[quote Jellycatspyjamas]**@jellycatspyjamas I do not know one single parent of young children in real life who drink in the way this thread suggests,
I’m not going to feed the troll but @calmandhappy I am going to ask you to explain this comment made on the first page. At this point there were two posts which referred to alcohol - one by @percypetulant** making reference to a glass of wine while cooking, and one by me “wine, more wine than you can imagine”. Neither suggested a “way of drinking” - my comment was intended to be lighthearted and was taken as such by the people on this thread who know me through my posting here. You keep insisting that folk here are using alcohol as a crutch - where’s your evidence for that? Where is your evidence that people are drinking because they are triggered in some way rather than just winding down at the end of the day (as many parent do)?
No one here has posted anything that would suggest problematic alcohol use - show me where you think they have.[/quote]
calling someone a troll is really fucking rude jellycat, you might not think you are ripping someone to shreds here, but you often do, you are often really fucking rude - or is that just to people who disagree with you?
to answer your question, read back. I asked if the comments about drinking were a joke, and you responded by calling me judgemental (NB I was not being judgemental, I had asked a question) and then talking about a situation where your ad had become very upset and you said - your words - you had a glass of wine afterwards and that I should be understanding of that. I am not understanding of that and you can dress this up any way you like, move goal posts, be insulting, name call, but you yourself said you dealt with a distressing situation by going to get a glass of wine.
I just do not know, personally, ie within my circle, any parent who would even think about getting a glass of wine in that situation, and yes, whether you like it or not, you reaching for the wine in that moment is you using alcohol inappropriately as a crutch. You did not describe you getting a wee bit tipsy over the turkey cooking and dancing around to a jazzy version of "White Christmas", you referred to you using alcohol as a coping strategy.
And @percypetulant recommended drink, and said a glass of wine when cooking dinner helped her.
I am sorry but these are your (you and percy) own words. You are being abusive to me for asking a simple question - were these jokes - and then saying that if not you are using alcohol as a crutch, simple as that.
I have been around here long enough to know how these threads go and basically I am willing to make the point over and over in the hope that it gets through to you at some point in the future.