Less booze. More AF days. But still a bit damp. Not dry jan, but not a soggy summer. Support thread for reducing alcohol.

[Frouby]

New thread in case the other fills up while I am busy this weekend.

Did I mention I get married tomorrow? 😁

Rubbish at clicky links but sure someone clever will be along to link the last thread.

This is a support thread for those wanting to reduce the amount you drink. There is no judgement on here. We are all struggling along with our own problems and lives and looking to cut down. You might only want a couple of weekends off. Or reduce the amount of days you drink. Or the amount you drink. Or both.

Whatever your starting point and whatever your goal come and join us for friendly chat and support.

Dion I know. I do feel great and proud and in control....and my jeans fit.
I get what you mean about being able to drive for a change. I had similar with one of my teenagers but wasn’t proud when said teenager grilled me to check I wasn’t driving under the influence upon pick up. So cheeky but obviously it was time for change. Dion - night 3? You can do it. X

Actually You are doing brilliantly, well done! On the AF nights and losing weight. As for drinking on Saturday...well, some people find complete abstinence easier to manage because they didn't have to set rules and stick to them, but for me as long as I don't go over my 2 glasses of wine (3 units) my willpower is intact and I can still enjoy the odd drink. If I handn't been able to stick to my rules then I'd have gone 100% AF because it is clear I wasn't capable of moderating. You could choose to do one month AF, but I never did, just stuck to my rules. It is always difficult to break the AF cycle but if you just have a couple of drinks and are able to put the cork back in the bottle and leave it you have won. I used to feel a little guilty but don't anymore, but I understand it is a dilemma for you. Think of it as a test if you do decide to drink on Saturday, it's definitely a test you can pass I'm sure, as you have already seen the benefits of a long stretch of being AF.
Hope that makes sense I think I have waffled on enough!

Anglaise you haven’t waffled on. I’m taking it all in. Just don’t want to let myself down. It’s tricky too as my husband keeps offering, I’ve told him I need this, but it’s what we’ve always done together, we probably incourage each other. I have noticed that since I’ve been AF he has decreased significantly. Instead of chugging a bottle a night plus beer he’s maybe had 1 beer and I think he’s had a bottle in 10days and the odd AF. I’m telling myself this is good for him too although he can’t see the problem or big deal since he “knows people who have much more than us”. Im not his keeper tho so won’t ask him to stop and I’m actually grateful for the football. This weekend he can have a couple with some pals, that will take pressure off me for another weekend. Silly isn’t it. Anglaise, Since cutting right back it sounds like you have always still had a couple at the weekend and I’m so impressed you can stick to it, how did you know you would? Maybe you just know when it’s ok?I think maybe I need a bit more time off so that I can trust myself and then I need to engineer something awquard I think. Maybe a glass of wine at lunch when I can’t just carry on after would be an idea? Relearn how to do it. Maybe I shouldn’t have to overthink it... 😩 but my jeans fit! I’m waffling now but this page has been a good release since I’m too embarrassed to tell my friends and family even tho they are very similar I suspect. I’ve started to wonder if a couple of my friends are battling this in private also and I’m looking at my mum and dad in a new light...anyway all of you on day one and those on day 3 today - You CAN do it! There’s always another day for wine, just not today hey!

Actually I didn't know I could stick to one or two drinks until I tried, neither do you! So it is worth a try. I think you will be fine. Just keep in mind how well you feel and how nice it is that your jeans fit, don't go over 2 drinks after which your willpower tends to wobble and see how it goes.

Actually - thank you for your encouragement! And big wooo to you too! And to Dion, day 3 for me today too. Big incentive - my skin looks so much better in the mornings when I haven't had alcohol, I can really notice a difference (or am I beating myself up even more over having a drink, and finding another reason to feel guilty)

Evening everyone and well done on AF days. These long,warm summer nights are hard work avoiding the demon in the fridge.

Not doing too badly here. 2 v small wines and a 330ml cider on monday. 2 35ml g and ts last night watching football. And AF tonight.

DH got absolutely bladdered last night and hasn't been to work today as he would have still been over the limit at 5.30am. He has irratated me immensely flopping around and sighing all day. What a waste of a day.

I have had a good day tho. More or less got on my baby pony this morning. Leant all way across her and everything. Didn't have any stirrups so wasnt quite bendy enough to wiggle on without them (would have been able to years ago). This is a BIG THING I have waited 5 years for so was a very happy bunny this morning. At a funeral tomorrow to escort my mam and auntie so wont get up but have bought stirrups and leathers for friday.

Haven't ridden for 20 years. Am fat, 40 and had 2 dcs via c section since I last rode properly.

If I disappear from this thread have been splattered by baby pony and am head to toe in plaster 😂😂

I want a pony!!!

Fail here.

More to follow.

froubyI'm very jealous I used to love riding. Have fun Friday. I'm too scared of falling off now and getting an injury that would mean I couldn't run!

Dion hugs hope you are ok
bunty well done on Day 3
Well I had my rendez vous in the forest this afternoon with Mr Peut-être, sex, picnic, sex. It was great afternoon. The 3rd time he did try to slip it in the other hole but laughed reminded him I was British and that more preparation was needed ( it can bloody hurt otherwise!) and we didn't have time as I had to go.
Anyway he is away till Monday back for a few days then on holiday for 3 weeks so not sure how things will progress. And everything was AF of course 😇

So sorry only quickly popping in. Dion..I always worry re being able to drive at night for my kids if I needed to.
Well done those AF successes.
I’ve failed again.
Dd2 not allowed to school yet but I’ve taken her to their school camp today Cos she didn’t want to miss out!! Jeeeez....my adrenaline was through the roof!! Really hardcore day of pushing her and me to the limits. She did so well and I’m so proud. But knackered!! Totally knackered!! So what did I do?! Pour a wine!!!!!!

Angalise wow! Sober, repeated almost lunchtime bum sex alfresco 😁😁😁. Was he filthy? And not just from rolling around on the forest floor?

Frouby we did have a quilt so it wasn't that dirty on the ground
He was actually very gentle, I'm not sure what dirty sex is anymore by UK standards, nothing kinky happened, but normal with French guys, lots of oral, different positions but it was very tender and definitely not just raw sex that you do with people you don't really care about! Lots of kissing, I can't do that with men I don't care about although I can fuck them without caring about them

It sounds lovely Anglaise. Not filthy at all.

When is your next date? He sounds lovely and a keeper.

Feel shocking this morning. Got an annoying cough and think am brewing a bit of a chest infection. I have asthma which is well managed but can usually tell if I am getting sonething nasty.

Off to a funeral today with my mam and auntie. Will be eventful as taking them anywhere is always eventful. It's like taking 2 toddlers out for the day. They want to 'nip' in places miles out of the way, spend hours looking at tat in shops and generally drive me potty. And at least 1 of them gets stuck getting in or out of my pick up truck.

Thank you Anglaise - day 4 completed , tomorrow is the weekend and it's a challenge to drink moderately - I like 3or 4 glasses of wine rather than a sensible 2!

Frouby - asthma is crap!! I’ve got it too and it’s certainly the thing that kicks off if I’m under the weather!!
Anglais - mr perfect actually sounds like mr bloody fanny gallops!! He sounds the business!! Let us know updates....

Took dd to her school camp yest and today. 13hr days. She’s not allowed to stay over. She’s managed amazingly but I’m worn out with the stress and risk assessments involved!! Really wiped out!!
Got home 9pm, ran a bath and Dh poured me wine!! I’ve continued!! I just can’t see how I can stop...

Bunty well done! 4 days is brilliant. Over half the week dry. That’s so good. We are very similar. As long as I can get past my evening meal without getting wet I’m ok. It’s getting easier and easier for me. Day 12 today. Like you I’m not good at sticking to 1 or 2 so I’m going to stay off again tonight. I may have a couple tomorrow but I might wait another week! I’m feeling so much better I don’t want to go off track! Good luck with either dry 5 or moderation! Your doing so well.

Bunty Well done! As Actually says once you get a few days on the trot AF under your belt it gets easier, and you have the added motivation that you can see positive changes in both your physical and mental states. Try and stick to no more than 3 units to ensure your willpower stays firmly in place! For me it has just got into a habit of AF in the week, a couple of drinks on a weekend night as a treat, although I can pass on them no problem. Good luck to you both this weekend, stay strong!
Frouby I hope the funeral went as well as can be expected, and that your asthma has gone.
Woosey attending camp with lots of kids must be exhausting, not to mention worrying about your DD all the time, at least if you are getting back late you can't have time to drink that much!
Dion I hope you are OK
Have a great weekend everyone, weather looks good, I'm taking the DC to the airport and have a child free 10 days ahead (school finishes here today).

I dream of 4 days AF. And 12 seems a massive impossibility so well done Bunty and Actually.

Woosey alldawine in the world would be needed to revive me from 13 hours of camp. I once did 6 hours with dd and her class at a city farm when she was little. Jesus fucking christ. It was horrific.

Funeral went ok. It was for my mums mil. Mums husband died 10 years ago but they have remained in contact. They are a strange family though. Lots of odd dynamics and falling outs and ongoing fueds.

Our crem is having some major repairs done so the service was held in a huge gazebo thing. Was absolutely boiling hot and stuffy and really kicked my tickly asthma cough off.

Then on the way out of the graveyard dm and aunt decided they wanted to visit my nan and grandads grave. They are a funny pair. My auntie was chattering away to them while my mum was stood chattering away to my aunt 'tell them I said our Kerrys had the baby...' etc etc. Pair of nutters 😂😂.

Wasn't dry last night. Couple of cans of lager. 3 I think in total.

Not sure what tonight will bring. Have a busy day tomorrow. Having a bbq for the football so lots of stuff to do.

Afternoon, all.

Did someone say Day 12, Actually? Blimey.

I have been too ashamed to post on here due to epic fails last night and the night before. As always, it was just supposed to be one, but I can't stop once I start. So I have to try not to start at all. Day One Yet Again now. And I am not sure I will manage even that. All DC have now broken up from school, so that is not going to help matters.

Anglaise... what can I say? He sounds like Monsieur Parfait. I am wondering what the French is for bumsex (suspect it's 'le bumsex'). Keep us posted!!!

Frouby, your posts do make me laugh. And always when I need it.

Woosey, I'd be drinking if I'd been anywhere near a camp. I hope your DD is ok (not to mention you...)

Dion - yep 12 - think how much money that is!!!!

Wow 12 days AF?!!!!!! Do you feel cleansed??

Dion - I feel the same re posting. Too ashamed!! Just drowning myself in wine currently!! Good news is..dd can try school again on Monday!! Fingers crossed. Obviously I’m drinking to thank god the camp is over and also to celebrate a weeny bit of freedom Monday!!!!!

Oh Woosey, that is fab news. I will be thinking of you both.

About to open the wine, despite everything I said. FML. Even my mother is now gunning for me, because she believes DS's version of what is wrong with his life.

Actually, I hope you are going to treat yourself with the savings!

I have BIG NEWS tonight.

This morning I rode BabyPony. This might sound insignificant but it is MAJOR.

I haven't rode for 20 years properly. Had the odd sit on stuff. Probably half a dozen times in the last 10 years for 10 or 15 mins at a time. I have had 2 c sections and no core strength. I am fat and wobbly and unfit and not half as brave as I used to be.

But I bloody did it.

Used the stirrup to mount which is a BIG THING for a baby pony. Sat on and walked about 10 metres. This is also a BIG THING as you usually lay across, maybe sit up then get off. But she felt relaxed and happy so we went for it.

Not dry here. Celebrating my brave pants and lovely baby pony.

Oh, Frouby, how utterly fab!!!!!!! You jolly well ought not to be dry.

The great thing about C-sections is no episiotomy, which are a bugger when it comes to riding.

Baby Pony is absolutely gorgeous. I can't do emojis, but I would be doing multiple hearts...

Wet here, btw.

Aww frouby sounds like you have major reason to celebrate! That’s great!

Very wet here too which started with a small ‘try this new wine I’ve bought’ when I visited my neighbour at 4pm this afternoon!