
Any tips on motivation to take that first step ?

Tinkerbell welcome to the thread. Day 1 is always the hardest. I have had lots of days 1s. What works for me is staying busy at my danger oclock and saying it's just 1 day at a time. And having something nice to drink instead of alcohol. I like ginger cordial.

It is so hard though. I have had 3 dry nights this week, been wet the last couple though and will be wet tonight.

Have slept awfully the last couple of niggts as well. Combination of a couple of drinks, an awful, heavy crampy period and knowing I have to be up early for work. Am sure I would sleep better without the beerfear at 2am.

Am drinking tonight but hopefully will be dry tomorrow. And sunday is a dry day.

How is everyone else?

Zero AF this week combination of reasons but I feel very disappointed with myself. I did only have 2 glasses of wine on 3 nights which I suppose is something. I even made it to after 9 AF one night, but then caved in and had half a bottle, but felt yuck at work the next day start again on Monday sigh. I wish I could do 3 af in a week @frouby

I got a bottle of wine last night. Thought I would see if I can moderate yet, well I can't.. guess I am all or nothing.

I am just popping by (will read the most recent posts later).

Not doing very well ATM. Too much bad stuff going on, and I feel guilty when I read about people who have managed to go completely AF. I know I would feel happier, richer, thinner, less anxious and generally better all round if I didn't drink at all. But if it were that easy, I wouldn't be on this thread.

Frouby, I hope you managed to be dry last night (I wasn't, though it wasn't too bad as I ran out of gin. I went out to buy some more, but bumped into an ancient churchy neighbour in the corner shop, and felt too embarrassed so left with a bag of crisps instead).

Not dry this week at all, only one evening AF but a couple of glasses of wine other nights and a half a bottle Friday and Sunday with new DP. However I ran a half marathon yesterday and got a PR of 1H40 3 minutes less than the previous one 4 years ago so it didn't have too much of a negative effect . I was 35 out of 750 women who ran so not bad for an old woman of nearly 53. Will try and be AF this week.

I was wet on Saturday Dion. for you, hope things pick up soon.

anglaise I am trying for a drier week this week. House is upside down mid declutter ready for decorator at weekend and I have so much to do. Was dry last night, hopefully tonight and tomorrow will be dry as off out for a family meal for my nephews birthday and I will be driving. So 3 dry days would be a cracking start and just tonight to get through.

If I can do 3 I can do 4 I reckon. Friday might be dry too, birthday party for one of ds friends that runs until 6.30pm so won't be home until 7ish. And up early for decorator on Saturday.

Will be so bloody glad when it's done. Seems to have been hung over me for weeks.

Did you manage to stay dry Frouby? Are you sleeping better?
Dion Flossie how are you both doing, it's been a while? How are your DDs doing at school?
School holidays here next week and the week after, can't wait as 6am starts are hard now it isn't getting light until after 8am.
Dry Monday and Tuesday but not sleeping well at all. No idea why but eyes are permanently tired even if the body isn't. No worries either, FM is all mine now - I guess it is the menopause even if there are no obvious hot flushes.
How is everyone else doing? With the nights drawing in it can be harder to keep occupied during the trigger period.

Was slightly damp mon Anglaise, 2 cans of lager so not horrendous. Dry last night.

So that's 2 cans of lager over 3 days which isn't too bad I suppose.

Hi.
Anglais - so glad to read FM is all yours now. What happened?? Is this the new partner you say about?
Frouby - 2 cans over 3 days is really good.
I had about 10 days of not just wet, but soaking!! Woke up Sunday feeling sorry for myself both mentally and physically so decided to pull myself together!! Was dry Sunday and Monday. Didn’t finish a bottle last night but had a good go!! But want to b dry again tonight. I liked the fresh feeling the next morning. Definitely noticed a difference. Despite having organic wine last night..there’s a definite bleurgh today!!

Not dry last night, but only 2 glasses of wine so not too bad.
Flossie yes, FM has been promoted to DP. He finally he finished with the other woman as he always promised he would. He had a lot of feelings for her and she is quite complicated so it took a long time but in the end it worked out really well. So yes, he is all mine now. Things are really easy with him - I don't think I've ever been so in tune with someone on all levels! Fingers crossed this one will last
How is your DD?

Am tentatively back. I have really struggled with the feeling of guilt and hopelessness, but this thread has been so helpful to me and I don't want to abandon it. Tonight is a complete write-off, and I know it shouldn't be - but I also know that some of you will understand this.

I am aiming for better from Monday onwards. Thank you to those of you who know who you are. xx

Welcome back Dion . We missed you. Hope things aren't too awful with you. And if they are, that you are coping. Completely understand about the drinking, have been there too many times.

Am struggling myself with not drinking. Life is so busy and stressful. It just seems like it's a series of balls in the air constantly juggling one thing after another. Am working just about full time hours, doing all the housework, currently got a decorator in doing all downstairs. School runs, dog walks, allotment, chickens, ponies, little animals at home. Poorly auntie, lovely cousin struggling with that and her wifes ongoing struggle with infertility which is impacting on their relationship.

I feel pulled from pillar to post and the answer seems to be to reach in the fridge at 6pm and drink my stress away.

On a lighter note have completely gutted downstairs ready for the decorator. Have 'stuff' shoved everywhere but come monday when everything is done and put away it will be a thing of beauty.

It is lovely to hear your (virtual) voice again, Frouby. I don't know why we keep doing it. I feel thoroughly ashamed of myself for last night. No excuse at all, other than that the DC weren't here so I thought: sod it. About to go to work now, but will check in again later...