Not dry january. But less booze in general. Anyone else?

[Frouby]

I am posting this thread because I really want to reduce the amount of alcohol I drink.

I was going to do dry January but think that is too much for me. And when I do drink again I will revert back to bad habits.

On a normal week I would have 1 or 2 g and ts mon to thurs. Bottle of wine on a friday. Then either a couple of beers or a couple of g and ts on a Saturday night. Nothing on sunday.

Over Christmas (which started for us mid December as we had a holiday) I have drank every day. Never been drunk drunk but 4 or 5 drinks every day.

I feel fat, bloated and lethargic. I want to cut my drinking down to a couple of nights a week. Friday and Saturday. Or thursday and friday. DP also drinks most days (more than me too) and we both need to address our relationship with alcohol.

I didn't drink last night and won't tonight either. And I feel 100% better already. We get married in May and I want to lose weight and improve my health.

Does anyone else want to join this thread for support? I know there is the dry January thread but I will be drinking (probably) 2 days a week so dont want to post on there and knock any penguins off the ice.

Currently drinking ginger ale with loads of ice and contemplating a shower and a cupp of tea later with the last of the Christmas cake (diet starts tomorrow) 😁

I will have a cuppa with you woosey. Wine would be nice but I have half an aero in the fridge somewhere.

And it won't go with wine.

Am seriously tempted to have a very early night. Been awake since 4.30am with the most annoying fucking cough. It was my cough too not dps! And I have a sore throat.

Too tired to even think about a drink which is good. I think anyway.

Failure here.

Horrible, horrible, horrible, horrible day.

I’ve failed at the first hurdle!! Poured myself a gin as was in a mess over the stress of today!! Feel so cross. Wanted to open the wine but dh reminded me id drink the whole bottle if I did whereas I can stop at one or two v weak gins. So here I am!! Pissed off but also feel I needed it!! Stress is as dangerous surely!!

Athena....you ok?

Woosey, that is very sweet of you. And you message will now stop me from having more than a bottle of wine (which is what I have had thus far). I am v grateful to you for that. Shitty day. But I know this will not be helped by wine...

^your

Athena..we will crack this tomorrow. A new day. 🙌🏼 Hope you are ok. Sounds like you’ve had a nasty day

I’ve had a couple of gins tonight. Made them weak ones and could sooooo easily have poured myself bigger and lots more!! BUT I still am not AF!! Worried as I actually felt shaky before having a drink. Not sure it was due to stress and not being able to think straight while the kids were still demanding my attention at 8:30pm or whether it’s due to dependency!! I’m hoping it’s not the latter..I’ve done AF days recently, Sunday being one, and wasn’t shaky then 🤔

Athena . It's hard. But we are all still here and still posting. No matter what we drink as long as we keep on trying and are aware of what we are drinking it's a start. I don't think any of us went from a couple of drinks a week to a few a night in the space of a few weeks so it will take us a while to get to where we are comfortable.

Woosey less is better still. Shakes could be all sorts of things. And if you didnt shake AF it's unlikely to be anything sinister.

I feel shocking this morning. Really weak and shakey. Am supposed to be doing housework after the school run. But am very tempted to go back to bed for an hour. Have lots to do today including taking my mum to the dentist and going to town. After 3 hours of housework. Just took some paracetamol and hoping they work by the time I am back.

Frouby, sorry you are feeling under the weather. And you are quite right - the habit wasn't formed overnight, so won't be broken overnight either. That's a bit consoling, when I feel full of self-loathing today (though, curiously, not hungover ).

Thanks for your support too, Woosey. It does help.

Frouby - sounds a nasty bug. Rest up and dose up. Hope you feeling better soon.

Athena - I too never get hungover . Today is a new day. Let’s try together. Mind you I’m sayinf this before 10am. It may be a diff picture for me by 7pm tonight after doing club run after club run for dd1!!

Woosey, quite. I will check in later...

I’m dreaming of a g&t!!!!! Now got to go and do club run.....

Me too, Woosey... (though not the club run, thank goodness).

Ffs got home and was ‘ok’. Dh called on his way home from work in a mega bad mood. Really knobbish about a business deal etc. He got in and was in one of those ‘I can’t snap out of work modes’. So what did I do?....turn to my best friend Pinot for a little help and support 😫😫

I don't think I should post anymore because I will sound too smug, I find it easy not drinking 😳 but I think I'm older than most of you and it was something I had to do. Not sure it would have been as easy when my kids were younger and I wasn't as into sport and didn't have the pleasure of the menopause to disrupt sleep!

We are all in different places with this Anglaise1. I find it fairly easy not to drink. What I struggle with is finding an 'off' button once I've started! I think there's room for all of us here.

Well I broke last night. Sigh. Couple of cans of dps lager. I say a couple but it was actually 4. Not good for my alcohol intake or waistline.

However. It does mean I will hopefully be AF tonight instead. And am not having wine tomorrow either. Busy on Saturday with another softplay hell party about 30 minutes away in a place I hate driving to too. So want a clear head for that.

Feeling slightly rough still. Not sure if it os hangover or bug. Probably a combination of both. Sigh.

Staying strong but it's bloody hard.

Sipping water. Wanting gin. Fml.

You can do it, Frouby. Unlike me, at the moment. FML several times over.

Anglaise, I personally find your posts very helpful.

I’ve failed.
Went to an exercise class in a hotel with a friend. After, I went to the loo and came back to meet her in the bar and she’s ordered me a large Pinot!! Jeeeeez!!!!!!
Came home and had another!! Now doing all I can to distract myself from having a third!!!!!!! 😫😫

Frouby
I don't have to do soft play centres anymore, maybe that is why I don't crave wine any more
Athena thanks, I think it is great that everyone here is at least aware of the amount of alcohol they drink and want to cut down. As Pontius says everyone is in a different place.
I'm looking forward to a glass of red tomorrow evening, Saturday nothing as I'm driving and racing, so it will be a damp rather than wet weekend

anglaise1 I dont think you sound smug. Keep posting.
I've managed my 4 days alcohol free but that is mainly down to the fact that my anxiety hasn't been too bad this week. Who knows how I would have been otherwise.
I have been having dinner quite early which puts me off drinking.
There is a nice bottle of fizz in the fridge for tomorrow night which will last me 2 nights but at the mo I'm not that bothered about having it. I probably will though.
I'm not particularly proud of myself as my attitude to drinking is all wrong, ie I drink to calm down, not because its nice. Still been having the early evening cravings.

I managed dinner with friends with no booze last night. It was fine, but I was definitely more fidgety during the post dinner chat - whereas I'd normally happily kick back with a glass or two and chat for ages. Away this weekend with boozy friends. I want to get a strategy in place so that I can join in but have a stop point. I don't really want to have The 'I'm cutting down' conversation as I'm pretty sure that they will take that as a challenge!

God damn you and your meal deal M and S.

God damn you.

That is all.